Anonymous
Post 11/30/2023 00:06     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 15 and 13 years olds are obsessed with fortnite, as are all their friends. It started as a couple hours of play time on the weekend and now they are begging to play all the time. They are in a crappy mood when they aren't allowed on (because inevitably there is always a friend "on") and its hard to plan family activities because they see their fortnite time on weekends as playdates with their friends and don't want to miss out. It seems like the harder we push to get them off and set limits, the harder it gets to control. Curious how other parents are dealing with this. Appreciate any insight of what you've found works well for balance at your house. Thanks!


This is easy. Remove the game system from your house.


It's done on computers.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2023 00:05     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
Playdates?

No games during the school week. Weekends only after studying and homework is done and we check it.
Anonymous
Post 11/30/2023 00:00     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
OP, I hear you. I have 11 year old boys, and it is a struggle. But you have to be strong and set up rules and schedules and consequences.
Single Mom of 2
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 15:26     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
Anonymous wrote:I set boundaries so there are no surprises. If it’s time to go and he is with a friend, I’ll let him finish up the game in 10-15 min but that’s it. I get a lot of pushback and name calling but I stand firm and don’t engage. Later when he calms down, he apologizes for his behavior. I know it’s an addiction but it’s his only outlet for friends as he changed schools in the middle of the year and has no school friends. I also put him in sports to keep him busy. For us, he is only allowed to play on weekends. He has really bad grades right now so if he wants it during the week, he has to show us he can pull up his grades and keep them up.


So the game is impacting his behavior to the extent he is calling you names that he later regrets, he is getting bad grades, and he hasn't formed social connections at his new school and is using Fortnite as his social outlet? Why are you still allowing the game at all? I understand wanting him to maintain old social contacts, but it sounds like it is a net negative for him right now.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 15:12     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
For those hoping that the map change at the end of the month will result in kids stopping again, I wouldn't pin my hopes on that. The game maker has proven very adept at capturing a wide, fanatically devoted audience, and you're delusional if you think they're just going to end the map and say "oh well" as a huge chunk of players sign off. They certainly have something cued and and ready to go to continue to feed the engagement (or addiction, depending on your perspective).
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 10:19     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Both of my girls love Fortnite. It’s not just a boys game.

My son and his friends often play with female “skins”! 😂

+1 Lots of boys using female skins (thinner than male) to reduce their own target area!


that’s so funny! and there I was innocently believing they liked the bad-*ss girl as a rolemodel.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 10:18     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Both of my girls love Fortnite. It’s not just a boys game.


My son and his friends often play with female “skins”! 😂


Hah

My kid, too.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 09:45     Subject: Re:FORTNITE insanity
One of my boy plays with female skins on occasion, and not just Fortnite, because he says that you are more likely to receive in-game gifts/donations from other players (for those games that have the feature) than with a male skin. He's done some trial and error on this so I tend to believe its true.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 08:25     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Both of my girls love Fortnite. It’s not just a boys game.

My son and his friends often play with female “skins”! 😂

+1 Lots of boys using female skins (thinner than male) to reduce their own target area!
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 08:23     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The OG map ends at the end of the month. Your problem may go away on its own this weekend.

NP here. Thank you for this info. At the end of which month? I'm hearing about a big event this Sat.

Yes, that’s what some of us are waiting for. If your kid currently plays, this could be exciting and he could still be into it. For some of us with older boys, playing on this old world from when they were younger, we are thinking they will lose interest Sat when it changes.

Thanks. Our kid is an older/nostalgia player. I'm hoping the same. I expect Epic Games will be hoping to capture this market moving forward, though.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 08:16     Subject: Re:FORTNITE insanity
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are kids still playing Fortnite?

Never allow it in the first place is the best advice. And I have a 14 year old son so not saying this as a parent of a 7 year old.

I would go cold turkey personally. Get it out of your house.


How lame of a mom are you?!?

OP - just set X hours on weekdays and X hours on weekends.


How did we survive before Fortnite?


A lot of people drank.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 08:14     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
Anonymous wrote:My 15 and 13 years olds are obsessed with fortnite, as are all their friends. It started as a couple hours of play time on the weekend and now they are begging to play all the time. They are in a crappy mood when they aren't allowed on (because inevitably there is always a friend "on") and its hard to plan family activities because they see their fortnite time on weekends as playdates with their friends and don't want to miss out. It seems like the harder we push to get them off and set limits, the harder it gets to control. Curious how other parents are dealing with this. Appreciate any insight of what you've found works well for balance at your house. Thanks!


This is easy. Remove the game system from your house.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 08:10     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
Anonymous wrote:Both of my girls love Fortnite. It’s not just a boys game.


My son and his friends often play with female “skins”! 😂
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 08:07     Subject: Re:FORTNITE insanity
Anonymous wrote:Are kids still playing Fortnite?

Never allow it in the first place is the best advice. And I have a 14 year old son so not saying this as a parent of a 7 year old.

I would go cold turkey personally. Get it out of your house.


No. As per the OP’s post absolutely no one is playing. Neither are her kids.
Anonymous
Post 11/29/2023 08:00     Subject: FORTNITE insanity
Same issue with my 13 year old. I tell him he can have unlimited play as long as he’s physically with a friend, but he says that it’s not how it works. You can’t “take turns” on one system, you play together. His other friend do always seem to be on. Mine is only allowed to play at certain times. Winter is hard because his sports cut way back. He usually has practice 6 nights a week.