Anonymous
Post 02/13/2024 08:06     Subject: Re:I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Not complaining just saying. I can attract women who are either cute but broke with no career prospects, or have a good career but aren’t conventionally attractive. This is because I’m not a terribly attractive man myself due to some genetically determined features that I can’t control (being vague here on purpose).

I have dated both types but I find myself happier with the cute broke women. Why is this?


Is this really hard for you to figure out? Either: broke women see you as someone who has something they want (financial stability), and therefore overlook your self-assessed lack of attractiveness. Or, the women who are actually interested in you are slotted into some “cute” or “broke” category and you’re the type of guy who isn’t satisfied with what’s in front of him, and assume that if someone likes you, you can do better.

A lot of men, especially as they age, assume they can punch above their weight. It usually doesn’t end well.

Women are more than their looks or their job. As are you. I’d start there.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2024 06:45     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Short men need to seal the deal in college when being short might be endearing to some cute women, or make $$$$.

OP at 33, you have really missed the window. I advise actually trying to date divorced women with kids.


You're ridiculous


NP. Nah, she's pretty spot on.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2024 06:39     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Why do you think you deserve a woman who is both attractive and wealthy and successful? What do you offer her in return?
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2024 06:31     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
What’s love got to do with it?
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2024 04:16     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
No woman for you! Next!
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2024 02:34     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Anonymous wrote:Short men need to seal the deal in college when being short might be endearing to some cute women, or make $$$$.

OP at 33, you have really missed the window. I advise actually trying to date divorced women with kids.


You're ridiculous
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2024 02:34     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, well, marriage is a market. And clearly you only have a certain amount of "buying power."

My advice is this: bear in mind that looks fade.


It can go either way though... if a woman isn't attractive in her 20s-30s things typically go downhill pretty quickly making the situation even worse whereas many attractive women try to maintain their looks


I was fat in my 20s and most of my 30s. Slim and attractive in my late 30s and early 40s
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2024 02:25     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Short men need to seal the deal in college when being short might be endearing to some cute women, or make $$$$.

OP at 33, you have really missed the window. I advise actually trying to date divorced women with kids.
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2024 01:04     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
You sound lazy. Either way you need to make more money so get off your a**
Anonymous
Post 02/13/2024 00:39     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Can you get surgery to take off the features?


Not an option unfortunately


Short and bald?
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 23:57     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Anonymous wrote:Not complaining just saying. I can attract women who are either cute but broke with no career prospects, or have a good career but aren’t conventionally attractive. This is because I’m not a terribly attractive man myself due to some genetically determined features that I can’t control (being vague here on purpose).

I have dated both types but I find myself happier with the cute broke women. Why is this?


that's the only dimensions you look at in your self or others: career and looks.

good luck with that dude.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 23:21     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Anonymous wrote:If you can afford a cute broke woman, I think you're golden, OP. I'm cute and haven't worked in years. DH is fine with it.


OP, I hear there are many attractive Nannies out here. 💄
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 22:19     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Anonymous wrote:Yeah, well, marriage is a market. And clearly you only have a certain amount of "buying power."

My advice is this: bear in mind that looks fade.


It can go either way though... if a woman isn't attractive in her 20s-30s things typically go downhill pretty quickly making the situation even worse whereas many attractive women try to maintain their looks
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 22:11     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Yeah, well, marriage is a market. And clearly you only have a certain amount of "buying power."

My advice is this: bear in mind that looks fade.
Anonymous
Post 02/12/2024 22:08     Subject: I can have a woman with a good career or good looks but not both
Life about more than your job. Besides, work ages you. You look older sooner, due to stress.

OP, go with the fun person!