Anonymous
11/30/2023 11:59
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
We’ve never been invited to any sort of adult holiday party in the decade that we’ve lived in our current town. I used to live in NYC so I assumed that the culture where I live now is just different and more kid-centric.
Until this year: we are invited to a party this weekend and based on the run-up to it and the RSVPs I’m realizing that there is an entire adult party social scene that we’ve never been a part of that’s been happening all along. I feel silly and embarrassed! I think we’ve been seen as the kind of people that others are happy to accept daytime/family socializing invites from but we’ve never made the adult socializing/a-list cut.
Until this year: we are invited to a party this weekend and based on the run-up to it and the RSVPs I’m realizing that there is an entire adult party social scene that we’ve never been a part of that’s been happening all along. I feel silly and embarrassed! I think we’ve been seen as the kind of people that others are happy to accept daytime/family socializing invites from but we’ve never made the adult socializing/a-list cut.
Anonymous
11/30/2023 11:09
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How do you pen diplomatically on such invites to “keep this between us” so that those you don’t invite in your social circle/community orbit find out? Ideas?
Use Evite and don’t hide the guest list.
If you don’t hide the guest list, some people won’t come bc of who is invited (or not). Or they will start gossiping and saying X is having a party and Y, Z are invited but not A, B, or C.
Not if you don't invite emotionally immature people in the first place.
Anonymous
11/30/2023 10:30
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How do you pen diplomatically on such invites to “keep this between us” so that those you don’t invite in your social circle/community orbit find out? Ideas?
Use Evite and don’t hide the guest list.
If you don’t hide the guest list, some people won’t come bc of who is invited (or not). Or they will start gossiping and saying X is having a party and Y, Z are invited but not A, B, or C.
Anonymous
11/30/2023 10:06
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Introvert married to a diplomat. I have had enough "command appearances" for the rest of my life. So super glad we are not away at a post, where it literally snows invitations. We will attend ZERO parties this year - hallelujah!
Anonymous
11/30/2023 09:55
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
I get it. I, too, struggle with not being included. It feels ridiculous, like I'm back in high school, but everyone wants to feel like they are liked and a part of the group.
I hope you find your peace whatever happens this holiday season, OP.
I hope you find your peace whatever happens this holiday season, OP.
Anonymous
11/30/2023 08:10
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Sigh.
For the umpteenth time, it is HOLIDAY PARTY !!!!!
What are you talking about?
Don't mind that poster. They're on every thread that mentions Christmas. They have mental health issues.
Anonymous
11/30/2023 08:09
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Anonymous wrote:Sigh.
For the umpteenth time, it is HOLIDAY PARTY !!!!!
You're the most annoying person on DCUM! Give it up.
Anonymous
11/29/2023 21:59
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't think I've been invited to one as an adult (other than for work) and I didn't even realize it until this post. The holiday season is so busy already.
+1. I did not know it was a thing. oops
+2. Who has time to go to holiday parties in addition to the school and work events that happen this time of year?
Empty nesters. 😄
Anonymous
11/29/2023 21:04
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Anonymous wrote:I get it, OP. I LOVE Christmas parties and really look forward to them. I love dressing up for them, the fact they’re usually nicer than summer BBQs, they’re usually adults only, just everything. So I’ll be the 100th person to suggest hosting one. You’ll make others happy who get your invitation! Well, apparently not if you invite half this board. But invite the school families and have fun!
I get it OP. People are just not nice and like to be exclusionary.
Anonymous
11/29/2023 19:28
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
I get it, OP. I LOVE Christmas parties and really look forward to them. I love dressing up for them, the fact they’re usually nicer than summer BBQs, they’re usually adults only, just everything. So I’ll be the 100th person to suggest hosting one. You’ll make others happy who get your invitation! Well, apparently not if you invite half this board. But invite the school families and have fun!
Anonymous
11/29/2023 19:20
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
If this is what rich person/private school life is like, I’m so glad I don’t live like that!
Anonymous
11/29/2023 18:49
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Be the change, OP. host a big festive party.
Anonymous
11/29/2023 18:48
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Anonymous wrote:I don't think I've been invited to one as an adult (other than for work) and I didn't even realize it until this post. The holiday season is so busy already.
Right??? I’m so confused by this post.
Anonymous
11/29/2023 18:10
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm generally a level-headed person but I get so bummed around Christmas by what I see as a lack of party invites.
We're invited to a few but none from our kids' schools which are pretty social communities. I just got a text from a friend that said "see you at so-and-so's party and/or another one this holiday season!" and I thought,
'huh, we're not invited to that party or any others." We're pretty new to the schools (joined in middle school 4 years ago and high school 2 years ago) and I do know a few families really well but clearly we're not in the epicenter
of things.
We do have a college friends event and some family things but I always assume that everyone is going to big friend bashes. It's like my kryptonite of "feel bad about myself" that only comes out at the holidays.
I realize that being invited to things is mostly about the luck-of-the-draw of having friends who happen to throw them. And our friends are not them and I'm not that person either. So here we are. I'll feel better about this in a few weeks.
See a therapist you need help.
Ridiculous and juvenile
Get therapy for your lack of tact.
Anonymous
11/29/2023 18:08
Subject: I get so paranoid about not getting Christmas party invites
Anonymous wrote:Sigh.
For the umpteenth time, it is HOLIDAY PARTY !!!!!
What are you talking about?