Now I feel awful that I buy my 3 year old Ralph Lauren clothes…

she will keep this up until she is spending her own money on it.

tweens demanding $100 leggings and $50 dollar cups doesn't work for me.

Anonymous wrote:Kids know when it's last year's model, we spend like 1000s on Nikes off stockx, Canada goose , etc just part of living in a safe upper middle class public school. I guess the alternative is to live in a place with lots of crime, pregnancy and drops outs so pick your ick.

Wtf

Sorry your kids don’t have intrinsic value, character and rizz

They only are liked for their tacky brands and affluence

Let her work for the brand name stuff! I tell my daughter (12) that my limit on sweatpants or hoodies is $30. Anything more, she has to work for. I give her projects to do around the house like organizing the pantry , organizing the linen closet, cleaning up my makeup organizer … and pay her accordingly. I don’t pay her for routine chores because I feel that’s part of every family member’s duties.

By the time she makes the required amount of money she needs to buy the designer item , one of 3 things happens:

- she doesn’t want the item anymore
- she realizes how hard it is to make money and decides to spend it on something more useful
- she buys the item

Anonymous wrote:Kids know when it's last year's model, we spend like 1000s on Nikes off stockx, Canada goose , etc just part of living in a safe upper middle class public school. I guess the alternative is to live in a place with lots of crime, pregnancy and drops outs so pick your ick.

Why would any kid possibly care that some kids jacket still fits from last year and he still wears it. That comes from insecure mothers. I know you think you’re talking about all kids but many of us are proactive. We let our kids know that everyone at their school does not have an interest in clothes or fashion. They would be fine wearing the same thing every day and that’s ok.

Canada Goose are everywhere and coats are stolen in every high school in America. My son’s jacket was taken right out of the classroom. Thieves can be bold.

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Anonymous wrote:DD never cared for clothes until...this year. Now all she wants to do is shop. Problem is that she also wants expensive stuff--like Lululemon and Uggs and Aviator Nation sweats. I know this topic comes up frequently but I don't know what to do--do I let her go down this route or not? Cost is a factor though we could afford it if I could any pros to it. I can't!!!! Also, how long does this phase last?
DD is in 9th grade and goes to public.

Avaiator Nation sweats no.

Uggs & lulu birthday or christmas presents. One pair for the Lulus she wants more she can babysit or walk dogs or shovel snow.

I was the kid that never had a name brand anything it was hard.

Lots of amazon dupes of Lulu's by the way. They are pretty darn close. Same with Zella at Nordstom original Lulu designer = Zella.

Thanks for sharing, I didn't know that. I saw a cute tennis skort online at Lululemon but never made it to the store. I happened to be at Nordstrom Rack and bought a very similar Zella one for much less.

I think you need to be realistic if you are in an area/school where it is common to have these things. My DD definitely doesn’t get as much as she wants but having a few of these things to fit in is important at this age. Per my DD, a knock off would be worse than not having the item so keep that in mind. One thing we do is my DD does like thrifting so she’ll do that for other items to stretch the budget a little farther for some brand items. We’ve never seen anything like lulu at a thrift store although some things are on posh mark. Lulu also does sometimes have some items on sale so I’ve encouraged her to focus on those items.

My DD is in 9th grade and I think needing spending money is a perfect reason for them to get jobs. Can we afford to buy these things for her? Yes, but we don't because spending their own money is the only way they learn about value. They can pet sit, house sit, rake leaves or shovel snow for the neighbors. They can also work at camps during the summer.

Good time to start lessons in materialism and chasing trends. It's a bottomless pit and keeping up with the Joneses does not lead to feeling fulfilled. Teach her to choose things she likes outside of brands and trends and they'll outlast after whatever trends are "in" go "out".

I guess I’m the only one (or willing to admit it, given how many brand names I see on kids). My kids are part of my family. Honestly, some of my clothes are pretty expensive. I’m buying my kids a similar level, if that’s what they want. They don’t ask for much, and we are clear that when they start earning their own money, these will be luxuries. It has not made them materialistic; they only ask for a few $$ items over the year and that’s only if I make them go shopping because they need clothes.

This is normal. It's even normal for some adults. Buy a few things -if you can afford it. It's what makes them happy at this age. And having some trendy items allows them to fit in at school. That's not a bad thing.

Oh yeah. Mine is in fifth and it’s already starting.

Her grandmother asked for a super special birthday gift idea. I said something I refuse to buy? And she said yes, so I said AN sweatpants. DD is going to be thrilled.

Anonymous wrote:It’s not in our budget to pay for all the trendy, expensive brands for all three kids. Earlier this month was the first time my 13 year old asked for a brand name. The others don’t seem to care yet. He wanted a pair of Jordans. If he’d asked a month earlier, he would have gotten them for Christmas because he didn’t have any big requests. Instead, he used his Christmas $ from relatives and part of the money he’d earned doing chores for a neighbor.

I was fine with it and going forward will probably give him whatever amount I’d pay for shoes and have him cover the rest. He didn’t need shoes right now so the Jordan’s were all on him.

Mine just watched the air movie and now they want Jordans. I didn’t think about that because they hate clothes. They want the shoes because they saw the movie

Anonymous wrote:Kids know when it's last year's model, we spend like 1000s on Nikes off stockx, Canada goose , etc just part of living in a safe upper middle class public school. I guess the alternative is to live in a place with lots of crime, pregnancy and drops outs so pick your ick.

If your kids are the kids who care about last years, maybe you should consider your parenting and lifestyle. You aren't upper middle class if you are spending 1000's.

Kids know when it's last year's model, we spend like 1000s on Nikes off stockx, Canada goose , etc just part of living in a safe upper middle class public school. I guess the alternative is to live in a place with lots of crime, pregnancy and drops outs so pick your ick.

My kids are in 11th grade and still into brands. They get a nice item for Christmas and a nice item for their bday (two years in a row dd picked Uggs). Aside from that they use the money saved up from allowance and work to buy "luxury" item. They are good about saving.