OP good for you for no being depressed. 9/10 posts related to divorce on this forum are about people crying, begging and whatnot about their divorce as if divorce is the end of the world.

Smack her in the face with reality and move out. You will feel better and she will eventually get over it.

I think her behavior is weird but that your reaction for now is wise. Once mediation is done and you guys have separated houses and finalized everything, you can detach more.

Anonymous wrote:Why are you divorcing?

I'm curious about this too.
You say you suggested counseling, but what came before that?
I think alot of her behavior could be explained by what happened in the prelude to her asking for divorce.

For example, if there were issues that you declined to work on for years until she got fed up and asked for divorce and then she got mad at you for them wanting counseling

Maybe she wants you to fight a little harder

Anonymous wrote:Why are you divorcing?

Wife sounds unhinged

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds mentally unstable. Stay away.

Yes, being polite and kind is mentally unstable. Pyscho.

We r not talking about being polite and kind. What we are talking about is that op’s wife wants a divorce on one hand and on the other she is acting like she wants to remain married. Thats psycho behavior. And there’s nothing polite and kind about belittling your spouse having an inflated sense of self worth

* and having inflated sense of self worth

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds mentally unstable. Stay away.

Yes, being polite and kind is mentally unstable. Pyscho.

We r not talking about being polite and kind. What we are talking about is that op’s wife wants a divorce on one hand and on the other she is acting like she wants to remain married. Thats psycho behavior. And there’s nothing polite and kind about belittling your spouse having an inflated sense of self worth

Others would know better than I would but I would not only move out but insist that all future communications go through some sort of text-based app designed to save correspondence in case this gets ugly.

Personality disorder.....A 50 mins phone call about non-divorce and/or kids related topics in the middle of divorce that's very uncommon.

What I am worried about most are the kids once you guys break the news to them. They will be confused because you guys are still acting like a normal couple, yet you are on your way to divorcing.

OP I recently divorced and dealt with a similar issue with DH. He was the one who asked for divorce and was also acting totally normal. We had a contested divorce without fights at home. However, post-divorce he turned into an extremely jealous person to the point where I am thinking of getting a restraining order.....I am seeing red flags all over in your case.

Anonymous wrote:I can't wait for UNDCMs women to blame you somehow for her psychotic behavior......remember it is always the guys fault that's why divorce is initiated by 70% of women.....

The woman hating incel makes an appearance…

Are you actually undergoing a formal in-home separation?

You need boundaries OP. On the phone with her for 50 min yesterday?

I would get a lock for the bedroom door so she can't just come in there and discuss with her an expectation that your rooms are private spaces and you will both knock before going in your respective rooms.

No 50 minute conversations unless related to the kids or divorce logistics or some other practical and necessary subject. I think you have to answer her call because you don't know if its something kid-related but once you determine it isn't tell her you're busy and need to get back to work or whatever. If she's in your room tell her you need to go so you can work on some divorce-related logistical item.