When any female walks into the room , does he have to take a moment to take a look and assess hotness? Does he do that with men? Trans people? Anyone? If neither, he might be asexual or auto-sexual.

My cousin is like this. Indian, grew up here. Super good looking. My gay guy friend thinks he’s gay, but he claims to basically be asexual (or really just denies being gay). He makes up elaborate tales of ex girlfriends who only exist in his imagination and are inconsistent and their relationships have no witnesses or online traces. I wish he would come out- gay, bi or whatever. He’d be accepted by his immufamily and our close cousins for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Ask him if you can handle "yes" as an answer. If he's not he'll say "no."

Don’t ask him. If he’s gay, he’ll tell you when he’s ready to come out.

Just accept that it’s out of your control.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he’s asexual. Regardless, there’s generally no way to know for sure unless they tell you.

He’s 40, not 20.
“Asexual” wasn’t a thing that people claimed in our generation, so he would have “picked a team” by now. So chances are, if OP is not sure, then yes he’s likely gay.

He might be gay.

Or he might not be gay.

It’s simplistic to say that if he hasn’t dated by X age, he is probably gay, especially today when dating habits are changing, people are living alone, and having less sex, in general.

Anonymous wrote:Is there a way to tell if a person is gay?

My brother has never mentioned dating, never married and dresses well and wears bright colors occasionally. I don't think he'd tell me if he were because of our upbringing.

Is there a way to know?

Possibly. But there is no way to know for sure unless he says so.

*He* may not even know.