Anonymous
11/28/2023 06:17
Subject: Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
DCUM is such a fickle place! The first couple posters decided that the High School kid should be perfectly independent, and everyone piles on.
Where are all the lawyers pointing out the legal liability if the kid has a party? My parents left me when I was a senior for a weekend. While I didn’t have a party, I did have my boyfriend stay the weekend.
A senior in high school still has a developing prefrontal cortex and most college freshman stay in dorms, which are not unsupervised.
Where are all the lawyers pointing out the legal liability if the kid has a party? My parents left me when I was a senior for a weekend. While I didn’t have a party, I did have my boyfriend stay the weekend.
A senior in high school still has a developing prefrontal cortex and most college freshman stay in dorms, which are not unsupervised.
Anonymous
11/28/2023 05:32
Subject: Re:Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
Anonymous wrote:OP, I had the exact same situation and hired someone to stay with my 16-17 year old while we were gone for a week. All those that have come after you are absurd IMO. My DS left for school at 7 am and arrived home between 6-630 pm; he drove himself but the dog was at home all day. DS also needed someone to get have dinner waiting when he got home because he was starving when he walked in the door. We were out of the country and have no family nearby, so I was not at all comfortable just leaving him alone. I also didn't want him to have to deal with peer pressure on the weekend when all his friends would have definitely pushed for a party at our house.
You can post adds at AU or other nearby colleges - call and ask their student affairs offices. Or ask a neighbor with a college kid at home.
He didn’t “need” this. I say this as a parent who does all the grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning up for my kids. If I wasn’t around, however, they could manage. Your kid doesn’t need this more than any other kid.
Anonymous
11/27/2023 23:46
Subject: Re:Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
^ oops, meant PP.
Anonymous
11/27/2023 23:46
Subject: Re:Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
OP, I had the exact same situation and hired someone to stay with my 16-17 year old while we were gone for a week. All those that have come after you are absurd IMO. My DS left for school at 7 am and arrived home between 6-630 pm; he drove himself but the dog was at home all day. DS also needed someone to get have dinner waiting when he got home because he was starving when he walked in the door. We were out of the country and have no family nearby, so I was not at all comfortable just leaving him alone. I also didn't want him to have to deal with peer pressure on the weekend when all his friends would have definitely pushed for a party at our house.
You can post adds at AU or other nearby colleges - call and ask their student affairs offices. Or ask a neighbor with a college kid at home.
Regardless of the advisability of having someone stay with a HS senior, the bolded is just ridiculous.
Do better, PP.
Do you seriously think I need advice from you, internet stranger? My kid was a junior in high school with four hours of homework almost every night and he was getting six hours of sleep a night. So yes, I wanted someone to get him dinner to make his school days a little easier and because I didn't want him eating Chipotle or similar for a week straight. It's the same thing I would have done if I was home. He's now at one of the colleges people on this site love to strive for, calls home once a week and does his own laundry weekly, so I think I did fine.
Only on DCUM would a parent get bashed for acting like a parent. Be better, OP.
Anonymous
11/27/2023 22:35
Subject: Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd rather my kid stay home alone then with a complete stranger for a week.
same
You don't have a single friend/relative/neighbor that would take a self sufficient teen for a week?
Anonymous
11/27/2023 22:25
Subject: Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
We had DSs friend (a high school senior) stay with us while his parents were out of town. Kid would have been fine at home, but I think both he and his parents were more comfortable with an adult being in the house at night. It can be kind of creepy being alone in a quiet house, and being in a dorm at college isn’t the same.
I’d suggest OP see if her kid can stay with a friend and board the dog.
I’d suggest OP see if her kid can stay with a friend and board the dog.
Anonymous
11/27/2023 17:50
Subject: Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd rather my kid stay home alone then with a complete stranger for a week.
same
+1
Anonymous
11/27/2023 17:49
Subject: Re:Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
Anonymous wrote:OP, I had the exact same situation and hired someone to stay with my 16-17 year old while we were gone for a week. All those that have come after you are absurd IMO. My DS left for school at 7 am and arrived home between 6-630 pm; he drove himself but the dog was at home all day. [/b]DS also needed someone to get have dinner waiting when he got home because he was starving when he walked in the door[b]. We were out of the country and have no family nearby, so I was not at all comfortable just leaving him alone. I also didn't want him to have to deal with peer pressure on the weekend when all his friends would have definitely pushed for a party at our house.
You can post adds at AU or other nearby colleges - call and ask their student affairs offices. Or ask a neighbor with a college kid at home.
Seriously? This is embarrassing.
Anonymous
11/27/2023 17:34
Subject: Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
Anonymous wrote:Why can’t your teen take care of the dog if they will be home?
I assume because the teen is in school during the day, plus maybe some after-school activities? Why is this hard to understand?
Anonymous
11/27/2023 16:26
Subject: Re:Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
Anonymous wrote:OP, I had the exact same situation and hired someone to stay with my 16-17 year old while we were gone for a week. All those that have come after you are absurd IMO. My DS left for school at 7 am and arrived home between 6-630 pm; he drove himself but the dog was at home all day. DS also needed someone to get have dinner waiting when he got home because he was starving when he walked in the door. We were out of the country and have no family nearby, so I was not at all comfortable just leaving him alone. I also didn't want him to have to deal with peer pressure on the weekend when all his friends would have definitely pushed for a party at our house.
You can post adds at AU or other nearby colleges - call and ask their student affairs offices. Or ask a neighbor with a college kid at home.
Regardless of the advisability of having someone stay with a HS senior, the bolded is just ridiculous.
Do better, PP.
Anonymous
11/27/2023 16:25
Subject: Need to find a person to stay with my teen and dog while we go away
Anonymous wrote:I'd rather my kid stay home alone then with a complete stranger for a week.
same