Anonymous wrote:No, and I don't know any other married man who did so out of dozens of my friends.

I am a woman w/ a few straight male friends and I know a couple have cheated so I doubt that no one in your dozens has done so

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Anonymous wrote:That has to be a national average. I feel like the men in this area are too boring and tired to cheat that frequently.

I think it is the most boring men who are most likely to be dissatisfied with their lives and cheat.

Yes, but I’m boring and therefore have never had an opportunity to cheat.

Would you take the opportunity if it presented itself? Or would you make the opportunity if you figured out a way how?

I’d like to think I wouldn’t, but how would I know? Everyone on DCUM says men are only as faithful as their options. I’m not looking to make an opportunity and don’t expect one to fall in my lap.

In my 30 plus year career I’ve known a few guys who were on the road cheaters but nothing like what people are talking about here. Maybe I was just a happily married guy. But given how many unhappily married women are on this site complaining about their ADHD and on the spectrum husbands maybe the percent of cheaters is high and for a good reason. Most happily married men, not all, but most don’t have a need to cheat.

A woman I know has an extraordinarily handsome husband. He travels all the time and I sometimes wonder whether he cheats on her.

She complains a lot that they have no connection. You can tell that he is a high drive man, makes it clear when he thinks another woman is beautiful. But she once told me she brought up opening up the marriage and he got really upset. So maybe he’s not a cheater? Or maybe he wants to cheat but not let her. Who knows.

Anonymous wrote:No, and I don't know any other married man who did so out of dozens of my friends.

They aren’t telling you the truth

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Anonymous wrote:That has to be a national average. I feel like the men in this area are too boring and tired to cheat that frequently.

I think it is the most boring men who are most likely to be dissatisfied with their lives and cheat.

Yes, but I’m boring and therefore have never had an opportunity to cheat.

Would you take the opportunity if it presented itself? Or would you make the opportunity if you figured out a way how?

Different PP but I had several opportunities that I didn't pursue. I am very confident I could have, if I'd wanted to.

No, and I don't know any other married man who did so out of dozens of my friends.

Guy here. I work at a comapny with a large college hire program. So at any given time there are probably 1,000+ women in the 23-29 range on campus. They seem to like older, successful guys who are still attractive. I’ve been at this comapny over 10 years, and yes there are lots of beauties, and they make the workplace a better place to be, but I’ve never had an interest in cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:I believe it. I am a married woman and I get hit on all the time while on business travel. If your spouse travels regularly, chances are he is hooking up or at least trying.

This is such BS. You get hit on all the time because you put yourself in positions to be hit on and the horn dogs who are out there know where to find you. I’ve done business travel for years and yes, I’ve met horn dogs, but most of the men are decent.

I am new poster and I disagree. I go to a yearly conference that is always in my hometown, and even when I MYOB and don't attempt to socialize beyond one dinner that I always go to, I get messages from men at the event asking if I am free or want to grab a drink or when I'm leaving, etc...

When I go to other work events that I do socialize at (with my regular group of work friends from around the country) there are always always always people looking to have some additional fun.

It's just such an odd dynamic to put people together who are out of their element, free of family life for a few days and nights, and with tons of alcohol.

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I travel weekly in an industry that a lot of guys travel as well (finance). So many of my male colleagues cheat. It really is about opportunity for most of them. I have no doubt that most of them love their wives and families but they don’t expect anyone to find out outside of the workplace

I believe it. One friend group I'm in is entrepreneurs, all who are doing very well financially. Nearly all of them do. I've even been to a party hosted by one of them where he brought in a group of hired women, and anyone could just grab one and take her upstairs for some fun.

So gross. Hired women as play toys.

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Anonymous wrote:Divorce statistics, cheating statistics, yada yada. All I can do is influence my own marriage. If we are happy emotionally, physically, financially etc we won’t be a statistic and so far so good.

It seems like there are a lot of screwed up people in the world whose spouses are caught off guard by their indiscretions because things seemed happy and healthy. I think the best advice is to not make your marriage or any other one thing your entire life or reason for living, especially your marriage, career, or children. Life changes on a dime and you can lose anything and everything. You need to have a higher purpose.

No. Just a means to support yourself, your own good career and retirement.

It is what my parents told me and what I’d tell daughters if I had them. I have all sons and I tell them to take a careful look at family relationships.

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Anonymous wrote:That has to be a national average. I feel like the men in this area are too boring and tired to cheat that frequently.

I think it is the most boring men who are most likely to be dissatisfied with their lives and cheat.

Yes, but I’m boring and therefore have never had an opportunity to cheat.

What if you had one, and she was attractive and fun? Would you take it?

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Anonymous wrote:That has to be a national average. I feel like the men in this area are too boring and tired to cheat that frequently.

I think it is the most boring men who are most likely to be dissatisfied with their lives and cheat.

Yes, but I’m boring and therefore have never had an opportunity to cheat.

I think this is true of a lot of people.

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Anonymous wrote:That has to be a national average. I feel like the men in this area are too boring and tired to cheat that frequently.

I think it is the most boring men who are most likely to be dissatisfied with their lives and cheat.

Yes, but I’m boring and therefore have never had an opportunity to cheat.

Would you take the opportunity if it presented itself? Or would you make the opportunity if you figured out a way how?

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Anonymous wrote:That has to be a national average. I feel like the men in this area are too boring and tired to cheat that frequently.

I think it is the most boring men who are most likely to be dissatisfied with their lives and cheat.

Yes, but I’m boring and therefore have never had an opportunity to cheat.