Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 18:39     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
"Couples who have friends who divorce have a 75% increase in the risk of their own marriage ending. Even couples with two degrees of separation from divorce still have a 33% greater risk."

This makes no sense. Who doesn’t have a friend who’s divorced? That’s everybody.


I don't have any friends or family who are divorced. My friends are for the most part very happily married, as are our parents and grandparents.


Are you over 40?
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 18:26     Subject: Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:These aren't reasons reasons, they are outcomes.

The title is what is interesting: lack of family support is the leading cause cited in 43% of marriages. I guess that means that the in-laws disapprove? Maybe the in-laws disapproving is less the causal factor and a sign that the partner really is bad for you. But who knows.


I bet "lack of family support" means that the husband won't stand up for his wife to his family and vice versa.


This was the final straw for me
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 17:23     Subject: Leading causes of divorce
Sometimes it feels like divorce is “cool”. Very often women feel trapped and when they are free they shine in happiness. There is even this thing called divorce party. I worked as a make stripper in college and boy are married men so clueless about their wives I’ll leave it at that…
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 17:07     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:One interesting stat in all this is infidelity and that women cheat more often than men.


Because it's so easy for a woman to find a sex partner that it's not even funny.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 16:46     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:One interesting stat in all this is infidelity and that women cheat more often than men.


I believe it. The 4 middle age divorces I know of recently (40s-50) were all caused by the wife getting caught cheating. Online availability has skyrocketed this demographic because they used to be SAH with no prospects, no co-workers, etc.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 16:43     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:
"Couples who have friends who divorce have a 75% increase in the risk of their own marriage ending. Even couples with two degrees of separation from divorce still have a 33% greater risk."

This makes no sense. Who doesn’t have a friend who’s divorced? That’s everybody.


Maybe some young couple? Or very religious? Then it all makes sense.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 16:11     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:
"Couples who have friends who divorce have a 75% increase in the risk of their own marriage ending. Even couples with two degrees of separation from divorce still have a 33% greater risk."

This makes no sense. Who doesn’t have a friend who’s divorced? That’s everybody.


Maybe they mean immediate family and your very closest friends?
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 15:18     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
One interesting stat in all this is infidelity and that women cheat more often than men.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 14:47     Subject: Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:lack of family support
lack of intimacy
too much conflict and
financial stress.

If it does have to do with the ILs, would the ILs not get great satisfaction from you divorcing? Why give miserable ILs that happiness? Nope.

I believe that most people who divorce, do so because of money issues. If someone thinks they are getting a windfall when their ILs die, they are often unpleasantly surprised.

Lack of intimacy I believe is true in many divorces, but cheating men often lie about "lack of intimacy" to the AP. Or maybe the husband just disgusts the wife, or the wife disgusts the husband, for all we know.

Likewise, sexless wives often lie about their once per month (but not EVERY month) "well Okay but make it fast" while playing the victim over his SHOCKING infidelity
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 14:42     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
"Couples who have friends who divorce have a 75% increase in the risk of their own marriage ending. Even couples with two degrees of separation from divorce still have a 33% greater risk."

This makes no sense. Who doesn’t have a friend who’s divorced? That’s everybody.


I don't have any friends or family who are divorced. My friends are for the most part very happily married, as are our parents and grandparents.


lol, yea sure they are.


+1
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 13:46     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The leading cause of divorce is female nature.


Agree. Lack of pragmatism and rational thinking. Thinking with emotions instead of using their brains


Men have emotions. They just don't control them well and often bury them till they explode. No one can take a look at the world today or the past and say that overall men are good at controlling their emotions. All they can say is that some men are good at hiding their emotions. Emotions are human nature. Controlling them is key. Both inward or external lack of control of emotions are problems in society.


This and we have rebranded anger as something other than an emotion.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 13:45     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
"Couples who have friends who divorce have a 75% increase in the risk of their own marriage ending. Even couples with two degrees of separation from divorce still have a 33% greater risk."

This makes no sense. Who doesn’t have a friend who’s divorced? That’s everybody.


I don't have any friends or family who are divorced. My friends are for the most part very happily married, as are our parents and grandparents.


I believe you.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 13:44     Subject: Leading causes of divorce
This is why I never did girl group or mom nights out. I always turned down those invitations, kept my female friend group very small and filled with positive-minded women. Mom nights and girls weekends inevitably turn into let's complain about our husbands sessions and you take that anger home with you. The women I know who did those groups ended up divorcing.

I've been married 30 years to the same guy now and still going strong. Don't allow corrosive forces into your mind, and heart.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 13:43     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
"Couples who have friends who divorce have a 75% increase in the risk of their own marriage ending. Even couples with two degrees of separation from divorce still have a 33% greater risk."

This makes no sense. Who doesn’t have a friend who’s divorced? That’s everybody.


I don't have any friends or family who are divorced. My friends are for the most part very happily married, as are our parents and grandparents.


lol, yea sure they are.
Anonymous
Post 12/08/2023 13:39     Subject: Re:Leading causes of divorce
Anonymous wrote:
"Couples who have friends who divorce have a 75% increase in the risk of their own marriage ending. Even couples with two degrees of separation from divorce still have a 33% greater risk."

This makes no sense. Who doesn’t have a friend who’s divorced? That’s everybody.


I don't have any friends or family who are divorced. My friends are for the most part very happily married, as are our parents and grandparents.