Anonymous
12/19/2023 20:35
Subject: What’s an acceptable noise level with two young kids?
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have girls FWIW. I used to imagine doing crafts and cookies but they’re more into chase, pillow fights, and daredevil stunts.
I am going to work on more consistent reinforcement of inside voices. One is quiet at school and the other is loud but controls herself. So they can do it. I just need to bite the bullet and be ready for a long adjustment period of lots of breaks/consequences/trying again until they learn.
It is hard because DH is not really into parenting. Like he’ll help pick them up, prep dinner, help with homework, but he doesn’t have the energy to work on fixing undesirable behaviors.
He seems ready to complain about the behaviors he doesn't address with parenting though.
Anonymous
12/19/2023 20:30
Subject: What’s an acceptable noise level with two young kids?
OP here. I have girls FWIW. I used to imagine doing crafts and cookies but they’re more into chase, pillow fights, and daredevil stunts.
I am going to work on more consistent reinforcement of inside voices. One is quiet at school and the other is loud but controls herself. So they can do it. I just need to bite the bullet and be ready for a long adjustment period of lots of breaks/consequences/trying again until they learn.
It is hard because DH is not really into parenting. Like he’ll help pick them up, prep dinner, help with homework, but he doesn’t have the energy to work on fixing undesirable behaviors.
I am going to work on more consistent reinforcement of inside voices. One is quiet at school and the other is loud but controls herself. So they can do it. I just need to bite the bullet and be ready for a long adjustment period of lots of breaks/consequences/trying again until they learn.
It is hard because DH is not really into parenting. Like he’ll help pick them up, prep dinner, help with homework, but he doesn’t have the energy to work on fixing undesirable behaviors.
Anonymous
12/19/2023 11:22
Subject: What’s an acceptable noise level with two young kids?
My son and I both have this thing where our voices get really loud when we are excited about something. It's too loud for my daughter and husband, so they politely ask us to speak a little more quietly. Not once has it made me feel like we were being deprived of our rights or individuality. I care about how DD and DH feel so I lowered my voice and my son does the same.
It's okay to ask people to be quieter!
It's okay to ask people to be quieter!
Anonymous
12/19/2023 11:17
Subject: What’s an acceptable noise level with two young kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Occasionally being loud while playing is fine. Screaming about dinner or particular foods is not fine. Always screaming or yelling simply to communicate would absolutely not be allowed in our home.
Tell me you have girls without telling me you have girls.
NP. I have boys and I agree with PP.
+1 My boys were not loud.
Anonymous
12/19/2023 11:16
Subject: What’s an acceptable noise level with two young kids?
"I have tried telling them to be quieter, but my reminders are usually ignored."
This is the problem. You are not setting expectations and enforcing limits. This is how children learn. Teach them. They need to know that other people in the house have needs too, and that living in a community means taking others' needs into consideration. Time and place. Not always silent, but also not always loud. They learn this by the rules you teach and behaviors you reinforce.
This is the problem. You are not setting expectations and enforcing limits. This is how children learn. Teach them. They need to know that other people in the house have needs too, and that living in a community means taking others' needs into consideration. Time and place. Not always silent, but also not always loud. They learn this by the rules you teach and behaviors you reinforce.
Anonymous
12/19/2023 11:12
Subject: What’s an acceptable noise level with two young kids?
Sorry, I don’t do screeching and screaming. I have two girl cousins who would screech and scream and the combo together would actually make my ears buzz. As in, the two combined frequencies made my ears hum.
Kids can be kid without screeching and screaming about every little thing. Team DH. Both of you need to teach your kids about indoor voices.
And trust, this is annoying as hell to other people.
Kids can be kid without screeching and screaming about every little thing. Team DH. Both of you need to teach your kids about indoor voices.
And trust, this is annoying as hell to other people.
Anonymous
12/19/2023 11:01
Subject: What’s an acceptable noise level with two young kids?
Kids are loud, that's just reality. But...have you had their hearing checked? When my kid suddenly became louder than usual, it was because his ear tunes had fallen out and he was having ear infections again...