I mean I find it so painfully boring. But I suck it up and go.

(High school lacrosse).

How can so many of you go to all games? Usually I don't get off of work until after the game ends.

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Anonymous wrote:Some kids have parents who rarely show up. It strikes me as very sad.

I remember seeing the Dad of one of DS' soccer teammates sitting in his truck watching TV on his phone during a game.

It was honestly one of the saddest things I've ever seen

Don't judge. Some parents have disabilities or ailments that prevent then from walking/standing/sitting for long periods so they stay in the car.

Nope. I will 100% judge this man

He had no disability. He just didn't like soccer and felt his interests were more important than watching his son.

DP. I don't think you have to be judging necessarily to feel sorry for the kids, you know?

Sure. And you're right. I was more responding to the poster that told me not to judge, than actually talking about how I felt in the moment. In the moment, I was more sad for the kid.

But at the same time, I did judge that Dad. I texted my spouse and told him how upsetting it was. And I thought less of him as a father. For some reason, the idea of "judging" has become a bad one in all situations. And thats not right; sometimes people deserve to get judged. I don't feel bad about judging that person and thinking less of them as a father.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some kids have parents who rarely show up. It strikes me as very sad.

I remember seeing the Dad of one of DS' soccer teammates sitting in his truck watching TV on his phone during a game.

It was honestly one of the saddest things I've ever seen

Don't judge. Some parents have disabilities or ailments that prevent then from walking/standing/sitting for long periods so they stay in the car.

Nope. I will 100% judge this man

He had no disability. He just didn't like soccer and felt his interests were more important than watching his son.

DP. I don't think you have to be judging necessarily to feel sorry for the kids, you know?

Nope. I go to one game per season.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some kids have parents who rarely show up. It strikes me as very sad.

I remember seeing the Dad of one of DS' soccer teammates sitting in his truck watching TV on his phone during a game.

It was honestly one of the saddest things I've ever seen

Don't judge. Some parents have disabilities or ailments that prevent then from walking/standing/sitting for long periods so they stay in the car.

Nope. I will 100% judge this man

He had no disability. He just didn't like soccer and felt his interests were more important than watching his son.

It goes down in the DM

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Anonymous wrote:I go to every game. I show support regardless of my own feelings.

Avoidance is a terrible way to deal with anxiety disorder and actually contributes to it.

If you had a valid reason to not go fine but I’m too anxious… nope.

Google it if you can’t read this

https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/06/16/avoidance-not-anxiety-patterns-strategies/

To be clear I ALWAYS go. I hate every minute of it.

You’re really too emotionally connected to the situation. Do you know why?

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Anonymous wrote:Some kids have parents who rarely show up. It strikes me as very sad.

I remember seeing the Dad of one of DS' soccer teammates sitting in his truck watching TV on his phone during a game.

It was honestly one of the saddest things I've ever seen

Ugh, yes! My daughter had a teammate whose mom came to most things. Dad generally went with the son but if he came to the daughter's games, he sat in his car looking at his phone most of the time! I always wondered if that is what he did at his son's games.

Also, as an aside, I always find it so odd when it is a family of four and dad is always with son and mom is always with daughter. We have a boy and a girl and both of us go to as much as we can but when we have to divide up, we alternate who goes with which kid.

Stop judging . Maybe you need a hobby

^^^
Ugh, misread what the above was replying to.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some kids have parents who rarely show up. It strikes me as very sad.

I remember seeing the Dad of one of DS' soccer teammates sitting in his truck watching TV on his phone during a game.

It was honestly one of the saddest things I've ever seen

Don't judge. Some parents have disabilities or ailments that prevent then from walking/standing/sitting for long periods so they stay in the car.

The mom told DH she had been golfing during the game, so...it wasn't that. Maybe it was something else.

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Anonymous wrote:Some kids have parents who rarely show up. It strikes me as very sad.

I remember seeing the Dad of one of DS' soccer teammates sitting in his truck watching TV on his phone during a game.

It was honestly one of the saddest things I've ever seen

Don't judge. Some parents have disabilities or ailments that prevent then from walking/standing/sitting for long periods so they stay in the car.

I go to all practices and games. Have never missed one. We just came back from Michigan. I want to be there to support my kid and his teammates win or lose!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some kids have parents who rarely show up. It strikes me as very sad.

I remember seeing the Dad of one of DS' soccer teammates sitting in his truck watching TV on his phone during a game.

It was honestly one of the saddest things I've ever seen

Ugh, yes! My daughter had a teammate whose mom came to most things. Dad generally went with the son but if he came to the daughter's games, he sat in his car looking at his phone most of the time! I always wondered if that is what he did at his son's games.

Also, as an aside, I always find it so odd when it is a family of four and dad is always with son and mom is always with daughter. We have a boy and a girl and both of us go to as much as we can but when we have to divide up, we alternate who goes with which kid.

Anonymous wrote:I usually go to the games but if I don’t, my husband will or sometimes my sister.

My son pitches. I get nervous. My husband, however, does not as he says he’s not the one out there pitching so why should he get nervous

My son pitches too. I get super stressed and nervous until I see him settle in, and then I enjoy it if he’s having a good game. If he has a bad outing I have found that deep breathing and meditation and reminding myself that for my son a bad day on the mound is better than a good day with no baseball. I am not my son, and it’s kind of presumptuous to feel things on his behalf. Still, I struggle.