Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 11:04     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your excuses ring hollow. If your boys are old enough to stand and pee, they can learn to lift and lower a toilet seat. It's not hard. Even my boys with SN, including fine/gross motor challenges and hypotonia do it. There are also a ton of devices that can assist - just go to Amazon.

Lifting/lowering a toilet seat is good manners. It's also a lot easier to learn than cleaning urine splatters and drips. I shudder to think how disgusting your bathroom is.

Team MIL


This is not about the toilet seat, it’s the lid. I never open or close it. Why?


I don't even know what this means. There's a lid. If you never open it, it's either open all the time, or you're peeing all over it. It's meant to be used. It keeps particles from flying into the air and provides a seat when needed (like if kids in tub, or waiting turn at the sink). Do your guests a favor, put it down when you're done and train your family members to do the same.


NP. Our bathrooms are cleaned weekly, and we still don't sit on toilet seats. That's disgusting. I'm shocked anyone does this.


You don't sit on the toilet seat even when you have to poop?? You must have some crazy leg muscles.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 11:03     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:wait hang on - is it the LID that's up or the SEAT?

if the lid, MIL needs to get over it - the seat, OP, you and your spouse need to change that habit ASAP


Seat! It's in the title of the thread.


She uses the term “toilet seat lid.”
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 11:01     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
Tell her to poop outside and walk away.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 11:01     Subject: Re:MIL and the toilet seat
Are we talking about the seat or the lid? We are a family of 4: mom, dad, teen boy, teen girl. My husband and teen son have always returned the toilet seat to the down position--my husband as long as I have known him and my son learned this during the potty training process. We never close the lid. We all prefer it up and if our guests have been horrified by that, not one has ever been rude enough to complain about it. Our bathrooms are always clean.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 11:00     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:wait hang on - is it the LID that's up or the SEAT?

if the lid, MIL needs to get over it - the seat, OP, you and your spouse need to change that habit ASAP


Seat! It's in the title of the thread.


Team MIL

And team future spouses who are also team MIL
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 10:59     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
Anonymous wrote:wait hang on - is it the LID that's up or the SEAT?

if the lid, MIL needs to get over it - the seat, OP, you and your spouse need to change that habit ASAP


Seat! It's in the title of the thread.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 10:59     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
The seat and the lid should stay down. Have you seen the videos of the aerosolized poop? Team MIL.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 10:55     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
wait hang on - is it the LID that's up or the SEAT?

if the lid, MIL needs to get over it - the seat, OP, you and your spouse need to change that habit ASAP
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 10:54     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"This is what works for us. If this is so bothersome to you, you may need to choose not to visit us. What you won't do is make a big deal about it, because it's not changing, and I don't care to hear your judgment about it any more. It's our house, our way, and you can leave if you don't like it. From now on, if you say anything about it, you will be asked to leave."


Don’t do this.


... then wants to know why her MIL doesn't leave her any jewelry in the will

sorry, had to thread merge
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 10:53     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'm with your MIL. Open toilet lids skeez me out. Teach your kids to close them - mine have never once pinched fingers. It's a good life skill.

What “skeezes” you out? You’re about to sit your naked body onto it. This is bizarre.


NP. Huh? The toilet ring often has pee splatter on it. That's why we all sit on the toilet seat because it's cleaner. No one is sitting their naked body on the toilet ring.

I can't stand going over to houses that have the toilet seat up. I'm an adult, but I have fallen in before and am traumatized. It's also ice cold porcelain vs the warmer plastic seat.


+1 and oh boy do i JUDGE when it's a mixed-sex bathroom and I go in after a guy who didn't put the seat down. what a selfish jerk who was never taught better manners.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 10:52     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
You are disgusting.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 10:51     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
Anonymous wrote:Honestly, I'm with your MIL. Open toilet lids skeez me out. Teach your kids to close them - mine have never once pinched fingers. It's a good life skill.


+1 PLEASE I am begging you teach your boys to put the seat down

I really try not to blame my in laws - who I do love - for my husband's various habits. But it's hard not to point some fingers when they, too, took such a laissez faire approach to teaching the better habits that would serve him once he left that warm nest.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 10:49     Subject: Re:MIL and the toilet seat
Lids should be shut at all times unless being used but ESPECIALLY when flushing.
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 10:48     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
Up all the time here too (lids).

I would just ignore any scene. If directed at me, I would be politely confused. “Wait, you’re upset? Oh no what happened? Oh you’re upset because the toilet lid was open? Of course it was; that’s normal, silly Bertha!”
Anonymous
Post 12/04/2023 10:47     Subject: MIL and the toilet seat
Just ignore her dramatics and do what you want to do. Some things are not worth getting into it over.