Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious what advice other peoples parents gave them. Right or wrong my mother told me when I first started dating in college to never say I love the other person first and to marry someone who loves me just a touch more than I love them.

Be loyal if you seek loyalty. Be kind if you seek kindness. Be generous if you seek generosity. Be loving if you seek to become your partner's beloved. Be respectful if you seek to be respected.

That’s good advice.

I did get “Marry a blonde. Dark haired men leave more noticeable hairs in the sink. Ick.”

So random.

We had one conversation. It went like this:

Mom: “I can’t believe you are still unmarried at 30. What is wrong with you anyway that you can’t get a man to marry you?”

Me: “maybe I just haven’t met the right man.”

Mom: “No, that’s not it.”

Don’t date someone you would “never” marry. As soon as you figure out he’s not the one, it’s time to break up. The longer you stay together, the more you will ignore the reasons you intended to eliminate him, and those reasons were from your less-entangled more rational self.

Anonymous wrote:Just curious what advice other peoples parents gave them. Right or wrong my mother told me when I first started dating in college to never say I love the other person first and to marry someone who loves me just a touch more than I love them.

Be loyal if you seek loyalty. Be kind if you seek kindness. Be generous if you seek generosity. Be loving if you seek to become your partner's beloved. Be respectful if you seek to be respected.