Does anyone have a clue? I was at Nemacolin last summer and upscale weddings they charge one million. Run of mill weddings $250,000.

Anonymous wrote:Why does it matter how many people in the family are invited? Hosts don’t expect to be “reimbursed” via gifts …

I’d suggest $500 in this situation.

I got married in 1998 and $500 was going rate for families. I had a very modest wedding but even in 1998 cost me around $100 a person just for actually meal. Add in DJ, limos, flowers, hosting rehearsal dinner my mom doing breakfast next day it was like $150 a person in 1998.

We were paying out own wedding and at time I made $55k and wife made 55k. So yea be nice to at least cover the food you are. $500 a family of five in 1998 was good as covered most of cost. Today in 2024 $500 is a restaurant bill for a family in a nice restaurant sadly.

When I got married 5 years ago in DC, cash gifts ranged from $100 to $300. Our friends were mostly lawyers in their 30s. But not big law.

Anonymous wrote:In my circle standard is to give $1K to nieces and nephews, $500 to kids of close friends, $250 to random invites. We are UMC in 50's.

This is what we do.

Anonymous wrote:If you can afford it, I try to cover our cost of the meal (@ $100/pp) + gift ($100-200) to be generous.

Give what you can - just don't be a blatant ass ($10/pp doesn't cover Subway meal).

Presbyterian and we do not expect guests to cover cost of their meal! Guests are invited because we want them to share our joy and not rib their bank account!

Give what you can afford!

If you can afford it, I try to cover our cost of the meal (@ $100/pp) + gift ($100-200) to be generous.

Give what you can - just don't be a blatant ass ($10/pp doesn't cover Subway meal).

Anonymous wrote:no less than 500

+1

I basically give $250 per family member attending if it is in a luxury hotel. If it is a budget wedding then I give $100-$150. If it is a DIY backyard wedding, I give $50.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate no kid weddings. How big is your family? We have 40+ cousins marrying in the next 10 years. So, we limit to $100. In your position, $300 but find a nice gift for the couple to remember the occasion.

OP wants to be perceived as generous but not ostentatious. $300 for the whole family when kids are not otherwise invited will not accomplish that. She doesn't want to look like a cheapskate ($300).

There are two different posters being replied to. One is shocked by the higher figures but that is not OP.

Everyone on this thread is NEW money.

Upon consulting the experts, a wedding gift should range from $75 to $750—but most agree that $300+ is the sweet spot. -Emily Post

I think the $500-$1,000 people are on track. A decade ago, my closest aunts and uncles gave me and DH around $500 per family for our wedding.

DH and I are late 30s and don’t have a ton of disposable income by DCUM standards. However, we gave DHs sister $700 for her recent wedding. That’s by no means what we give at any old wedding! But OP said it’s someone dear to them.

That is why you purchase a gift, no cash. People appreciate the memories of a gift and no one knows how much you spent.

Anonymous wrote:I hate no kid weddings. How big is your family? We have 40+ cousins marrying in the next 10 years. So, we limit to $100. In your position, $300 but find a nice gift for the couple to remember the occasion.

OP wants to be perceived as generous but not ostentatious. $300 for the whole family when kids are not otherwise invited will not accomplish that. She doesn't want to look like a cheapskate ($300).