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Anonymous wrote:Stumbled upon the fact my bf takes ED meds after starting a depression med. he never mentioned it i happened to find a wrapper he left out. We are late 40s and I want to be supportive. my mind goes to cheating because otherwise wouldn’t he have shared with me he’s on them? Trying to be supportive and wondering what other couples experiences have been with sharing something like this with your partner?

He hid them because he was embarrassed he uses them.

Agree. No man “wants” to be on them.

In their late 40s, men “want” to picture themselves as their 20 year-old self, toned, athletic, sharp and an all-around stud. But at some point, things don’t work quite as well “down there” as they did in the 20s.

OP - question for you: How on earth did you make the leap to “cheating” from this?

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for men to disclose they are taking ED meds when dating?

As above, how would anyone here know that? But generally:

- given how often women shame men for taking an ED cure, no, men will not disclose it. Women constantly joke about both ED and its cure.


Online, in movies/videos, on social, how often have you heard something like this?

“What? You can’t even get it up? Pathetic!”

Anonymous wrote:Women are absolutely brutal toward men who have ED issues. Until they start suffering similar issues, they will not get sympathy for men. They will only start caring when it starts affecting them.

Anonymous wrote:Women are absolutely brutal toward men who have ED issues. Until they start suffering similar issues, they will not get sympathy for men. They will only start caring when it starts affecting them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it common for men to disclose they are taking ED meds when dating?

As above, how would anyone here know that? But generally:

- given how often women shame men for taking an ED cure, no, men will not disclose it. Women constantly joke about both ED and its cure.


Online, in movies/videos, on social, how often have you heard something like this?

“What? You can’t even get it up? Pathetic!”

Anonymous wrote:Is it common for men to disclose they are taking ED meds when dating?

Anonymous wrote:Is it common for men to disclose they are taking ED meds when dating?

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Anonymous wrote:A side effect of some (many?) meds for depression is diminished sex drive. So taking a ED med along side of this is a good response.

For example, I'm on the highest dose possible for the SSRI I take and my sex drive was zero for a while and then improved to about once a month. If I didn't take the SSRI, I'd be full-time miserable, depressed, emotionally unresponsive, and not interested in sex. If I take the SSRI, I am happy, participate in human interactions, and rarely think of sex.

My preference is to be alive and happy.

Viagra does nothing at all to improve libido. A man's sex drive will not change after taking it. If the problem is in his head, it most likely won't work. You have to be turned on same as normal and then it helps achieve the desired physical result. That's it.

Good point: Viagra (and similar drugs) do zero for lack of drive. Maybe PP was thinking of low-T.

Viagra itself also does not cause an erection all by itself. A truly gay male could take all the viagra in the world and still would not “become aroused” by a woman. Viagra only facilitates an erection if the man is actually attracted to his partner (and the attraction part is in his brain).

Not to hijack, but do meds help if a man can get hard on their own, but can't last long? And could meds make them last too long? The equipment works, but would prefer the act last longer than a minute, but not 30 either.

Possibly, men with premature ejaculation know they have premature ejaculation and can get really up in their head about it, once they are up in their head the circuit breakers get thrown and they finish without having much say so. A medically reinforced erection might give him some confidence that would allow him to edge and back off until he can train away the premature ejaculation.

PE can be trained away fairly easily and there’s lots of free resources online if he cares, which he may not because most men get this resolved by the time they are 25.

Any pointers to said free and good advice? Asking for a friend....

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A side effect of some (many?) meds for depression is diminished sex drive. So taking a ED med along side of this is a good response.

For example, I'm on the highest dose possible for the SSRI I take and my sex drive was zero for a while and then improved to about once a month. If I didn't take the SSRI, I'd be full-time miserable, depressed, emotionally unresponsive, and not interested in sex. If I take the SSRI, I am happy, participate in human interactions, and rarely think of sex.

My preference is to be alive and happy.

Viagra does nothing at all to improve libido. A man's sex drive will not change after taking it. If the problem is in his head, it most likely won't work. You have to be turned on same as normal and then it helps achieve the desired physical result. That's it.

Good point: Viagra (and similar drugs) do zero for lack of drive. Maybe PP was thinking of low-T.

Viagra itself also does not cause an erection all by itself. A truly gay male could take all the viagra in the world and still would not “become aroused” by a woman. Viagra only facilitates an erection if the man is actually attracted to his partner (and the attraction part is in his brain).

Not to hijack, but do meds help if a man can get hard on their own, but can't last long? And could meds make them last too long? The equipment works, but would prefer the act last longer than a minute, but not 30 either.

Possibly, men with premature ejaculation know they have premature ejaculation and can get really up in their head about it, once they are up in their head the circuit breakers get thrown and they finish without having much say so. A medically reinforced erection might give him some confidence that would allow him to edge and back off until he can train away the premature ejaculation.

PE can be trained away fairly easily and there’s lots of free resources online if he cares, which he may not because most men get this resolved by the time they are 25.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A side effect of some (many?) meds for depression is diminished sex drive. So taking a ED med along side of this is a good response.

For example, I'm on the highest dose possible for the SSRI I take and my sex drive was zero for a while and then improved to about once a month. If I didn't take the SSRI, I'd be full-time miserable, depressed, emotionally unresponsive, and not interested in sex. If I take the SSRI, I am happy, participate in human interactions, and rarely think of sex.

My preference is to be alive and happy.

Viagra does nothing at all to improve libido. A man's sex drive will not change after taking it. If the problem is in his head, it most likely won't work. You have to be turned on same as normal and then it helps achieve the desired physical result. That's it.

Good point: Viagra (and similar drugs) do zero for lack of drive. Maybe PP was thinking of low-T.

Viagra itself also does not cause an erection all by itself. A truly gay male could take all the viagra in the world and still would not “become aroused” by a woman. Viagra only facilitates an erection if the man is actually attracted to his partner (and the attraction part is in his brain).

Not to hijack, but do meds help if a man can get hard on their own, but can't last long? And could meds make them last too long? The equipment works, but would prefer the act last longer than a minute, but not 30 either.

Possibly, men with premature ejaculation know they have premature ejaculation and can get really up in their head about it, once they are up in their head the circuit breakers get thrown and they finish without having much say so. A medically reinforced erection might give him some confidence that would allow him to edge and back off until he can train away the premature ejaculation.

PE can be trained away fairly easily and there’s lots of free resources online if he cares, which he may not because most men get this resolved by the time they are 25.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A side effect of some (many?) meds for depression is diminished sex drive. So taking a ED med along side of this is a good response.

For example, I'm on the highest dose possible for the SSRI I take and my sex drive was zero for a while and then improved to about once a month. If I didn't take the SSRI, I'd be full-time miserable, depressed, emotionally unresponsive, and not interested in sex. If I take the SSRI, I am happy, participate in human interactions, and rarely think of sex.

My preference is to be alive and happy.

Viagra does nothing at all to improve libido. A man's sex drive will not change after taking it. If the problem is in his head, it most likely won't work. You have to be turned on same as normal and then it helps achieve the desired physical result. That's it.

Good point: Viagra (and similar drugs) do zero for lack of drive. Maybe PP was thinking of low-T.

Viagra itself also does not cause an erection all by itself. A truly gay male could take all the viagra in the world and still would not “become aroused” by a woman. Viagra only facilitates an erection if the man is actually attracted to his partner (and the attraction part is in his brain).

Not to hijack, but do meds help if a man can get hard on their own, but can't last long? And could meds make them last too long? The equipment works, but would prefer the act last longer than a minute, but not 30 either.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A side effect of some (many?) meds for depression is diminished sex drive. So taking a ED med along side of this is a good response.

For example, I'm on the highest dose possible for the SSRI I take and my sex drive was zero for a while and then improved to about once a month. If I didn't take the SSRI, I'd be full-time miserable, depressed, emotionally unresponsive, and not interested in sex. If I take the SSRI, I am happy, participate in human interactions, and rarely think of sex.

My preference is to be alive and happy.

Viagra does nothing at all to improve libido. A man's sex drive will not change after taking it. If the problem is in his head, it most likely won't work. You have to be turned on same as normal and then it helps achieve the desired physical result. That's it.

Good point: Viagra (and similar drugs) do zero for lack of drive. Maybe PP was thinking of low-T.

Viagra itself also does not cause an erection all by itself. A truly gay male could take all the viagra in the world and still would not “become aroused” by a woman. Viagra only facilitates an erection if the man is actually attracted to his partner (and the attraction part is in his brain).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A side effect of some (many?) meds for depression is diminished sex drive. So taking a ED med along side of this is a good response.

For example, I'm on the highest dose possible for the SSRI I take and my sex drive was zero for a while and then improved to about once a month. If I didn't take the SSRI, I'd be full-time miserable, depressed, emotionally unresponsive, and not interested in sex. If I take the SSRI, I am happy, participate in human interactions, and rarely think of sex.

My preference is to be alive and happy.

Viagra does nothing at all to improve libido. A man's sex drive will not change after taking it. If the problem is in his head, it most likely won't work. You have to be turned on same as normal and then it helps achieve the desired physical result. That's it.