Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 18:50     Subject: Received a present from family
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He likes them and they’re from his family. You keep the dishes. Assume the situation were reversed? You’d be pissed if he threw something away you liked that you got as a gift.
Get over the plate design. Compromise on this one.


They’re not “from his family”. Presumably as a married couple OP and her husband already have dishes they selected and that go with their kitchen decor. I certainly wouldn’t have room for an entire extra set of dishes in my kitchen. It’s a terrible gift.


OP here. We also live in an apartment, so we definitely do not have space for a whole set of dishes I do not even like!
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 18:44     Subject: Received a present from family
Anonymous wrote:He likes them and they’re from his family. You keep the dishes. Assume the situation were reversed? You’d be pissed if he threw something away you liked that you got as a gift.
Get over the plate design. Compromise on this one.


They’re not “from his family”. Presumably as a married couple OP and her husband already have dishes they selected and that go with their kitchen decor. I certainly wouldn’t have room for an entire extra set of dishes in my kitchen. It’s a terrible gift.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 17:41     Subject: Re:Received a present from family
Anonymous wrote:Tell your husband that the person who prepares dinner gets to choose the plates.


This. Best response.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 17:30     Subject: Re:Received a present from family
Tell your husband that the person who prepares dinner gets to choose the plates.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 16:56     Subject: Received a present from family
Anonymous wrote:I’d love to see a picture of the pattern
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Or the pattern name so we can practice using google.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 16:55     Subject: Received a present from family
I’d love to see a picture of the pattern
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 16:54     Subject: Received a present from family
Volunteer them for a Greek wedding dish smashing.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 16:53     Subject: Received a present from family
SIL is winning.

If you let something like this bothers you, the SIL is smiling/laughing somewhere.

Let your DH uses his sister's present. Adopt a "I couldn't careless" attitude.

Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 16:48     Subject: Received a present from family
Anonymous wrote:We received a set of dishes from SIL for Christmas. It was a really sweet thought but I kind of…hate them?

They just aren’t my personal style and not something I’d ever buy for our home. My husband loved them and insists on using them at every meal time, I set the table yesterday with our old dishes for dinner and he was upset saying he wanted the dishes his sister got him, he got up and swapped his plate!


WWYD?

I would use humor on this one. Mixing up dishes is a thing.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 16:46     Subject: Received a present from family
You have a preference and he has a preference. Have a few of each in the cabinet and you each use what you want. Unless you’re having the King of England over for meatloaf tonight, who cares what the table looks like.

Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 16:29     Subject: Received a present from family
Anonymous wrote:Do not break gift. Do not make a plan to break the gift “little by little” or through reckless care of the gift.
okay Lao Tzu.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 16:25     Subject: Received a present from family
Do not break gift. Do not make a plan to break the gift “little by little” or through reckless care of the gift.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 16:24     Subject: Received a present from family
Can the dishes be put away? Somewhere that is not in sight ? Somewhere where that does not trigger with your emotional reaction(s). I do not believe you need to “break” the gift.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 15:36     Subject: Received a present from family
Use the ones you like and let him use the ones he likes.
Anonymous
Post 01/15/2024 15:33     Subject: Received a present from family
My new daughter in law was so excited to share her large set of dishes with me because the set was too large for her , and she loved the thought of us having the same set . The dishes are not my style, but it was such a beautiful sentiment that I happily accepted and use them all the time, especially she is here.

Having that connection with her is much more important to me than the style of my dishes