Yes, me same exact boat but I'm the wife. Wanna be my fling? The way I see it, I was faithful as hell for 15 years. He's the one that unilaterally changed the terms, boundaries, and standards of our marriage.

OP here, what people are forgetting is that I believe she is a wonderful person that made a mistake. A mistake that I will try to forgive.

For me to forgive, I need to feel less holy. Having a fling is my way of doing that.

Anonymous wrote:In a long term marriage where things got routine combined with family stress. My wife had an affair with someone out of town.

I’ve decided to forgive her and stay together. But I’m going to have a few flings in order to allow me to move forward and reduce the pain.

Has anyone been in a similar situation?

What a twisted, immature logic .

This can only damage your marriage and reduce the likelihood of you two having a future.

I really suggest you get therapy.

Go for it. She had her fun. Now it's your turn. At very least, don't turn down any opportunities you would have in the past. She opened that door for you. She will likely cheat again. Why should you remain faithful?

Anonymous wrote:Dude, everybody freaks out on here about affairs. This is going to piss some people off, but get over it. Affairs are honestly not that big of a deal. People have made it a big deal in their heads when it's really not. Hell, people in France have lovers and it's widely accepted.

Or the snail trail between the legs…some other guy’s. Nasty

Anonymous wrote:Dude, everybody freaks out on here about affairs. This is going to piss some people off, but get over it. Affairs are honestly not that big of a deal. People have made it a big deal in their heads when it's really not. Hell, people in France have lovers and it's widely accepted.

People in France get just as upset to learn about betrayal in a marriage.

This stupid glorification of French movies and folklore is ridiculous. Plus: this is America.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In a long term marriage where things got routine combined with family stress. My wife had an affair with someone out of town.

I’ve decided to forgive her and stay together. But I’m going to have a few flings in order to allow me to move forward and reduce the pain.

Has anyone been in a similar situation?

You’re an idiot for staying. Really pu$$boy? Every time you kiss her, I hope you think about her lips on some other dudes junk. Ball$ in her face.

Mostly agree. Plus, she’s going to cheat again.

Dude, everybody freaks out on here about affairs. This is going to piss some people off, but get over it. Affairs are honestly not that big of a deal. People have made it a big deal in their heads when it's really not. Hell, people in France have lovers and it's widely accepted.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a couple where the wife had a 5 yr passionate affair with a coworker. When her H found out he fought hard to keep her and save the marriage, they had elementary age kids.

He did not have a revenge affair because he was the one wanting to save the marriage the most, she might have actually walked if he had done that.

The outcome is they have been married for many years after the affair. They appear to be very happy.

Is this you? Are you one of the people in this couple? I’m flabbergasted by the types of details people seem to know about other people’s marriages. Especially this story, which this poster posts often.

EXACTLY. Let's be honest, my DH and I also appear to be very happy. But you JUST.DON'T.KNOW.

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Anonymous wrote:With who? Middle aged married dads are not in high demand.

Who do you think his middle-aged married wife slept with? lol There is a website all those losers frequent.

Exactly—middle aged married loser wives.

So how will losing your own integrity help?

Anonymous wrote:Didn’t someone just post about this exact scenario or very close to it a few weeks ago?

Troll always regurgitates a few previous posts in one. Then sock puppets totally outlandish additional made up stuff. Same writing style too. And the lack of common sense slips them up quickly.

Anonymous wrote:With who? Middle aged married dads are not in high demand.

Lol

Didn’t someone just post about this exact scenario or very close to it a few weeks ago?

Anonymous wrote:In a long term marriage where things got routine combined with family stress. My wife had an affair with someone out of town.

I’ve decided to forgive her and stay together. But I’m going to have a few flings in order to allow me to move forward and reduce the pain.

Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Been there, didn’t do that. If you’re going to make this marriage work, your wife and you have to be totally engaged to the relationship. Sure, you may be able to have an unemotional fling (I think I could) but unless you’re an Adonis you’re going to have to invest time and effort into finding someone to have that fling with and that will take your emotional energy away from your marriage. I wouldn’t judge you if you want to go ahead with the flings, I’ve certainly thought about it, but realize that you may be sacrificing your marriage for them.