Anonymous wrote:Well,when I was little (I think about nine years old) I invited a girl to my Birthday party,and had the same problem.She started to be very mean.I knew my mom would be upset with me for inviting this girl.So I just ignored her the whole party and then had a small party with my family a few days later.But in your situation, I would call,E-mail,text,ect.the mean girl's mom and tell her that the party has been canceled due to family reasons. I know it sounds kinda wrong to do this,but it will work. Then just have your daughter's other friends come.

Teaching a kid to lie to solve a problem?

Odds are the DD's friends who attend the party will blab. Then, what?

Oh I just realized that this is very old. Oops.

Well,when I was little (I think about nine years old) I invited a girl to my Birthday party,and had the same problem.She started to be very mean.I knew my mom would be upset with me for inviting this girl.So I just ignored her the whole party and then had a small party with my family a few days later.But in your situation, I would call,E-mail,text,ect.the mean girl's mom and tell her that the party has been canceled due to family reasons. I know it sounds kinda wrong to do this,but it will work. Then just have your daughter's other friends come.

12:18 bump

I would call the morning of the party and say it was canceled due to ... fill in the blank. Or just tell the mom the truth. What would really be wrong with that. I would want to know if my daughter was being a little witch! You are not friends with the mom so nothing lost. No way would that little girl be allowed in my house. It is your daughters birthday party. What is that girl is mean to her on her special day and ruins the party. Could happen!

12:38 - Exactly.

I agree about responding with kindness. Have compassion on your daughter's ex friend by kindly explaining to her parents that the girls have been having a really hard time, so getting them together again is not a good idea. The girl's parents don't have to make it an issue (if they plan something else for that day, the girl will never know) or they can take advantage of the opportunity to kindly and firmly teach about consequences.

Have compassion for you kid by setting up a more positive situation. If she is passive, demonstrating that she is free to make choices about who is around her is a good lesson. No need to be angry, but you also have no obligation to have people in your house who --- at this point and for whatever reason --- will cause a negative and hurtful situation.

Whatever you do, be civil. You never know when you will see these folks again.

I never really understood why some people(mostly women) feel you have to be friends with everyone. You do not. Teach your dd the lesson now, if someone treat you bad, is disrespectful, says they don't want to be friends with you, move on! Don't invite them to your party! Call the other parent and tell her her dd can not come. She should understand and if she doesn't who cares!

Hey dumbasses, this thread is over a year old!

Oh my gosh! Seriously? If you really believe that this is unusual, then you haven't been the parent of a daughter for very long. And I'm not singling out the OP. Her daughter is only 6. Anyone who has ever raised girls knows that this is just what girls do. Boys get mad at each other. They might even get physical. Then a couple of hours later, they are over it and are the best of friends again. Girls get mad and stay mad "forever". They use words like "I'm not your friend". or "I don't like you". Then they get other friends on "their side". It's mean. But it's just girls. And the little groups change almost daily when they are in elementary and middle school. And warning: Middle school girls are by far the WORST!

I would not uninvite. I would not call the mom. I would let the little girl come to the party and see what happens. If nothing else, your daughter will score another present. And the "mean girl" isn't going to act out in front of you. Also, you might discover that your daughter has a little bit of "mean girl" in her as well.

/mom of five. Two of them of them are high school (senior and sophomore) girls.

Anonymous wrote:Take the helicopter down for a landing mom.

Give the kid a sip of beer.

I would just tell the mother that the party is cancelled.

Take the helicopter down for a landing mom.

Anonymous wrote:Call the mom, tell her what's been going on, and say you're worried that it will continue at the birthday party. Let her deal with it.

Agreed.

how about asking your child how she feels now that things have changed since the invite was made.