Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 22:50     Subject: Should I say anything?
If she was experiencing injuries from domestic abuse and was trying to hide them, she wouldn't go to a doctor and get a prescription. Plastic surgery is a more likely option, or maybe she had an allergic reaction and is covered in hives.

She clearly was trying to avoid you. I don't blame her because I wouldn't want an aquaintance to see me looking all raggedy either! Let it go.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 22:28     Subject: Should I say anything?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Be neighborly! Send her a text asking if she is ok, whether she needs some food, and then take over a gift basket with some lovely items. If you’re feeling extra nice, give her a gift card for target!


NO! Do not do this!


I think texting and then going over with a gift is the appropriate response.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 22:10     Subject: Should I say anything?
Leave her alone. She clearly wanted to avoid you.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 22:05     Subject: Should I say anything?
Why not text and say “was thinking of you this week, let’s get together when you are free”

She controls the timing of the get together in case she wants privacy. She can acknowledge maybe seeing you at Target if you want. You are nice but not intrusive or pushy.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 22:03     Subject: Re:Should I say anything?
Anonymous wrote:Leave it be. As others have said, she is likely hoping you did not see her. Texting that you did see her in any way could come across like “gotcha” or that you are looking for info.

Wait a week. Then text to say hi, and how is she doing.


If it's domestic abuse her DH could have beat the hell out of her in a week!

OP, you don't know if it was domestic abuse but her actions definitely shoes something is wrong.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 22:01     Subject: Should I say anything?
Anonymous wrote:Was at Target and made clear eye contact with a newish friend. She has a distinctive article of clothing so I’m sure it was her. She had part of her face covered in gauze. She was waiting in line at the pharmacy. After we made eye contact she QUICKLY looked away and got out of line. I’m back home now and I don’t know what to do. Clearly she didn’t want me approaching her, but I truly think she saw me, and pretty sure she knows I recognized her. Do I just give her privacy and say nothing? I was thinking of texting “here if you need anything”, but what if it wasn’t her? Texting “was that you at Target” just feels invasive. Thoughts?


Domestic abuse,? I would stop by her house when you know her husband is not there and ask her if she is being abused. Tell her there is nothing to be ashamed about and it is not her fault. Let her know that she can call you at anytime and you will help her

You can also see if you can find telephone number for a domestic abuse hotline.

Do not believe her when she tells you that she ran into a door,!
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 19:32     Subject: Should I say anything?
Now is the time to pounce and take her government job.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 19:29     Subject: Should I say anything?
Anonymous wrote:I would text her, "Sorry we didn't get to say 'hi' in Target today. Hope our paths cross again soon!"

That doesn't point out whatever is going on with her, but still opens the door for her to follow up if she needs anything, and it ends the awkwardness.


Absolutely not. She was clearly uncomfortable that your paths crossed.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 17:38     Subject: Should I say anything?
She's a newish friend that you can only identify via an article of clothing?

FFS leave her alone.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 17:31     Subject: Re:Should I say anything?
Leave it be. As others have said, she is likely hoping you did not see her. Texting that you did see her in any way could come across like “gotcha” or that you are looking for info.

Wait a week. Then text to say hi, and how is she doing.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 17:12     Subject: Should I say anything?
Anonymous wrote:I would text her, "Sorry we didn't get to say 'hi' in Target today. Hope our paths cross again soon!"

That doesn't point out whatever is going on with her, but still opens the door for her to follow up if she needs anything, and it ends the awkwardness.


This feels like the right answer.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 16:53     Subject: Should I say anything?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"I hope everything is OK. Can I help with anything?"

Then drop off a quart of soup at her door.


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Y’all are so self-focused. Leave that woman alone. She was clearly trying to avoid you. Sheesh.
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 15:35     Subject: Should I say anything?
Anonymous wrote:"I hope everything is OK. Can I help with anything?"

Then drop off a quart of soup at her door.


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 09:44     Subject: Should I say anything?
Anonymous wrote:Be neighborly! Send her a text asking if she is ok, whether she needs some food, and then take over a gift basket with some lovely items. If you’re feeling extra nice, give her a gift card for target!


NO! Do not do this!
Anonymous
Post 01/16/2024 09:10     Subject: Should I say anything?
Anonymous wrote:My assumption is she had some sort of plastic surgery or beauty treatment. She obviously didn’t want you to see her/didn’t want to talk about it. You should respect that. It will fill her with relief if the next time you see her, you act totally normal/oblivious


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