Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 11:11     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
I find it hard to believe that HR would fire you if you were a victim. I can see him getting fired, but there must be something more to this for them to have fired you too.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 11:03     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
What were you going to do with the settlement money? I guess you were going to keep that hidden from your husband? Crazy!
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 10:55     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
Are you using the term “non-consensual” because you didn’t or were unable to give consent (eg, you were unconscious, mentally incapable, or a minor)? Or is it more of an exploitative, “technically non-consensual” relationship because this person was in a position of power, but you still happily crawled into bed with him? Did your former employer settle to head off a rape allegation, or a hostile work environment allegation?

I think your husband believes the latter. Most of the other posters do as well.

Regardless, I think your husband is done with the marriage, right or wrong. Time to wrap up the divorce, get yourself in therapy, and then find someone who will rub your back.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 10:34     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
So you had an affair and leveraged that into cash and prizes. Your coochy is quite literally your "little money maker."
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 09:31     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
I think what amazes me the most about this post is that they have a shared household computer. Do people still do that?
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2023 00:36     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
What? What a horrible thing for you to say PP.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 21:43     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
Team OP. I hope you get a folded flag soon so you can move on from your loser hubby!
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 21:18     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
Anonymous wrote:This cannot be real


+1,000,000
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 21:13     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
Anonymous wrote:Here is the situation: I worked at a large law firm. I had a relationship with a partner that went beyond professional. I felt I was not in a position to say no, and I met for dates over several months. I agreed to an out-of-court settlement with the Law Firm. My partner and I no longer work there. My H knew nothing about any of it, as it all occurred while he was on extended TDY. He found the settlement documents on our shared household computer. H said he is more upset about my hiding the whole settlement than the fact that I might have had an affair. He says if I was indeed sexually abused at work, why wouldn't I tell him, and further that I hid the settlement from him is a breach of trust that cannot be repaired.

I have always felt with his constant travel that H is never there to take care of me. Now, I need him when I have a back injury and he won't help.


How can you never have shared any of this with your husband while it was happening. IOW, Hey hubby, I am being coerced at work? Or where was HR during all of this? I am team husband on this. Your lack of trust in your husband and lack of candor really put him out.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 20:24     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
This is nuts.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 18:50     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Here is the situation: I worked at a large law firm. I had a relationship with a partner that went beyond professional. I felt I was not in a position to say no, and I met for dates over several months. I agreed to an out-of-court settlement with the Law Firm. My partner and I no longer work there. My H knew nothing about any of it, as it all occurred while he was on extended TDY. He found the settlement documents on our shared household computer. H said he is more upset about my hiding the whole settlement than the fact that I might have had an affair. He says if I was indeed sexually abused at work, why wouldn't I tell him, and further that I hid the settlement from him is a breach of trust that cannot be repaired.

I have always felt with his constant travel that H is never there to take care of me. Now, I need him when I have a back injury and he won't help.


He’s right.


+1 I’m sorry you are going through such a hard time, but you hid so much from your DH. And of course he won’t take care of you now - you are separated.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 18:45     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
Anonymous wrote:This was already discussed. The settlement is separate funds he is not entitled to in a divorce and that is why she didn’t tell him.


This
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 18:38     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I swear OP posted about this a year or so ago. The story sounds familiar.


She even posted something similar recently. But I think she changed it to a contractor groped her. Either way the "husband discovering the lawsuit" is the same.


Op so either writing for LMN or writing a book. I swear I saw this movie before



It's beyond dumb. Hate these troll posts.
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 18:37     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I swear OP posted about this a year or so ago. The story sounds familiar.


She even posted something similar recently. But I think she changed it to a contractor groped her. Either way the "husband discovering the lawsuit" is the same.


Op so either writing for LMN or writing a book. I swear I saw this movie before
Anonymous
Post 12/14/2023 18:31     Subject: Husband Told Me to Call My AP
Anonymous wrote:Here is the situation: I worked at a large law firm. I had a relationship with a partner that went beyond professional. I felt I was not in a position to say no, and I met for dates over several months. I agreed to an out-of-court settlement with the Law Firm. My partner and I no longer work there. My H knew nothing about any of it, as it all occurred while he was on extended TDY. He found the settlement documents on our shared household computer. H said he is more upset about my hiding the whole settlement than the fact that I might have had an affair. He says if I was indeed sexually abused at work, why wouldn't I tell him, and further that I hid the settlement from him is a breach of trust that cannot be repaired.

I have always felt with his constant travel that H is never there to take care of me. Now, I need him when I have a back injury and he won't help.


Team husband