Anonymous wrote:Kids are funny with this stuff. My son favors his Dad's house when it comes to bedtime- he lets him stay up late to play video games with him. My daughter's always favored me because her personality is more like mine. She still chooses her dad's house often though. You're probably stricter, I bet they will appreciate you as time goes on.

And as to why mine choose where they sleep, we are neighbors. I kind of wish we weren't though, it can hurt my feelings when my son has gone to his dad's straight after dinner for a week straight. But at least I see them every day.

So your son is one of those problem children teachers can’t stand because they come to class overtired and zone out every day? Yay

Maybe she’s not sure if his love is unconditional.

I have 4 kids and am mostly a sahm (work consulting 5 hours a week). DH works 8-6 weekdays. He is not engaged with them and isn’t able to attune to their needs. All the kids prefer me by far.

You need to emphasize to your DD that you and her are a team. She should help with the toddler too. You need to be fun and mindful and engaging to her. Don’t let her know if she hurts your feelings. She won’t win at life with aligning with a man against other women. What’s she into? You can nurture that and be into it too. A little bribery and fun never hurts. Cmon you only have her and one toddler. You can do so much with her !! Just hand the toddler a kindle or color wow book and you have the 8 year old alll to yourself.

Sounds like you love your toddler more. Pay more attention to the older one, does she help out? Does she help the toddler get dressed or put shoes on? Buckle her seatbelt? Do you help take care of the older one? Don’t ignore her.

Kids are funny with this stuff. My son favors his Dad's house when it comes to bedtime- he lets him stay up late to play video games with him. My daughter's always favored me because her personality is more like mine. She still chooses her dad's house often though. You're probably stricter, I bet they will appreciate you as time goes on.

And as to why mine choose where they sleep, we are neighbors. I kind of wish we weren't though, it can hurt my feelings when my son has gone to his dad's straight after dinner for a week straight. But at least I see them every day.

Just go with it. Your love for your daughter unchanging. Make sure she knows it.