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Anonymous wrote:You are Indian, right? You're not doing a CArey Bradshaw, wearing a lehenga?

What’s wrong with a non-Indian wearing a lehenga? Several people wore Indian dress to our wedding. My grandmother and aunts helped the women with draping their clothes. People also wear them to our Diwali parties.

It's cultural appropriation - you can do it but it's poor taste and won't age well.

Let me guess, you are a white person. An Indian person would never say this.

I am Indian-American and I loved the friends who got Indian clothes for my wedding. They looked amazing and it was so nice to see so much effort. They had fun looking glam too. We had a Bollywood group dance and all that.

And obviously it was an Indian wedding and not like wearing a sari for Halloween...

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone have recommendations for where I can buy Indian wedding clothing, ready to wear that can be shipped to the USA in fast order?
I'm looking at Kalki, Aza, biba and G3 but don't know what else is out there thanks for any help!

There’s a pop-up shop in Montgomery Mall that’s selling Indian party wear, located next to the kids play area on the lower level. The clothes look somewhat better than the Indian shop in Federal Plaza next to Trader Joe’s.

I was going to recommend Montgomery Mall.

I am Indian-American and was surprised to see it there, but looked great.

OP again - appreciate the discussion on cultural appropriation but would LOVE suggestions on actual names of shops in the DMV that have in fashion lenghas/ indian outfits. I saw 1 or 2 shops and it was all old fashioned stuff. This is for a family member's wedding.

Anonymous wrote:My cousin married in a Hindu temple. She suggested a lehenga but they are very expensive. I wore this cheapo dress and everyone loved it:

https://www.asos.com/us/asos-design/asos-design-satin-maxi-dress-with-batwing-sleeve-and-wrap-waist-in-mustard/prd/14929511?affid=26521&freelisting=yes

The dress should not show legs, shoulders or cleavage and it should be a color (i.e. not black or white) to show you are happy about the marriage. Red is typically reserved for the bride. There are plenty of websites selling modest dresses like this.

Are you my 80 year old mother? Nope, shoulders and cleavage and even midriff are fair game. Agreed with not showing leg unless you have a slit. Slits are fine.

Cultural appropriation is a complex topic, but when I was in India, Indian people I worked with were very excited to get me (extremely white) into Indian clothes.

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Anonymous wrote:Rolling my eyes at the people suggesting you buy designer clothes for some rando's wedding.

As for the debate about cultural appropriation - the key is to wear something ethnic but more understated. Avoid red or hot pink, poofy, or a ton of beadwork.

I didn't even wear designer clothes at my own Indian wedding! I just wore something I liked. People are being ridiculous.

+1. All of our money was spent on food/drinks/take-home gifts, which are all anyone really cares about at Indian weddings.

Anonymous wrote:Rolling my eyes at the people suggesting you buy designer clothes for some rando's wedding.

As for the debate about cultural appropriation - the key is to wear something ethnic but more understated. Avoid red or hot pink, poofy, or a ton of beadwork.

I didn't even wear designer clothes at my own Indian wedding! I just wore something I liked. People are being ridiculous.

I have Ruby's in Tysons to go to - if anyone has specific store names that sell clothing please let me know.

Rolling my eyes at the people suggesting you buy designer clothes for some rando's wedding.

As for the debate about cultural appropriation - the key is to wear something ethnic but more understated. Avoid red or hot pink, poofy, or a ton of beadwork.

There’s an Indian store at the Dulles mall that sells very beautiful lehengas, and shalwar Kameezes both wedding formal and semi formals.
Ruby’s at Tysons too is good.

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Anonymous wrote:You are Indian, right? You're not doing a CArey Bradshaw, wearing a lehenga?

What’s wrong with a non-Indian wearing a lehenga? Several people wore Indian dress to our wedding. My grandmother and aunts helped the women with draping their clothes. People also wear them to our Diwali parties.

It's cultural appropriation - you can do it but it's poor taste and won't age well.

I have Indian heritage and I completely disagree that non-Indians wearing lehengas or other Indian clothing to an Indian wedding is cultural appropriation. What a ridiculous statement.

PP - I've been to many, many Indian weddings with non-Indians present, and not once has anyone ever been offended that white people were wearing Indian clothes. It was actually appreciated that non-Indian friends and family made the effort to do that. Indian people, in my experience, are very welcoming of others embracing their culture.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are Indian, right? You're not doing a CArey Bradshaw, wearing a lehenga?

What’s wrong with a non-Indian wearing a lehenga? Several people wore Indian dress to our wedding. My grandmother and aunts helped the women with draping their clothes. People also wear them to our Diwali parties.

It's cultural appropriation - you can do it but it's poor taste and won't age well.

Let me guess, you are a white person. An Indian person would never say this.