Anonymous wrote:The boys are terrified of accusations of sexual assault and that’s frankly realistic.

+100

College it’s very tricky.

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Anonymous wrote:To the boy moms worried about how scared their kid is of being accused of sexual assault…good! They should all (whatever the relationship) understand consent and that anything other than a clear yes is a no, and everyone should know and be responsible for giving clear yes.

This isn’t something to be afraid of or make excuses to hold back happening.

In the board room, exam room, classroom…society should learn how to give and receive consent. Period.

The new riot act is no drunk girls. But just saying that pretty much would have excluded all of my college hook ups.

And just saying with the new riot act, the only people hooking up less are the nice boys LOL. I think this is an interesting topic all over the place.

At this point my older son already went to school but I’m virtually certain that he reported that they don’t play slow songs at dances anymore.

When I was in middle school band, and we went on trips, I was definitely playing spin, the bottle and truth, or dare at the back of the bus. When I chaperone MS field trips now there is 100% no one making out at the back of the bus. On the one hand that sounds better but on the other hand, I’m honestly not all that sure that it is in the long run.

Anonymous wrote:To the boy moms worried about how scared their kid is of being accused of sexual assault…good! They should all (whatever the relationship) understand consent and that anything other than a clear yes is a no, and everyone should know and be responsible for giving clear yes.

This isn’t something to be afraid of or make excuses to hold back happening.

In the board room, exam room, classroom…society should learn how to give and receive consent. Period.

The new riot act is no drunk girls. But just saying that pretty much would have excluded all of my college hook ups.

Anonymous wrote:That’s so sad that the boys feel that way. It’s American society and that whole MeToo movement that went a tad too far.

It’s boys not being taught what “no” means or learning about sex from YouTube.

I am not seeing this. DS has kissed a girl (in the school library no less!). Some of his friends have girlfriends.

One thing that is different, and I think positive, is that they seem to have more girls who are friends and part of their group. We didn’t have this as much in my generation.

To the boy moms worried about how scared their kid is of being accused of sexual assault…good! They should all (whatever the relationship) understand consent and that anything other than a clear yes is a no, and everyone should know and be responsible for giving clear yes.

This isn’t something to be afraid of or make excuses to hold back happening.

In the board room, exam room, classroom…society should learn how to give and receive consent. Period.

My 16 year old DS told me that one thing he is afraid of regarding relationships is that he'll get sent a revealing pic and then be in possession of CP. Also doesn't want to make any first moves to avoid being accused of anything. He said he feels more comfortable about having a relationship after he turns 18.

Anonymous wrote:I have a 21 yo and a 23 yo. Neither had any high school boyfriends or girlfriends but both have/had healthy long-term relationships in college. Their friends also followed a similar pattern. I think that dating just starts at a later age than it did in the past.

And this is how it always was. I’m Gen X. Lots of kids didn’t date at all and lots did in high school.

Writing off a whole generation is ridiculous. If your kid doesn’t date or go to parties or engage in person with the opposite gender look at your own kid and situation and ask why and also don’t worry about it. They’ll get there.

I have a 10th grader who’s dating an 11th grader for 8 months so far. They go on dates such as movies and out to eat, they buy each other flowers, they go to dances together, etc.
It seems like a regular, high school romance between 2 nice kids.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids slow danced, held hands, went to movies, went on dates,parties, did field of scream type dates, took metro to dc with girlfriend on dates, went to dances, went out to eat, played sports (tennis, golf, volleyball)

Why are you kids not doing these things?

What year were kids teens - how old are they now? I’m responding about a current 14 year old 9th grader.

My kids are 19 and 21, they were in HS recently.

This is your child, maybe they just aren't into it, maybe they are shy, idk.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m all for girl power but my son and his friends tried to ask girls to the 9th grade dance earlier this year - and they all got rejected for girls going with their friends. I’m not sure when they’ll have the courage to ask again. They don’t need to say yes - they should do what they want - but just pointing out the dynamics of what happened.

If they were part of the girls friends group they would have been going with them.

I drove two boys and two girls to the dance - none going as dates. But everyone was perfectly nice. In my day they would have just been paired up as as friend dates in that situation.

I grew up in the 80's and we never did dates F/S year, more so junior/senior year even if they were just friends.

I have a 21 yo and a 23 yo. Neither had any high school boyfriends or girlfriends but both have/had healthy long-term relationships in college. Their friends also followed a similar pattern. I think that dating just starts at a later age than it did in the past.

There are kids doing these things. Your kids aren’t. Which is fine too.

Many of them are dating, having sex, all of it.

Anonymous wrote:My kids slow danced, held hands, went to movies, went on dates,parties, did field of scream type dates, took metro to dc with girlfriend on dates, went to dances, went out to eat, played sports (tennis, golf, volleyball)

Why are you kids not doing these things?

What year were kids teens - how old are they now? I’m responding about a current 14 year old 9th grader.