Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The post that really got to me was the one for a newly-arrived Ukrainian family. They were directly asking for everything needed to equip a home. I was perfectly fine with that and was thinking about what I could contribute that I already had--until they asked for an electric espresso coffee maker (which are usually more expensive than a drip coffee maker). Given how frugally I lived during my 20s when all I could afford was rent and food, I was taken aback by that request.

I don’t understand what you being poor in your 20s has to do with the refugees wishing for nice things.
These people have already experienced enough trauma, maybe an espresso machine would brighten their day.

I take it you have never been to the third world? Well, I grew up in one. I would have been grateful for anything that was actually necessary and would not have expensive requests just because people are willing to give it to me

Anonymous wrote:The post that really got to me was the one for a newly-arrived Ukrainian family. They were directly asking for everything needed to equip a home. I was perfectly fine with that and was thinking about what I could contribute that I already had--until they asked for an electric espresso coffee maker (which are usually more expensive than a drip coffee maker). Given how frugally I lived during my 20s when all I could afford was rent and food, I was taken aback by that request.

I had a white Pottery Barn couch to give away (in good shape but the couch cover had a very light water stain (ceiling leak)). No organization wanted it because of a small stain and I was told to clean it and then send pictures again - I was told that Afghan families left everything and came over so anything we give has to be in respectable condition. I put it on FB and someone who was willing to clean it themselves took it. Who has time for all this when we are giving away stuff.

When I came here as an immigrant I would have been grateful to have a free couch with a small water stain that could have been washed. We were living without any real furniture for 5 years. We had 2 $10 folding chairs from Ames, a $20 Staples table as dining table and a mattress/box spring and the rails to go with it (no bed set or dresser or a couch).

Not on Nextdoor, but a very popular LoCo women’s Facebook group always has women on there asking for things. And the morons on the thread are all Oh what’s your Venmo? Suckers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Restrict the geography of the posts you see. Nextdoor is dying and they are including posts from a wider area in order to make it appear more active

False. Our Nextdoor is full of people claiming they are in need and setting up GoFundMes. I just ignore and move on. I am, however, surprised at the number of smart NextDoor users who can smell out a repeat offender: "You posted this about your alleged cousin last month and said X". Buyer beware

DP
Which part of the post was "false"?

Report them

Where I live there is a FB free stuff public group. Half of it is people giving things away and the rest is people begging, typically people who have managed to get an apartment but don't have basics (pots and pans, dishes, a bed), people needing supplies for babies, children, sometimes adults, people who have no food. I've been amazed and impressed how many people jump in and offer to bring over boxes of canned and boxed foods, diapers, used furniture, etc. Nobody is getting anything fancy.

OP,

Get yourself the Thumbtack app.

It's an app that allows you to choose which repair or contractor you need for household issues, with their availability. There are reviews on all of them.

I've used the app twice now for a furnace repair then a boiler repair, and been very happy with how fast I've gotten appointments (next day), and the quality of service. Price is in line with what I used to pay before, trying to find contractors myself online.

The worse begging is the gofundme’s for pets. Person is trying to raise 10k to give their 10 year old dog surgery for a tumor that is double the size of the dogs leg. I want to scream, KILL IT!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The post that really got to me was the one for a newly-arrived Ukrainian family. They were directly asking for everything needed to equip a home. I was perfectly fine with that and was thinking about what I could contribute that I already had--until they asked for an electric espresso coffee maker (which are usually more expensive than a drip coffee maker). Given how frugally I lived during my 20s when all I could afford was rent and food, I was taken aback by that request.

I don’t understand what you being poor in your 20s has to do with the refugees wishing for nice things.
These people have already experienced enough trauma, maybe an espresso machine would brighten their day.

I would also be turned off by such an expensive, unnecessary request.

+100

I saw this on our neighborhood listserv. Some woman said she was feeling overwhelmed and demanded people DoorDash food to her house.

Anonymous wrote:Restrict the geography of the posts you see. Nextdoor is dying and they are including posts from a wider area in order to make it appear more active

False. Our Nextdoor is full of people claiming they are in need and setting up GoFundMes. I just ignore and move on. I am, however, surprised at the number of smart NextDoor users who can smell out a repeat offender: "You posted this about your alleged cousin last month and said X". Buyer beware

Not just the DC area. Indianapolis is ridiculous

Anonymous wrote:if nextdoor just included my neighborhood it would be fine. But, it is about a 25 mile wide circle and it's too much.

Adjust your setting on your Nextdoor app. Various options, including your immediate neighborhood.

Anonymous wrote:Last time I used Nextdoor was 5 years ago so I almost never use. I decided to sign in to look for service/trades person but I see quite a few people on there basically begging. They make a post explaining all their troubles and leave their cash app or Venmo handle asking for donations. When did digital begging become a thing?

I've seen it for a while. Repeat requests from a couple of people.

Anonymous wrote:I watched an episode of American greed and a woman faked having cancer and raised over $250k. Another story on the same show a man raised $500k for “saving dogs” and got himself a rescue dog….oh and a plane.

Was this the same story as the Scamanda podcast? That podcast was great.