Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 17:49     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was in your exact situation. I married him. It hasn’t changed. He is an amazing husband.


That’s the thing! I love him so much and he is an amazing caring supportive helpful kind hardworking disciplined adorable human whose love language is acts of service. Part of the issue is that we’re the same size and I’m used to bigger/taller. But those men were nowhere near as wonderful as he is.


There it is.


Do you think that has something to do with it? Like a bigger guy feels more dominant?


A bigger guy feels more satisfying.


+1

And dominant by nature
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 17:48     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was in your exact situation. I married him. It hasn’t changed. He is an amazing husband.


That’s the thing! I love him so much and he is an amazing caring supportive helpful kind hardworking disciplined adorable human whose love language is acts of service. Part of the issue is that we’re the same size and I’m used to bigger/taller. But those men were nowhere near as wonderful as he is.


There it is.


Do you think that has something to do with it? Like a bigger guy feels more dominant?


A bigger guy feels more satisfying.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 16:05     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You can get him there. Watch porn together and have some wine. Trust me in this one. He just has to get more comfortable and uninhibited.


OP. I find porn totally unsexy and repulsive. That’s not really what I’m looking to emulate.


But he probably likes it. So, you're going to have to meet him half way.

Get some videos involving the kinks you're into.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 16:03     Subject: Re:What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:OP can you lead the wild vigorous sex? From your mention about the bigger/taller priors I assume that it isnt just the force, tempo, etc. it is actually being dominated physically that is appealing.



This! Get on top and control the tempo.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 16:00     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tell him you’re dying to lick his a** while he jacks it.

That’s an act of submission that will bring out the male aggression


Or as soon as he walks in the door, drop to your knees and get him out. In between licks, tell him you want him to c*m on your face. You’ll get the same response .

goodness.. I think we would both rotfl if I did that.


That’s sad …

why is it sad if we are both on the same page.

I read a lot of erotica, and it can turn me on. But it's fantasy. It's like acting. I'm not an actor, so if I had to act out certain things, it would make me laugh because of how silly it seems.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 15:55     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ease him into it. My BF is like this too but he’s much taller than I am and jacked, so it’s a different dynamic.

But he’s the best human and I’ve seen him get more primal. Just takes time and comfort. But the primal mixed with the love-making in the same encounter is hot and intense.

I wouldn’t do the porn thing with him, though. He’s not the type. Definitely have a couple drinks and gradually get more vocal in bed and see if he adapts as he gets more comfortable. And objectify him a bit.

Men are also taught to be super respectful and careful these days, so both your comfort is key.


Is he really well endowed too? This was my dh. He’d heard so much feedback about guys with size are bad and jackhammering, etc that he was too careful. It took him a while to be dominant in the bedroom with me (which is what I like). But now that he is and we know what each other likes, WOW!


+1 same situation

The added difficulty for us was that his last GF size shamed him and he is far from small.


He was scared of hurting you because she told him he was small?


He had some issues with other woman not even wanted to attempt or discomfort and then the last gf went the opposite direction but in a really mean way.

It was hard for to just be “him” because most others had judged him just based on size not his skills. He is a incredible lover and once he knew I was comfortable with his desires (which were the same as mine) it took things to an unbelievable level.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 15:48     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tell him you’re dying to lick his a** while he jacks it.

That’s an act of submission that will bring out the male aggression


Or as soon as he walks in the door, drop to your knees and get him out. In between licks, tell him you want him to c*m on your face. You’ll get the same response .

goodness.. I think we would both rotfl if I did that.


That’s sad …
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 15:44     Subject: Re:What to do with my sweet boyfriend
OP can you lead the wild vigorous sex? From your mention about the bigger/taller priors I assume that it isnt just the force, tempo, etc. it is actually being dominated physically that is appealing.

Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 15:42     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Find some scenes in a spicy romance book that you like. Then read them to him. See if he likes them and wants to try them out.

If you go to the subreddit Ronance Books, you can ask for something really specific and someone can usually point you to books that have that kind of scene.

From this subreddit and reading some of the books people have recommended, I’ve discovered I have a praise kink and like guys who are soft doms. There are so many shades of kink that I just wasn’t aware of.

He might be nervous because he thinks it has to be hard core bdsm or vanilla.

Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 15:30     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tell him you’re dying to lick his a** while he jacks it.

That’s an act of submission that will bring out the male aggression


Or as soon as he walks in the door, drop to your knees and get him out. In between licks, tell him you want him to c*m on your face. You’ll get the same response .

goodness.. I think we would both rotfl if I did that.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 15:29     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was in your exact situation. I married him. It hasn’t changed. He is an amazing husband.


That’s the thing! I love him so much and he is an amazing caring supportive helpful kind hardworking disciplined adorable human whose love language is acts of service. Part of the issue is that we’re the same size and I’m used to bigger/taller. But those men were nowhere near as wonderful as he is.

My DH is similar, but he is waaay taller than I am. I'm super petite.

He says he can't do anything to be physically rough with me, especially during sex. He's quite boring in bed, even though I was a virgin, and he wasn't (had more than 10 partners).

But, he's a good partner
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 15:23     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:Tell him you’re dying to lick his a** while he jacks it.

That’s an act of submission that will bring out the male aggression


Or as soon as he walks in the door, drop to your knees and get him out. In between licks, tell him you want him to c*m on your face. You’ll get the same response .
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 14:35     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ease him into it. My BF is like this too but he’s much taller than I am and jacked, so it’s a different dynamic.

But he’s the best human and I’ve seen him get more primal. Just takes time and comfort. But the primal mixed with the love-making in the same encounter is hot and intense.

I wouldn’t do the porn thing with him, though. He’s not the type. Definitely have a couple drinks and gradually get more vocal in bed and see if he adapts as he gets more comfortable. And objectify him a bit.

Men are also taught to be super respectful and careful these days, so both your comfort is key.


Is he really well endowed too? This was my dh. He’d heard so much feedback about guys with size are bad and jackhammering, etc that he was too careful. It took him a while to be dominant in the bedroom with me (which is what I like). But now that he is and we know what each other likes, WOW!


+1 same situation

The added difficulty for us was that his last GF size shamed him and he is far from small.


He was scared of hurting you because she told him he was small?
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 13:54     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Ease him into it. My BF is like this too but he’s much taller than I am and jacked, so it’s a different dynamic.

But he’s the best human and I’ve seen him get more primal. Just takes time and comfort. But the primal mixed with the love-making in the same encounter is hot and intense.

I wouldn’t do the porn thing with him, though. He’s not the type. Definitely have a couple drinks and gradually get more vocal in bed and see if he adapts as he gets more comfortable. And objectify him a bit.

Men are also taught to be super respectful and careful these days, so both your comfort is key.


Is he really well endowed too? This was my dh. He’d heard so much feedback about guys with size are bad and jackhammering, etc that he was too careful. It took him a while to be dominant in the bedroom with me (which is what I like). But now that he is and we know what each other likes, WOW!


+1 same situation

The added difficulty for us was that his last GF size shamed him and he is far from small.
Anonymous
Post 01/10/2024 13:29     Subject: What to do with my sweet boyfriend
Tell him you’re dying to lick his a** while he jacks it.

That’s an act of submission that will bring out the male aggression