Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 20:53     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Anonymous wrote:I call BS because most daycares don’t take babies under 12 weeks.

Also please acquaint yourself with normal, professional norms of working from home. Most employers require workers to have childcare because the worker is . . . Working. I also “sit at a computer all day” but I have a demanding job and am in meetings and there is no way I could pop up and attend to a baby any time they cried.

Doesn’t a baby deserve an attentive caregiver, not a distracted adult trying to work?


6-8 weeks not 12.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 20:52     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Why don’t you watch the baby? She cannot work and care for a baby. She is right.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 20:51     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
If I had to return to work and daycare was the only recourse to make that happen (which is often is for young parents!) I would be devastated if a family member criticized my decision!! It’s hard enough to leave a baby without someone being judgey about a situation where you have no choice. Unless you’ve walked in their shoes, you have no business telling them they’ve done something wrong!!
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 19:15     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Unless you can pay for non-daycare childcare or provide it yourself, STFU OP!
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 19:05     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No one in the DC area is going to agree with you. Maybe there's a church community out there in the mountains of West Virginia that may.


I am a working mom with a PhD living in Bethesda and I agree with OP. That baby should absolutely not be in daycare. The baby probably sleeps a lot so it WOH for a few months is probably doable with the baby there. It depends on the job, obviously.


You can get a PhD in Puppetry so no one is impressed.


Yup, lots of sock puppeting going on here.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 19:05     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Curious how long you've been away from your homeland, OP. Your English is terrible.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 18:19     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No one in the DC area is going to agree with you. Maybe there's a church community out there in the mountains of West Virginia that may.


I am a working mom with a PhD living in Bethesda and I agree with OP. That baby should absolutely not be in daycare. The baby probably sleeps a lot so it WOH for a few months is probably doable with the baby there. It depends on the job, obviously.


You can get a PhD in Puppetry so no one is impressed.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 18:18     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
100% agree with OP.

Way too young and small for daycare.

Can the family all chip in help with at home care? That would be ideal.

Maybe talk to niece to see what’s involved with that and maybe you can help.

Agree much better for such a young baby to be home
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 18:18     Subject: Re:please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
I suspect you have never worked. I work from home but I actually WORK from home. Taking care of a baby is no joke, and there's no way I could get my job with a baby at home. Are you crazy? Also, mind your own business.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 17:42     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
So auntie daycare starts bright and early Monday am, right?
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 17:32     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No one in the DC area is going to agree with you. Maybe there's a church community out there in the mountains of West Virginia that may.


I am a working mom with a PhD living in Bethesda and I agree with OP. That baby should absolutely not be in daycare. The baby probably sleeps a lot so it WOH for a few months is probably doable with the baby there. It depends on the job, obviously.

How is your PhD relevant here?


It's not, but like attending Harvard, some people need to bring it up every time.

Believe me, Dr. Poster, you have made an impression.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 15:00     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Anonymous wrote:So my sisters daughter had a baby (previous) she was a preemie and at 2 months she's only about 9 lbs she's like a little doll.

niece works from home, has a very easy job as she's on her computer all day. she is actually taking this tiny 9lb baby to daycare so she can sit home and work. I am totally dumbfounded and expressed this, at which point we got in a. huge argument. My parents also weighed in and were equally upset.

Now if she worked outside the homeland had to work I could understand though I would still be sad that she's so tiny going to a daycare. But she's working from home!!! Curious if you agree?


Why aren’t you or your parents volunteering to watch your niece full time if you are so concerned?
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 14:50     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No one in the DC area is going to agree with you. Maybe there's a church community out there in the mountains of West Virginia that may.


I am a working mom with a PhD living in Bethesda and I agree with OP. That baby should absolutely not be in daycare. The baby probably sleeps a lot so it WOH for a few months is probably doable with the baby there. It depends on the job, obviously.

How is your PhD relevant here?
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 14:49     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No one in the DC area is going to agree with you. Maybe there's a church community out there in the mountains of West Virginia that may.


I am a working mom with a PhD living in Bethesda and I agree with OP. That baby should absolutely not be in daycare. The baby probably sleeps a lot so it WOH for a few months is probably doable with the baby there. It depends on the job, obviously.


<Yawn> Sure you are.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 14:40     Subject: please weight in on this argument with my sister and I
Anonymous wrote:So my sisters daughter had a baby (previous) she was a preemie and at 2 months she's only about 9 lbs she's like a little doll.

niece works from home, has a very easy job as she's on her computer all day. she is actually taking this tiny 9lb baby to daycare so she can sit home and work. I am totally dumbfounded and expressed this, at which point we got in a. huge argument. My parents also weighed in and were equally upset.

Now if she worked outside the homeland had to work I could understand though I would still be sad that she's so tiny going to a daycare. But she's working from home!!! Curious if you agree?


I do not agree. Working from home and actually working is difficult while taking care of a newborn. Why do you and your parents assume that your niece didn't research and ask the doctors if this was a good idea or not?

And it is none of your business unless you plan to do something productive!