Rx medicated mother. Serial cheater dad. Living "wealthy" on the outside, but struggling to pay bills on the inside. Mother having no ability to mother, dad never home. All siblings now independent, close and extremely successful. No divorce. People always ask our parents what was their secret to raising such successful kids.

My answer: We were sink or swim. We raised ourselves and had no back up or plan b. It was succeed or fail and be alone.

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Anonymous wrote:I know someone who is raising her children in polyamorous living arrangements. She and the children's bio dad purchased a home with two more adults, ended up selling it a few years later because the relationships weren't working out. Now they have another home with an ADU they rent out to another lover.

Nothing about the actual childhoods here. You seem focused only on the private lives of other people. You sad perv.

This thread is about the private lives of other people though. And yes, this is about their childhood being in a non-traditional environment. Sounds like this really hit a nerve.

I believe the title of the thread is "non-traditional childhood"
not "non-traditional romantic set up"

To quote the OP:
"I'm looking for stories outside of the cookie cutter nuclear arrangement with 30 year mortgage."

This applies, your complaints don't. Go police another thread.

And yet its not your childhood nor do you describe one. Hum... I wonder if that still qualifies. No. It does not.

And yet it's not your childhood, nor do you describe one. You are the very thing you complain about. You're just petulant and small-minded.

How do you know what else I posted on this thread? I've posted several answers completely unrelated to your BS. You know absolutely nothing, it's astounding.

By all means, please let us know more about your childhood. You don't seem well-adjusted in your adult life.

Sure, whatever makes you happy. You're not asking me questions and I'm not answering.

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Anonymous wrote:Third culture kid here. I loved it. I don’t know how people can live in one area their whole lives. I guess they find it cozy, but I liked exposure to new learning experiences.

So glad to hear it, as a TCK raising her own TCKs. I do find it curious that you say you loved it, thouigh -- did you say that at the time? I ask because people always ask how my kids like living overseas, and my main answer is -- that is their life, they don't really say "gee, I love being a TCK" any more than a kid in DC says, "I love being raised in the DC metro area." Or? Genuine question.

I am a DP, but also a third culture kid (dad was a diplomat). I didn’t like moving around so much growing up; hard to start over in a new country/school/friends every few years. My kids are getting the US suburbs, picket fence, neighborhood school experience. That said, I do want to move somewhere new once youngest kid is in college - this is the longest I’ve lived in one place (10 years), and it’s getting kinda boring!

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Anonymous wrote:I know someone who is raising her children in polyamorous living arrangements. She and the children's bio dad purchased a home with two more adults, ended up selling it a few years later because the relationships weren't working out. Now they have another home with an ADU they rent out to another lover.

Nothing about the actual childhoods here. You seem focused only on the private lives of other people. You sad perv.

This thread is about the private lives of other people though. And yes, this is about their childhood being in a non-traditional environment. Sounds like this really hit a nerve.

I believe the title of the thread is "non-traditional childhood"
not "non-traditional romantic set up"

To quote the OP:
"I'm looking for stories outside of the cookie cutter nuclear arrangement with 30 year mortgage."

This applies, your complaints don't. Go police another thread.

And yet its not your childhood nor do you describe one. Hum... I wonder if that still qualifies. No. It does not.

And yet it's not your childhood, nor do you describe one. You are the very thing you complain about. You're just petulant and small-minded.

How do you know what else I posted on this thread? I've posted several answers completely unrelated to your BS. You know absolutely nothing, it's astounding.

By all means, please let us know more about your childhood. You don't seem well-adjusted in your adult life.

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Anonymous wrote:I know someone who is raising her children in polyamorous living arrangements. She and the children's bio dad purchased a home with two more adults, ended up selling it a few years later because the relationships weren't working out. Now they have another home with an ADU they rent out to another lover.

Nothing about the actual childhoods here. You seem focused only on the private lives of other people. You sad perv.

This thread is about the private lives of other people though. And yes, this is about their childhood being in a non-traditional environment. Sounds like this really hit a nerve.

I believe the title of the thread is "non-traditional childhood"
not "non-traditional romantic set up"

To quote the OP:
"I'm looking for stories outside of the cookie cutter nuclear arrangement with 30 year mortgage."

This applies, your complaints don't. Go police another thread.

And yet its not your childhood nor do you describe one. Hum... I wonder if that still qualifies. No. It does not.

And yet it's not your childhood, nor do you describe one. You are the very thing you complain about. You're just petulant and small-minded.

How do you know what else I posted on this thread? I've posted several answers completely unrelated to your BS. You know absolutely nothing, it's astounding.

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Anonymous wrote:I know someone who is raising her children in polyamorous living arrangements. She and the children's bio dad purchased a home with two more adults, ended up selling it a few years later because the relationships weren't working out. Now they have another home with an ADU they rent out to another lover.

Nothing about the actual childhoods here. You seem focused only on the private lives of other people. You sad perv.

This thread is about the private lives of other people though. And yes, this is about their childhood being in a non-traditional environment. Sounds like this really hit a nerve.

I believe the title of the thread is "non-traditional childhood"
not "non-traditional romantic set up"

To quote the OP:
"I'm looking for stories outside of the cookie cutter nuclear arrangement with 30 year mortgage."

This applies, your complaints don't. Go police another thread.

And yet its not your childhood nor do you describe one. Hum... I wonder if that still qualifies. No. It does not.

And yet it's not your childhood, nor do you describe one. You are the very thing you complain about. You're just petulant and small-minded.

My Dad was Bipolar before anyone really knew what it was and was given the wrong medications until I was in my 40s. He drank to self-medicate. I can't really blame him. All of that really changes your childhood even if your parents stay married and can afford a 30 year mortgage. I have so many stories that I sometime wonder if I should write a book. Thankfully, my siblings and I are all high- functioning happy adults. We knew we were loved despite all of the chaos.

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you looking for non-traditional in the "unstable" sense or the "did different things that grow up in the same house with a mom and dad and kids from birth through college"

Not in the unstable sense, but just grew up differently and at the same time had a good childhood that led to a good adulthood.