I'm the OP, and these responses are laughably rude. Wow. This board is really something. Not everyone is a stone-cold ice mannequin without feelings. I actually think feeling a twinge of sadness if someone forgets a birthday - or questioning a friendship - is the stuff of life. I posted a vulnerable question. The outsized judgmental, rude commentary here is ... just wow. I am really happy for the dozen or so of you who think birthdays are dumb or are too busy or proud or above it all to celebrate, but I do question what makes you respond with such anger anonymously. Yikes!

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Anonymous wrote:OP you're 40, not 4. Expecting others to care is highly immature and self centered. People have WAY too much to think about already, to remember random birthdays of friends.

No they don't. Most adults I know remember friends' birthdays and aren't "so overwhelmed" - they get thru the day fine.

Sounds like you're a SAHM or someone without a busy, stressful job. I remember family member's birthdays. Everyone else? Sorry, it's not a big deal. And I'm not remotely offended when people forget my birthday. Most people I know lead active, busy lives.

Wow. This post is all kinds of rude and insulting. Only SAHMs have time to remember birthdays? Or SAHM/birthdays are somehow trivial? Your post reeks of judgment. How sad that you think it's impossible to work and also be considerate. Part of having an active, busy life is remembering your friends. "Busy" isn't something to be proud of.

Oh, boo-hoo. Grow up, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you're 40, not 4. Expecting others to care is highly immature and self centered. People have WAY too much to think about already, to remember random birthdays of friends.

No they don't. Most adults I know remember friends' birthdays and aren't "so overwhelmed" - they get thru the day fine.

Sounds like you're a SAHM or someone without a busy, stressful job. I remember family member's birthdays. Everyone else? Sorry, it's not a big deal. And I'm not remotely offended when people forget my birthday. Most people I know lead active, busy lives.

No, I work a fulfilling, full-time job and am a mom.I also have executive functioning skills and use a Google calendar.

I have a lot of friends in real life and probably close to 200 on Facebook. I made a decision a long time ago to not wish people happy birthday on social media because it’s literally to exhausting to keep up with everyone. So I don’t do it to anyone. If I see you on the actual day and I remember I’ll say happy birthday though.
Your friend sounds like a good friend, she’s just not into birthdays.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you're 40, not 4. Expecting others to care is highly immature and self centered. People have WAY too much to think about already, to remember random birthdays of friends.

No they don't. Most adults I know remember friends' birthdays and aren't "so overwhelmed" - they get thru the day fine.

Sounds like you're a SAHM or someone without a busy, stressful job. I remember family member's birthdays. Everyone else? Sorry, it's not a big deal. And I'm not remotely offended when people forget my birthday. Most people I know lead active, busy lives.

There are 6 people I wish happy birthday to a year. It's just not that important to me personally

Anonymous wrote:She is your friend. You're blowing this so far out of proportion I'm having a hard time believing its real.

Agree

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Anonymous wrote:She is your friend. You're blowing this so far out of proportion I'm having a hard time believing its real.

+ 1. I barely remember my brother's birthday, or my husband's. I hope this isn't for real.

I'm actually hoping this isn't for real. You don't remember your husband's birthday?

Dp. I forgot my husband’s birthday this year. It wasn’t that I forgot his birthday was coming up, just the actual day, I forgot what day it was that day. He’s also not a birthday person and doesn’t care, so we didn’t have anything planned. The next morning, I realized I missed it and apologized. Oops. He still loves me.

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Anonymous wrote:She is your friend. You're blowing this so far out of proportion I'm having a hard time believing its real.

+ 1. I barely remember my brother's birthday, or my husband's. I hope this isn't for real.

I'm actually hoping this isn't for real. You don't remember your husband's birthday?

Anonymous wrote:She is your friend. You're blowing this so far out of proportion I'm having a hard time believing its real.

+ 1. I barely remember my brother's birthday, or my husband's. I hope this isn't for real.

OP, you sound exhausting.

Pick your battles.

DH remembers my birthday. Pretty much no one, including my two sisters, do. Sure, I am sometimes a little sad but I decided long ago that it was not worth making drama.

If there is one thing I hate, it is birthday drama people. Birthdays are not a big deal in my family. The only people I expect to acknowledge my birthday are my immediate family members, and yeah I want cake and a happy birthday from my husband and kids but genuinely am baffled by people who expect others to make a fuss. It seems so juvenile and self absorbed.

I’m sorry, OP. I’d let it go but then I don’t expect birthday wishes from friends.

If they remember, that’s great.