Anonymous wrote:Notice I said “expecting” as the first word in that sentence. ENJOYING coffee with dessert is fine. EXPECTING it is annoying and passé.
Don’t hold up a restaurant meal by suddenly deciding *after the desserts have already been ordered and brought to the table* that you also need coffee. If you’re going to order it with dessert, put the order in at the same time as your dessert order. If the check drops and then you decide “coffee too,” you are not only making extra work for the server, but you are forcing everyone else to sit there longer when they are clearly ready to go.
And guess what, it’s 2023 and yes, your dining companions will leave you to it. Once the check hits the table, people are free to leave, and no that’s not rude. You are rude.
Similarly, if a host and hostess treat you to a nice meal at their home, they may offer coffee with dessert; of course you can accept. But if that’s not the habit of the house, it is beyond rude to ask for it. If you “need” coffee that badly, hit the 7/11 or McDonald’s on your way home. At a family member’s house, I suppose you could ask if you could make coffee, but only if you also offer to clean it up.
This is not a thing anymore. It’s annoying and passé. Enjoy it when you can, but don’t expect it and be rude about it.
Anonymous wrote:I will say I don’t know anyone under the age of 50 who regularly serves coffee with dessert. If they’re doing it, it’s because someone old asked for it, or there are older people at the restaurant in our party.
Anonymous wrote:Notice I said “expecting” as the first word in that sentence. ENJOYING coffee with dessert is fine. EXPECTING it is annoying and passé.
Don’t hold up a restaurant meal by suddenly deciding *after the desserts have already been ordered and brought to the table* that you also need coffee. If you’re going to order it with dessert, put the order in at the same time as your dessert order. If the check drops and then you decide “coffee too,” you are not only making extra work for the server, but you are forcing everyone else to sit there longer when they are clearly ready to go.
And guess what, it’s 2023 and yes, your dining companions will leave you to it. Once the check hits the table, people are free to leave, and no that’s not rude. You are rude.
Similarly, if a host and hostess treat you to a nice meal at their home, they may offer coffee with dessert; of course you can accept. But if that’s not the habit of the house, it is beyond rude to ask for it. If you “need” coffee that badly, hit the 7/11 or McDonald’s on your way home. At a family member’s house, I suppose you could ask if you could make coffee, but only if you also offer to clean it up.
This is not a thing anymore. It’s annoying and passé. Enjoy it when you can, but don’t expect it and be rude about it.
Anonymous wrote:I suspect OP really just doesn't like leisurely dinners with courses. They probably only drink coffee while they are walking or driving to save time and avoid people they don't like.
Anonymous wrote:Coffee with dessert is vulgar. One has a demitasse, no milk, after one has finished one's pudding.
(I don't actually follow this rule, but I bet people will get worked up about the statement despite this disclaimer)
Anonymous wrote:Notice I said “expecting” as the first word in that sentence. ENJOYING coffee with dessert is fine. EXPECTING it is annoying and passé.
Don’t hold up a restaurant meal by suddenly deciding *after the desserts have already been ordered and brought to the table* that you also need coffee. If you’re going to order it with dessert, put the order in at the same time as your dessert order. If the check drops and then you decide “coffee too,” you are not only making extra work for the server, but you are forcing everyone else to sit there longer when they are clearly ready to go.
And guess what, it’s 2023 and yes, your dining companions will leave you to it. Once the check hits the table, people are free to leave, and no that’s not rude. You are rude.
Similarly, if a host and hostess treat you to a nice meal at their home, they may offer coffee with dessert; of course you can accept. But if that’s not the habit of the house, it is beyond rude to ask for it. If you “need” coffee that badly, hit the 7/11 or McDonald’s on your way home. At a family member’s house, I suppose you could ask if you could make coffee, but only if you also offer to clean it up.
This is not a thing anymore. It’s annoying and passé. Enjoy it when you can, but don’t expect it and be rude about it.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm begging you to come back and explain how coffee with dessert is passé.
Not OP, but I do feel like that was pretty clearly addressed in the opening paragraph of the post. No?
NP. I disagree. Just because she says it's passe doesn't make it so.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm begging you to come back and explain how coffee with dessert is passé.
Not OP, but I do feel like that was pretty clearly addressed in the opening paragraph of the post. No?