Yes, DH makes at least 2-3 times what my boss makes. I take great pleasure in it tbh, especially when boss is being annoying. At least I know I have one up on him.

Yes, my HHI is much higher than that of my boss. By quite a bit. No I don't "feel weird." Not sure why I would?

My boss makes 300k, but she’s a single mother (empty nest now), so we have a higher HHI, and live in a nicer house etc
But she still decides my raises lol

I dont think anyone thinks about this for more than half a second esp in the gov. Everyone knows that’s everyone has different situations and you don’t know honestly if anyone has inheritances or family money or anything like that which tons of people in this area do. Everyone is just living their lives.

Our HHI is much higher given my husband is the CEO of a good size company. I certainly don’t worry about it and my boss has never raised the issue of why I work given my husbands job. I’m good at what I do and I like the work so that’s all that matters.

OP, I’m in a similar spot and work hard to downplay our HHI. I’ve been in too many conversations where someone’s “need” for a raise was less because of what their spouse did. So this is real, despite what a few people on here are saying. I think some folks have figured it out, but it would have been from their own research etc.

I’ve worked with a couple of people with higher HHI than everyone around—bosses, coworkers, etc. One would work into conversations quite frequently; the other assiduously avoids pointing it out although does not lie about vacations, neighborhood, etc. While both women excelled and were well-respected and duly promoted, I can say it is more pleasant to work with the non-flaunting one.

Yes, largely due to DH and buying at the right time. I am careful not to flaunt but some things I can't hide - like where we are going on vacation etc. But like a PP said, my job/salary is based my qualifications and experiences, not my "need".

I am similarly very discreet. My husband and I have different last names and his first name is very common. Maybe people have searched, but I don’t share details of my DH’s work, ever.

I have had bosses with SAH spouses. I just don’t need the judgment (that I’m working when I don’t need to and/or that we can afford things they can’t). Maybe they wouldn’t care but maybe they would. They must feel some way about SAH vs working moms.

op - be less smug.
you dont actually care about their feelings. you just like thinking about the dynamic.
they're fine and you have no idea what their net worth is.

This has been my life at every position for 30 years as I'm married to a high earner and I'm a lower earner in the non-profit sector.

No one cares.

Anonymous wrote:If it is do you feel weird about it? My last boss and now my current boss are both dual feds so I ballpark know how much their HHI is. My HHI is much higher than theirs. Do you feel weird about that? I assume they know since they know my husband is a law firm partner. I work because I like working and would be a horrible stay at home mom.

They don't care. Also, fyi your husband could divorce you at anytime. This just happened to a friend of mine - husband high earning partner at top law firm and she was a low paid government attorney. Now she is pinching pennies.

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Anonymous wrote:Uh no, that doesn't happen in the corporate world.

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It happens all the time. HHI includes spousal income, inheritances, money from past jobs (I work with some ex-investment bankers), etc.

Also, in the corporate world it does happen that even individual salary or bonus can be higher than your bosses.' It's especially common in some technical fields where superstars can be paid more than their bosses, or in sales and business development fields where salespeople who have a great year(s) can make more than their bosses due to commission structures. I work in tech and both of these situations do happen in my company.

I'm assuming so because my boss' husband teaches spin classes at their local gym and my husband makes significantly more than I do.

Anonymous wrote:Uh no, that doesn't happen in the corporate world.

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