My DD was in a similar situation and got cut at the next tryout. I wish I would have trusted my instinct and moved her sooner.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) definitely not the child’s fault
2) doubt that the coach will change their opinion

Where does it leave us?

Is your kid a good teammate? Do they show up to all trainings and give maximum effort? Do they pay attention to directions the first time? Do they play whatever position they are given without grumbling? Do they play their position correctly when on the field (in the pool, court, diamond, whatever sport we are talking about)?

OP here. That wasn’t me.

The answers to these questions by OP might give some more insight.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1) definitely not the child’s fault
2) doubt that the coach will change their opinion

Where does it leave us?

Is your kid a good teammate? Do they show up to all trainings and give maximum effort? Do they pay attention to directions the first time? Do they play whatever position they are given without grumbling? Do they play their position correctly when on the field (in the pool, court, diamond, whatever sport we are talking about)?

OP here. That wasn’t me.

Anonymous wrote:1) definitely not the child’s fault
2) doubt that the coach will change their opinion

Where does it leave us?

Is your kid a good teammate? Do they show up to all trainings and give maximum effort? Do they pay attention to directions the first time? Do they play whatever position they are given without grumbling? Do they play their position correctly when on the field (in the pool, court, diamond, whatever sport we are talking about)?

1) definitely not the child’s fault
2) doubt that the coach will change their opinion

Where does it leave us?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all of the advice. We will move when we are able to. I’m disappointed that I wasted time and money in a program that doesn’t provide any feedback.

I think you are just upset because he doesn't notice your special child.

Are you always such a dick?

No one is the villain in their own story, especially a story about their kid. I find it pretty had to believe the OPs kid has never recieved any feedback from the HC. Maybe it isn't to the level OP wants because it does seem fro.hiw OPs posts are OP is looking for constant validation.

Or maybe OPs kid doesn't listen to the feedback given and the coach is done trying to provide it.

I’m sorry for whoever hurt you.

Dumbest response ever

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all of the advice. We will move when we are able to. I’m disappointed that I wasted time and money in a program that doesn’t provide any feedback.

I think you are just upset because he doesn't notice your special child.

Are you always such a dick?

No one is the villain in their own story, especially a story about their kid. I find it pretty had to believe the OPs kid has never recieved any feedback from the HC. Maybe it isn't to the level OP wants because it does seem fro.hiw OPs posts are OP is looking for constant validation.

Or maybe OPs kid doesn't listen to the feedback given and the coach is done trying to provide it.

I’m sorry for whoever hurt you.

I really hate this fking stupid statement. WTF does that mean anyway? PP has a valid point and that’s your response?

-np

They always respond like that no other response comes up

Anonymous wrote:I have years of experience with sports teams and coaches and parents and kids and I can tell you that it is possible it's not your kid the coach doesn't like, it's you. That is actually a much more common scenario. He shouldn't take it out on the kid but maybe he's just adopted a total hands off approach. It's very likely other parents and coaches will not tell you this truth either. Look at yourself and see if that might be the problem.

Very true. Sometimes it isn’t that a parent is necessarily disliked, either…but coaches will often favor the kids of their favorite parents. Sometimes due to friendships or connections, or sometimes the parent just plain kisses a*s. Works the same as anything else in life.

OP, it is hard to determine if (1) the coach truly does not like your DD or (2) the coach favors others and you have noticed and don’t like it. I suspect it is probably (2). There will be favorites on every team due to various factors (skill/talent, very likeable kid, very likeable parent(s), parent connections, & honestly sometimes it is a total mystery). Moving teams won’t generally change that- it will just be a new set of favorites. You really can’t worry about these things- as long as DD is improving and having fun. Or- you can keep switching teams until you find one where your DD is one of the favorites. Many parents team jump constantly- always seeking such a situation. Usually doesn’t work.

Anonymous wrote:I have years of experience with sports teams and coaches and parents and kids and I can tell you that it is possible it's not your kid the coach doesn't like, it's you. That is actually a much more common scenario. He shouldn't take it out on the kid but maybe he's just adopted a total hands off approach. It's very likely other parents and coaches will not tell you this truth either. Look at yourself and see if that might be the problem.

Sure it could be this, it could be they don't like the child, it could be his dog died. We had a coach lose his mind on a kid and then we found out his brother had just be admitted to drug rehab. We also have our HS coach grab a kid in the locker room and shove him and later found out his mother had just been diagnosed with incurable cancer.

The reality the coach is human but the other reality is, he is also unprofessional.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all of the advice. We will move when we are able to. I’m disappointed that I wasted time and money in a program that doesn’t provide any feedback.

I think you are just upset because he doesn't notice your special child.

Are you always such a dick?

No one is the villain in their own story, especially a story about their kid. I find it pretty had to believe the OPs kid has never recieved any feedback from the HC. Maybe it isn't to the level OP wants because it does seem fro.hiw OPs posts are OP is looking for constant validation.

Or maybe OPs kid doesn't listen to the feedback given and the coach is done trying to provide it.

I’m sorry for whoever hurt you.

I really hate this fking stupid statement. WTF does that mean anyway? PP has a valid point and that’s your response?

-np

You can tell she is hurting by her overly emotional response to a simple post. It mean that somebody hurt her and now she sees the world through a warped lense which leads to over emotional responses to simple things.

I have years of experience with sports teams and coaches and parents and kids and I can tell you that it is possible it's not your kid the coach doesn't like, it's you. That is actually a much more common scenario. He shouldn't take it out on the kid but maybe he's just adopted a total hands off approach. It's very likely other parents and coaches will not tell you this truth either. Look at yourself and see if that might be the problem.

Why are there so many horrible human beings posting on all of the threads lately?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all of the advice. We will move when we are able to. I’m disappointed that I wasted time and money in a program that doesn’t provide any feedback.

I think you are just upset because he doesn't notice your special child.

Are you always such a dick?

No one is the villain in their own story, especially a story about their kid. I find it pretty had to believe the OPs kid has never recieved any feedback from the HC. Maybe it isn't to the level OP wants because it does seem fro.hiw OPs posts are OP is looking for constant validation.

Or maybe OPs kid doesn't listen to the feedback given and the coach is done trying to provide it.

I’m sorry for whoever hurt you.

I really hate this fking stupid statement. WTF does that mean anyway? PP has a valid point and that’s your response?

-np

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all of the advice. We will move when we are able to. I’m disappointed that I wasted time and money in a program that doesn’t provide any feedback.

I think you are just upset because he doesn't notice your special child.

Are you always such a dick?

No one is the villain in their own story, especially a story about their kid. I find it pretty had to believe the OPs kid has never recieved any feedback from the HC. Maybe it isn't to the level OP wants because it does seem fro.hiw OPs posts are OP is looking for constant validation.

Or maybe OPs kid doesn't listen to the feedback given and the coach is done trying to provide it.

I’m sorry for whoever hurt you.

I'm sorry a realistic view of like and many of the posts in this board gets in the way of your "story"

I get you can never admit you are wrong and I’m still sorry about whoever hurt you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all of the advice. We will move when we are able to. I’m disappointed that I wasted time and money in a program that doesn’t provide any feedback.

I think you are just upset because he doesn't notice your special child.

Are you always such a dick?

No one is the villain in their own story, especially a story about their kid. I find it pretty had to believe the OPs kid has never recieved any feedback from the HC. Maybe it isn't to the level OP wants because it does seem fro.hiw OPs posts are OP is looking for constant validation.

Or maybe OPs kid doesn't listen to the feedback given and the coach is done trying to provide it.

I’m sorry for whoever hurt you.

I'm sorry a realistic view of like and many of the posts in this board gets in the way of your "story"