How sad and cynical so many posters are. No wonder our society’s in a shambles. Does love mean nothing?

I actually found myself thinking this about a friend I went to HS with.
She married at 18 (which we all knew was doomed) and divorced at 23, then went on to get a graduate degree and marry again to a guy who has her same career, and they had a family together. The two kids are now in college and she divorced at 46. She started a guy who shares one of her outdoor hobbies and they just got engaged.
But I don’t get the point. Obviously, to her, marriage is “for now” not “for life” so why do it? Why not just live together til she’s done being with the guy who fits this particular phase of life?

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Anonymous wrote:I see this thinking a lot on DCUM. I’m remarried as are many of my divorced friends. You marry for the same reasons you married the first time - love, commitment, financial incentives and security.

The only people I know that aren’t remarried as those who are only dating casually or not at all.

I married the first time because I wanted to be a mother and have a family.
Now I have those things. So, what’s the point?

Exactly. I’ve been free of my ex for six years now. I’ve gotten to focus on raising my kids and my own career, health and passions. I don’t date unless I meet someone wonderful, and hope to not even cohabitate again/ let alone remarry. I’m not losing half my stuff again, to anyone, thanks. I’m financially secure and happy. Why marry??

Lovers suf

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Anonymous wrote:Older women are desperate to remarry. You can marry someone, put up with them for 5 years or so and then inherit millions. It's a good financial plan for older women. You also can sometimes get pension and social security too.

Where can I meet a rich unhealthy guy?

MAGA rally.

Anonymous wrote:Women who don't get remarried are foolish. They are leaving a lot of money on the table.

Lol

Women who don't get remarried are foolish. They are leaving a lot of money on the table.

Anonymous wrote:In my divorce group there were two men who were so desperate to remarry that they would literally line up up to 10 dates a weekend…. Like 3 a day. And any woman that was willing to see them long enough to sleep with them, they considered as potential wife material. It was pathetic. One of them even said “I just want to get my life back to normal again.” And by normal, he meant married. He didn’t care who.

I had a friend who did that. He got married to a doctor and they were together until he died.

In my divorce group there were two men who were so desperate to remarry that they would literally line up up to 10 dates a weekend…. Like 3 a day. And any woman that was willing to see them long enough to sleep with them, they considered as potential wife material. It was pathetic. One of them even said “I just want to get my life back to normal again.” And by normal, he meant married. He didn’t care who.

My boyfriend's marriage ended badly (wife left him for a woman, and stuck him with a bunch of debt) so he'll likely never remarry. His wife remarried for health benefits. Most of my friends who divorce get married again because they don't want to be alone. Several friends are on marriage 3 or 4.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 44 and have been divorced for four years. I have two children and plenty of money of my own. I would never remarry because I wouldn’t want anyone else to have an avenue into my estate instead of my kids. I’ll happily shack up or just date around, but I will never remarry

Same. 46 year old woman. I don’t know any divorced women who want to remarry because they know it’s a bad idea.

My assumption is that women who want to remarry do so because they can’t support themselves. My assumption that men who remarry need an ego boost and can’t take care of themselves.

I see many more men remarrying than women. I can't imagine that I will ever remarry. I've been divorced for 14 years and have never been more content with my life. I am contemplating dating again but even that isn't all that appealing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Older women are desperate to remarry. You can marry someone, put up with them for 5 years or so and then inherit millions. It's a good financial plan for older women. You also can sometimes get pension and social security too.

Where can I meet a rich unhealthy guy?

I'm available.

Anonymous wrote:I will never ever marry again. I would rather turn gay and marry a man than marry another woman. I will shamelessly admit that I don’t have what it takes to make a woman happy. When you think you have genuinely tried to be a good husband, a good father, a loyal spouse, and still get told after 25 years marriage that they want to go in a different direction it hurts. And then you get savagely destroyed financially no thanks I am good.

My best friend could have have said what you just said. Honestly I don’t know why women are still seeking for men to marry. Marriage doesn’t work for women, they end up disappointed. What women are hoping to get out a marriage, very few men have it takes.

I will never ever marry again. I would rather turn gay and marry a man than marry another woman. I will shamelessly admit that I don’t have what it takes to make a woman happy. When you think you have genuinely tried to be a good husband, a good father, a loyal spouse, and still get told after 25 years marriage that they want to go in a different direction it hurts. And then you get savagely destroyed financially no thanks I am good.

I’m 44 and have been divorced for four years. I have two children and plenty of money of my own. I would never remarry because I wouldn’t want anyone else to have an avenue into my estate instead of my kids. I’ll happily shack up or just date around, but I will never remarry