Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 17:36     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have said : "That's rude".

Look them straight in the eye and watch them squirm.


I’ve found this works really well with boomer women. They can’t handle the directness of being told to stop this behavior. They 100% know that what they are saying is obnoxious, rude or even hurtful but they wrap it up in some cutesy or nonchalant comment expecting the receiver to smile and just accept the wet noodle they just threw at you. Well being direct ends the little game and lobs that wet noodle back in their lap.


Ageism. That's rude.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 17:16     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:"What a nice thing to say"



I like this the best. That will shut it down
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 17:11     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
My mom used to do this to me. Complaining and nitpicking is basically the only way she knows how to converse. I shut it down by repeating what I heard so much growing up.
My house. My rules.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 17:09     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have said : "That's rude".

Look them straight in the eye and watch them squirm.


I’ve found this works really well with boomer women. They can’t handle the directness of being told to stop this behavior. They 100% know that what they are saying is obnoxious, rude or even hurtful but they wrap it up in some cutesy or nonchalant comment expecting the receiver to smile and just accept the wet noodle they just threw at you. Well being direct ends the little game and lobs that wet noodle back in their lap.


Works well with anyone, even noodles.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 17:08     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:Stare blankly at the person for 3 seconds, then completely ignore the comment.


This, then walk away and talk to someone else.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 16:02     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:I have said : "That's rude".

Look them straight in the eye and watch them squirm.


I’ve found this works really well with boomer women. They can’t handle the directness of being told to stop this behavior. They 100% know that what they are saying is obnoxious, rude or even hurtful but they wrap it up in some cutesy or nonchalant comment expecting the receiver to smile and just accept the wet noodle they just threw at you. Well being direct ends the little game and lobs that wet noodle back in their lap.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 13:43     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Carry around a Yellow Card. Flash it when this happens. On it, it says "Is it True? Is it Necessary? Is it Kind?"


They aren't first graders.

Op try "I'll thank you now not to be so rude. Got it? Good. Now, how about the weather/those Chiefs/ Aunt Greta's boil?...." Anything to change the subject.


Works in soccer. Even grown men.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 13:37     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
I have an acquaintance like this. She prides herself on being a big church goer and Christian. I typically say, "what a very unchristian thing to say." it really shuts her up.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 13:32     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
"Sorry to hear you feel that way. Anyway, ..."
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 13:27     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I say, "That's funny, I don't remember asking for your opinion."


I say this to my mom and her answer is "Well I was just trying to help. Nobody else is going to be honest or say it to your face. That's my job." So, no, that doesn't work on everyone it just leads to doubling down.


"And my job is to protect myself and my family from rude, unkind people. So you can either apologize and stop this immature behavior, or you can leave. If you leave, you won't be coming back until you apologize. What's your choice, apologize and stay, or leave now?"
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 12:32     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
I have said : "That's rude".

Look them straight in the eye and watch them squirm.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 12:32     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I like "Thats not a very nice thing to say"

I said this, and the reply was, "I'm not very nice."

How old is this person? How close of a relative are they? How often do you see them?
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 12:30     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
Anonymous wrote:I say, "That's funny, I don't remember asking for your opinion."


I say this to my mom and her answer is "Well I was just trying to help. Nobody else is going to be honest or say it to your face. That's my job." So, no, that doesn't work on everyone it just leads to doubling down.
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 12:28     Subject: How to shut down critical comments?
"Here's your coat. Don't call me, I'll call you."
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 11:41     Subject: Re:How to shut down critical comments?
My aunts like to comment that I gained a few pounds, "Oh you got so big!" So I say, "Ohh you look so old!"