Anonymous
12/18/2023 12:18
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Anonymous wrote:Congratulations! You and jerk husband will not be invited to future parties. He can laugh that off in his man cave.
+1 thought the same thing.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 12:13
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Anonymous wrote:This must be the only guy in America still drinking Bud Light.
LMFAO!
Bud Light is horrible.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 12:11
Subject: Re:Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
This isn’t about beer.
A host is responsible for drunk guests. The bartender can refuse to serve a drunk person and warn the host.
A host is responsible for drunk guests. The bartender can refuse to serve a drunk person and warn the host.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 12:10
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Anonymous wrote:My DH has a friend from childhood that has done extremely well for himself. Built a business and made millions several times over. Each year they host an off the charts Christmas party that must cost them $50,000. Half a dozen servers walking around with champagne, scallops, beef wellingtons, crab cakes, the works. I mean, they have a huge raw bar with shuckers in one corner. Everything is high end, including the drinks. Easily a couple hundred guests. Sen Warner was there.
Well, DH only drinks Bud light. The party only served champagne, wine, mixed drinks and Stella. So, unbeknownst to me, my DH and another childhood buddy packed a huge 70 qt cooler with cans of Bud Light and ice. Then, once at the party, they asked the host's sons to get it from the trunk and put it in the backyard.
The wife of the guy (Hostess, if you will) saw this and basically lost her mind and told them to put it away. They declined and proceeded to enjoy the party with cans of Bud Light in their hand.
The night went on and yesterday we got a note from her asking for 'an apology'. DH couldn't stop laughing and says he never will. I might extend on our behalf. That will likely irritate my DH.
Was he actually out of line? Is an apology warranted?
She's crazy. Who cares if they are drinking Bud light over Stella? More beer for her! Geez, I would be laughing too. The hostess is a loser.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 12:07
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Anonymous wrote:You start by saying:
"My DH has a friend from childhood that has done extremely well for himself"....
So it's his friend and you should back down.
Agree, I'd stay out of it. It's between your husband, his friend and friend's wife. Your husband made a decision and he can handle the outcome on his own.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 12:04
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Anonymous wrote:If I was at a party and observed buddies of the host doing this I’d get a kick out of it and ask if they were sharing.
He should apologize for stressing out the hostess, but not for brining the beer.
Same here! The host isn't the only one that is over the top! I also agree he should apologize for stressing out the hostess but not for bringing the beer.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 11:59
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Am I the only one envisioning the hostess screaming about "NO OUTSIDE FOOD OR DRINK!!!"
Anonymous
12/18/2023 11:55
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Take the money dynamic out of it, and this is just plain rude. Rude in the first instance to BYO food/drink to a hosted party (absent a medical reason). Rude in the second instance to ask someone else's help to do your bidding. Rude in the third instance to refuse a host's request to put it away.
Add back in the money piece, and there is also a rude bit of cultural commentary being directed at the host and his wife.
Add back in the money piece, and there is also a rude bit of cultural commentary being directed at the host and his wife.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 11:46
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
The hostess is way more out of line than your husband, OP.
I say this as a super uptight, upper middle class sort of person, who would never want to see a beer at such an event.
The role of the host is to make guests feel welcome. If there is a guest who breaks a social rule and brings unwanted food or drink for his own consumption, it's the host's duty to make reasonable accommodations. Yes, the beer added a vulgar note to an otherwise elegant event. But the accommodation was easy to make, and the host should have smiled and thought of it as an "eccentricity" on the part of one of the guests.
Because the upper classes are never crass peasants with low tastes. They're just eccentric
The fact that the hostess became upset and is now hounding you is beyond the pale, and shows how insecure she is about her social position. No REAL upper class person, or gracious host, would let this bother them.
The correct course of action is to reply by mail on your monogrammed cardstock, expressing your regret that she is upset. It's not an apology. It's an empathetic acknowledgement of her fragility.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 11:46
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
You start by saying:
"My DH has a friend from childhood that has done extremely well for himself"....
So it's his friend and you should back down.
"My DH has a friend from childhood that has done extremely well for himself"....
So it's his friend and you should back down.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 11:45
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This must be the only guy in America still drinking Bud Light.
and Travis Kelcey
Even Travis Kelce can't save Bud Light. It won't recover.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 11:43
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Anonymous
12/18/2023 11:43
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Anonymous wrote:They’re both rude. He shouldn’t have made such a show of having the bud light (he packed a cooler?) and she shouldn’t have made a big deal about it.
ESH!
I agree. Does your husband have a drinking problem? Why a 70 qt cooler for two men at a party?
Hostess was out of line. Someone had a tantrum or mental break and broke my toilet seat at a party one time and I didn't demand they replace it the next day!
Anonymous
12/18/2023 11:42
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
How do you know it’s cost them $50,000? Anyway, no apology needed and don’t go next year.
Anonymous
12/18/2023 11:42
Subject: Husband Brought Bud light to Fancy Christmas Party
Your DH and the hostess were both wrong. You don’t take your own food and drink someone else’s event when it’s not a potluck. The hostess should have ignored the crass behavior and quietly removed you and the other friend from the invite list going forward if she’s that put out. However a gracious hostess would just have Bud in bottles at the bar next year and let you know in advance to leave the cooler at home.