They likely have a photo of the envelope. Ask to see it and does it match your child’s handwriting.

Anonymous wrote:As a business owner, I've had a couple of odd encounters with local police. I finally determined that generally they're doing it on their own for a family member or a friend.

Probably the other "kid" is the cop's niece or friend of a friend. The whole story may be a ruse to cover up something by the other "kid". Kid in quotes because maybe the cop buddy's wife is having an affair and he tracked her phone near your house. Then cop needed a reason to make contact.

Interesting take.

As a business owner, I've had a couple of odd encounters with local police. I finally determined that generally they're doing it on their own for a family member or a friend.

Probably the other "kid" is the cop's niece or friend of a friend. The whole story may be a ruse to cover up something by the other "kid". Kid in quotes because maybe the cop buddy's wife is having an affair and he tracked her phone near your house. Then cop needed a reason to make contact.

Maybe a slightly older teen neighbor (old enough to know how to access everything necessary for that) using really poor judgment for a stupid prank.

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Anonymous wrote:So, they did send an officer, but the parents don’t want to press charges and they were just coming over to investigate who “Jane Doe” was? Now it’s even more bizarre! What if WE want to escalate this now? Someone roped our DD into this!

you called law enforcement and they told you that?

You do know that it’s not local police who investigate these kind of crimes, right?

I assume they escalate it. If I receive suspicious mail, I’m not calling the FBI. I’m calling my local police and expect them to hand it off to the correct authorities. But they make the initial contacts.

Yes, they escalate it... the local PD doesn't come knocking on your door just to ask if you have a kid who sent prn and then take your word for it. This story is VERY sus.

Anonymous wrote:Wait, you tell the police officer that your child didn’t do this, they take your word and leave your porch? Wouldn’t they want to talk to your child? Why would the police believe you? Everyone says they didn’t do the crime.

Pro tip: deny it and you're innocent

Op, the culprit is probably some creepy adult. I know many 10/11/12 year olds and none would even consider doing this much less knowledge to follow through.

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Anonymous wrote:The most difficult thing to believe is that a 10-year-old knows the USPS exists.

This. My kid is 11 and would have no idea how to do this. Has he mailed letters? A few. But with my help. Even if he googled how to mail a letter, he has no idea where the envelopes and stamps are (if we even have any). And our printer is in DHs office and the only computers hooked up to it are DHs, which DS does not know the password of

I think you have to consider the real possibility that an adult sent these and used your kid as a scapegoat.

Seriously? WTH is wrong with your kids if they don’t know how to mail something at 11 y.o.?

Are you for real?

DS knows how to address it and where to put a stamp. He does not know where the envelopes or stamps are. He knows you mail a letter by putting it one of the "big blue mail box things" (I asked him) but would not know off the top of his head that you could leave an envelope in our mailbox to be picked up and mailed.

I did something stupid as a kid that could have had really bad consequences if it went a different way. Here is how my parents handled getting the truth (I didn't want to tell them because I knew I and my friend would be in big trouble)

My parents sat me down and reiterated multiple times that I wouldn't get in trouble if I was honest about what happened. They said it was a serious issue and they needed to know the truth. I told them . We had a LONG discussion about the severity of what could have happened and all that, but in the end, they held their end of the deal and I didn't get in trouble. They certainly scared me enough with the "what ifs". Anyways, it also laid out a good foundation going forward that I could go to them with things and not always suffer a consequence (like when I was 16 and at a friend's party and called them to come get us because there had been drinking and I didn't want anyone to drive).

So this is what I would do with your kid. Just see if there is any chance she got roped into doing something stupid. But make it very clear she's not going to get in trouble.

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Anonymous wrote:The most difficult thing to believe is that a 10-year-old knows the USPS exists.

This. My kid is 11 and would have no idea how to do this. Has he mailed letters? A few. But with my help. Even if he googled how to mail a letter, he has no idea where the envelopes and stamps are (if we even have any). And our printer is in DHs office and the only computers hooked up to it are DHs, which DS does not know the password of

I think you have to consider the real possibility that an adult sent these and used your kid as a scapegoat.

Seriously? WTH is wrong with your kids if they don’t know how to mail something at 11 y.o.?

Are you for real?

Anonymous wrote:The most difficult thing to believe is that a 10-year-old knows the USPS exists.

My DH's 24-yr old nephew didn't know how to address an envelope. Yeah, I get that that says more about him than it does about this situation -- but kids don't mail stuff anymore. A 10-yr old isn't going to know how to do it, or even think of doing it.

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Anonymous wrote:The most difficult thing to believe is that a 10-year-old knows the USPS exists.

This. My kid is 11 and would have no idea how to do this. Has he mailed letters? A few. But with my help. Even if he googled how to mail a letter, he has no idea where the envelopes and stamps are (if we even have any). And our printer is in DHs office and the only computers hooked up to it are DHs, which DS does not know the password of

I think you have to consider the real possibility that an adult sent these and used your kid as a scapegoat.

This. We don’t have stamps at our house (I don’t think, if we do, they are in a pile somewhere). We may have a couple envelopes, but I’m not even sure where those are either. I guarantee my 12yo doesn’t know where. I mail things from work or, I buy stamps on the spot from the kiosk at USPS. Our printer is also locked behind a password in our office. DH is the only one who prints things.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to have a very serious discussion with your daughter. You need to really determine if she is being truthful or not.

Which is more likely?

1) that your daughter is the victim of some crazy elaborate conspiracy involving sending porn to some random kid (who had to be identified and located) and drawing the police in…

Or

2) your daughter sent some porn to a kid she knew.




Seems pretty clear which is the more simplistic of the two scenarios.

How would she have done this though when I’m always with her. She’s not a popular girl, doesn’t do sports, and is always home. She attends a dance class and piano lessons but I drive her there and stay the whole time. We don’t even have a printer to print porn. Where would she have printed it? How would she have mailed it? We don’t even have stamps, I autopay everything.

OP you haven't address option #2: DH did it.

Why would DH use a return address that could be linked to their home? It just doesn’t make sense.

Anonymous wrote:The most difficult thing to believe is that a 10-year-old knows the USPS exists.

This. My kid is 11 and would have no idea how to do this. Has he mailed letters? A few. But with my help. Even if he googled how to mail a letter, he has no idea where the envelopes and stamps are (if we even have any). And our printer is in DHs office and the only computers hooked up to it are DHs, which DS does not know the password of

I think you have to consider the real possibility that an adult sent these and used your kid as a scapegoat.

Anonymous wrote:The most difficult thing to believe is that a 10-year-old knows the USPS exists.

Seriously, people are insane. The odds the 10yo and her friends facilitated and pulled this off are very slim.

The most difficult thing to believe is that a 10-year-old knows the USPS exists.