Give him a couple days to sulk/be sad and then start getting him excited about UGA. Also have him go visit UMD with an open mind. Maybe he might change his mind. Also the deferrals may change into acceptances (but don’t plan for it). My kid was deferred in EA last year from both Wisconsin and Michigan and got accepted in RD. Good Luck! It is hard to face the rejections, especially multiple in a day

Deferral does not equal WL. You can get accepted at RD, denied, or moved to WL.

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Anonymous wrote:I hear great things about UMD. Also that friends' kids from other schools (U of Richmond esp) are up visiting their UMD friends very very frequently - College Park is considered more fun!
It's a great education. All good

I went to UMD. Loved it. Son would choose UGA over it. It's more that wisconsin was perfect fit.

Honestly, it is hard to understand how/why any school is a perfect fit. How could Wisc really be so different from another flagship. Is there an industry or company based in Madison or the Midwest that recruits only from Wisc? Is there some niche degree / specialty only offered by Wisc?

It is such an unhealthy viewpoint and rarely makes any sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Right there with you. Deferred from Michigan -- legacy, NYC private, all the right stats and ECs and just a kid who worked so hard. His high school counselor was pushing him to ED a tougher school but he has always wanted Michigan. It's just so hard to see kids who have worked for something not get it. It's ok to be sad for a couple of days (I think it hasn't hit him yet - he's still stunned despite me trying ot prepare him) and then I agree we pull it together and it's onward to the next round. The kicker is, my ds' girlfriend got in, she didn't submit test scores and she doesn't even really want to go. It was a rough night here.

Many deferrals turn into acceptances at Michigan. I’m glad he didn’t ED to a tougher school.

According to their Common Data Set, they took 77 off a wait list of 15,076 last year. I wouldn't call that 'many'.

https://obp.umich.edu/wp-content/uploads/pubdata/cds/cds_2022-2023_umaa.pdf

Waitlist and Deferral are NOT the same thing. Deferral means these kids will receive another decision in March. There are no published deferral>acceptance rates in CDS.

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Anonymous wrote:Right there with you. Deferred from Michigan -- legacy, NYC private, all the right stats and ECs and just a kid who worked so hard. His high school counselor was pushing him to ED a tougher school but he has always wanted Michigan. It's just so hard to see kids who have worked for something not get it. It's ok to be sad for a couple of days (I think it hasn't hit him yet - he's still stunned despite me trying ot prepare him) and then I agree we pull it together and it's onward to the next round. The kicker is, my ds' girlfriend got in, she didn't submit test scores and she doesn't even really want to go. It was a rough night here.

Many deferrals turn into acceptances at Michigan. I’m glad he didn’t ED to a tougher school.

According to their Common Data Set, they took 77 off a wait list of 15,076 last year. I wouldn't call that 'many'.

https://obp.umich.edu/wp-content/uploads/pubdata/cds/cds_2022-2023_umaa.pdf

A deferral is not a waitlist!

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Anonymous wrote:Right there with you. Deferred from Michigan -- legacy, NYC private, all the right stats and ECs and just a kid who worked so hard. His high school counselor was pushing him to ED a tougher school but he has always wanted Michigan. It's just so hard to see kids who have worked for something not get it. It's ok to be sad for a couple of days (I think it hasn't hit him yet - he's still stunned despite me trying ot prepare him) and then I agree we pull it together and it's onward to the next round. The kicker is, my ds' girlfriend got in, she didn't submit test scores and she doesn't even really want to go. It was a rough night here.

Many deferrals turn into acceptances at Michigan. I’m glad he didn’t ED to a tougher school.

According to their Common Data Set, they took 77 off a wait list of 15,076 last year. I wouldn't call that 'many'.

https://obp.umich.edu/wp-content/uploads/pubdata/cds/cds_2022-2023_umaa.pdf

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Anonymous wrote:What's wrong with UMD? It's a good school. OP is feeling miserable for no reason.

He doesn't want to go there. Isn't remotely excited. Likes UGA so it will be fine. Just disappointed about wisco. Don't care about Michigan.

dp.. my super high stats kid got rejected to the T15 he applied to (CS major). And I mean super high stats from a magnet program. He wanted to go oos.

He got deferred at Mich, and got into UMD. He was very upset for a couple of months.

Then UM came back, but by then DC decided UMD was fine. He didn't want the cold LOL. He is at UMD now. He told me a few weeks ago during winter break when we had all that snow that he hates walking in the snow. I said then it's a good thing he didn't pick UM.

He also has a chance to transfer to GTech if he wants to, but he said no. He likes UMD. He especially likes the 4+1 program, but he had enough credits going into freshman year that he can double major and graduate in 3 years, +1 masters. And he got merit. So, he will end up with 3 degrees all for under $120K. I mean.. not bad. The remainder of the 529 funds will go to his sibling, and we will give him the cash instead, and a car. That also greatly pleases him. I think for DS, the rejection was an ego killer given his super high stats.

So, even if your DS goes to UMD or UGA or wherever, I think it will work out. It's a big school, and football is big, but there are so many other things going on.

When DS was disappointed, I told him the same thing that I told him when he was going to HS. It is what you make of it. You can either be miserable, or you can seek opportunities, make connections, and choose to be happy.

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Anonymous wrote:Love your safety!

Wdym?

It means not to get your heart set on reaches and instead get just as excited about safeties. Kids get too enamored with one school. Love the safeties just as much and the disappointment won’t sting so badly.

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Anonymous wrote:UGA is better than Wisconsin.

In what way? Don't think that's accurate.

Visit UGA and you’ll see.

I visited UGA w him and loved. Agree. It's a super cute town and pretty campus (although frankly reminded me of Maryland). DH took him to Madison but loved the lake and the town and hockey vibe. I guess they're super similar. Someone said their academics are on par w TX. Not sure if that's true

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Anonymous wrote:UGA is better than Wisconsin.

In what way? Don't think that's accurate.

Visit UGA and you’ll see.

The whole system is a mess and it’s awful for these kids who have worked so hard. The only thing I would say since I spent most of yesterday on college confidential (lol) is that deferred isn’t a no at a lot of these schools. Especially for places like Michigan, and I’m assuming Wisconsin is the same, they are trying to identify the kids that really want to go there and protect yield. So your kid may very well get in during RD. Definitely write a letter of continued interest and submit the latest grades. Best of luck, I know this has been so demoralizing for many kids who have done the work to get into these schools.

The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer?

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Anonymous wrote:I hear great things about UMD. Also that friends' kids from other schools (U of Richmond esp) are up visiting their UMD friends very very frequently - College Park is considered more fun!
It's a great education. All good

I went to UMD. Loved it. Son would choose UGA over it. It's more that wisconsin was perfect fit.

No school is perfect. I grew up in Madison and did grad school in Athens. It is totally possible to love both towns with your whole heart, and still to see that both schools have plenty of flaws.

Rejection always hurts. Time to process that and learn to love the one you’re with. If it were me I’d get offline, go for a run, and pull myself together so I could model that for DS.

My son is more chill than me. I'm not sitting around crying but just sad and blah. Athens was great- we visited. It's super cute. Just see him more at wisconsin.

I know. These schools work so hard to make us love them, and then reject our kids. It can be an emotionally brutal process for parents. But it’s also kind of a blah morning. I’m serious, call a friend or go for a walk or something. Emotions are physical, it’s always easier to process them when you’re in motion. Your kid will wind up having a big adventure in a great place, and in a few hours or days you’ll be ok with it too. Best of luck.

The only thing missing from this thread are Wisconsin and TX parents saying they are devastated cuz their kids got into Wisconsin and TX but deferred/rejected from their dream school UMD. Who the hell wants to be in WI in the winter? Or TX in sweltering hot summer?

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Anonymous wrote:I hear great things about UMD. Also that friends' kids from other schools (U of Richmond esp) are up visiting their UMD friends very very frequently - College Park is considered more fun!
It's a great education. All good

I went to UMD. Loved it. Son would choose UGA over it. It's more that wisconsin was perfect fit.

No school is perfect. I grew up in Madison and did grad school in Athens. It is totally possible to love both towns with your whole heart, and still to see that both schools have plenty of flaws.

Rejection always hurts. Time to process that and learn to love the one you’re with. If it were me I’d get offline, go for a run, and pull myself together so I could model that for DS.

My son is more chill than me. I'm not sitting around crying but just sad and blah. Athens was great- we visited. It's super cute. Just see him more at wisconsin.