Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 19:48     Subject: are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:I see a lot of accidental 3 kid families lately, one older kid followed by twins. When I was growing up, I didn't know a lot of families with more than two. In fact, a lot of my friends were only children.


I have a few coworkers who ended up with accidental 4 kid families, where they went for a 3rd and it was twins. Yikes! But yes - a lot of 3 kid families, many more than when I was growing up and everyone had 2 kids.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 19:29     Subject: are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Like two PP already said, common for the third to be an unplanned baby. That's with me and mine also.


This. I had one, wanted a second, got my second and a third through twins.


Fertility treatment obv

The liklihood of twins increases with maternal age so I don’t think it’s “obv”
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 19:26     Subject: are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Like two PP already said, common for the third to be an unplanned baby. That's with me and mine also.


This. I had one, wanted a second, got my second and a third through twins.


Fertility treatment obv
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 19:25     Subject: Re:are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Looking at everyone I know, I’d guess it is like this:

50% 2 DC
25% 3 DC
20% 1 DC
5% 4+ DC

I also know an absolute ton of couples that are childless by choice, or single people who never married or want to marry.



Agree with this.


Another agree. Thinking about my friend group, this is spot on.


I don’t agree
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 19:16     Subject: are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:Like two PP already said, common for the third to be an unplanned baby. That's with me and mine also.


This. I had one, wanted a second, got my second and a third through twins.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 19:10     Subject: are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Only see Mormons with this many


I'm in my late 40's and grew up in an area with a lot of Mormons (I'm not Mormon.) Back then, every Mormon family I knew had at least 4 kids--a few were bigger like 8-10 kids--but four kids was by far the most common number.
Now, all those people that came from families with 4 kids? They have 5. Seriously every Mormon I know has 5 kids.
Five is the new four.


I think Mormons used to want to be done with having kids very early--I think of my mormon relatives and they always talked about being done having kids in your 20s. But now I see more and more young mormon families saying they want to have kids well into their 30s.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 19:05     Subject: are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I see a lot of accidental 3 kid families lately, one older kid followed by twins. When I was growing up, I didn't know a lot of families with more than two. In fact, a lot of my friends were only children.


How do you know the twins were an accident? And lots of twin accidents? You just live in a neighborhood where everyone is accidentally having twins after an older child. Mmmhmmm


Uh, you can't just....have twins on purpose. You understand that right? Twins are spontaneous. Maybe some of these families would have gone for a third regardless, but they didn't plan their twins...


They are much more common with fertility treatments. That’s what PP is talking about.


As someone whose kids were conceived via fertility treatment, accepting the higher risk of multiples does not mean that you intend to have multiples. They’re still very much a surprise.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 19:01     Subject: Re:are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Looking at everyone I know, I’d guess it is like this:

50% 2 DC
25% 3 DC
20% 1 DC
5% 4+ DC

I also know an absolute ton of couples that are childless by choice, or single people who never married or want to marry.

Most of the families I know with one DC didn’t plan on just one (for those who have said)…more commonly fertility issues or divorce/single parent.

A lot of the families with 3+ are due to an “oops”. I had a friend who had an oops #3 that turned into 3 & 4! twins. LOL.

I’d still say 2 seems to be the default.



Agree that a LOT Of the 3+ kid families are oops babies, or include multiples. I know two families that had oops triplets.


You're real gullible if you think this.

Why? She could be talking about me. I have oops triplets.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 18:47     Subject: are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:Only see Mormons with this many


I'm in my late 40's and grew up in an area with a lot of Mormons (I'm not Mormon.) Back then, every Mormon family I knew had at least 4 kids--a few were bigger like 8-10 kids--but four kids was by far the most common number.
Now, all those people that came from families with 4 kids? They have 5. Seriously every Mormon I know has 5 kids.
Five is the new four.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 18:16     Subject: are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I see a lot of accidental 3 kid families lately, one older kid followed by twins. When I was growing up, I didn't know a lot of families with more than two. In fact, a lot of my friends were only children.


How do you know the twins were an accident? And lots of twin accidents? You just live in a neighborhood where everyone is accidentally having twins after an older child. Mmmhmmm


Uh, you can't just....have twins on purpose. You understand that right? Twins are spontaneous. Maybe some of these families would have gone for a third regardless, but they didn't plan their twins...


They are much more common with fertility treatments. That’s what PP is talking about.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 18:11     Subject: Re:are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Looking at everyone I know, I’d guess it is like this:

50% 2 DC
25% 3 DC
20% 1 DC
5% 4+ DC

I also know an absolute ton of couples that are childless by choice, or single people who never married or want to marry.

Most of the families I know with one DC didn’t plan on just one (for those who have said)…more commonly fertility issues or divorce/single parent.

A lot of the families with 3+ are due to an “oops”. I had a friend who had an oops #3 that turned into 3 & 4! twins. LOL.

I’d still say 2 seems to be the default.



Agree that a LOT Of the 3+ kid families are oops babies, or include multiples. I know two families that had oops triplets.


This is the opposite for me. I had 3 very much planned babies as well as every other friend with 3. The only friend I know with an oops third had planned on 2 and then had twins.

However, I’m still in my 30s. I imagine the oops third could still happen with some of my friends who think they’re done with 2. We’ll see whose vasectomies and IUDs hold up until menopause hits
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 18:09     Subject: Re:are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Looking at everyone I know, I’d guess it is like this:

50% 2 DC
25% 3 DC
20% 1 DC
5% 4+ DC

I also know an absolute ton of couples that are childless by choice, or single people who never married or want to marry.

Most of the families I know with one DC didn’t plan on just one (for those who have said)…more commonly fertility issues or divorce/single parent.

A lot of the families with 3+ are due to an “oops”. I had a friend who had an oops #3 that turned into 3 & 4! twins. LOL.

I’d still say 2 seems to be the default.



Agree that a LOT Of the 3+ kid families are oops babies, or include multiples. I know two families that had oops triplets.


You're real gullible if you think this.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 18:08     Subject: Re:are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Looking at everyone I know, I’d guess it is like this:

50% 2 DC
25% 3 DC
20% 1 DC
5% 4+ DC

I also know an absolute ton of couples that are childless by choice, or single people who never married or want to marry.



Agree with this.


Another agree. Thinking about my friend group, this is spot on.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 18:00     Subject: Re:are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
Anonymous wrote:Looking at everyone I know, I’d guess it is like this:

50% 2 DC
25% 3 DC
20% 1 DC
5% 4+ DC

I also know an absolute ton of couples that are childless by choice, or single people who never married or want to marry.

Most of the families I know with one DC didn’t plan on just one (for those who have said)…more commonly fertility issues or divorce/single parent.

A lot of the families with 3+ are due to an “oops”. I had a friend who had an oops #3 that turned into 3 & 4! twins. LOL.

I’d still say 2 seems to be the default.



Agree that a LOT Of the 3+ kid families are oops babies, or include multiples. I know two families that had oops triplets.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2024 17:51     Subject: are 3+ kid families becoming more common?
If I wasn't totally infertile that would be me. 9 babies, 2 living. Sucks.