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Anonymous wrote:20% just… isn’t that much? So let’s say she went from 130 to… 156?? Hardly enough to feel like it’s something to bring up to her! Post her actual stats bc if it’s something like 130—>156 and she’s taller than 5 feet even, this is a joke.

I was thinking the same thing. And is this weight gain since they started dating?

So, what, she weighs 25lbs more at 40 than she did at 20, and she gained a lot of it during pregnancy with your kids?
Is this really that big of a deal?

You apparently didn't read the post. The weight gain he's talking about is just in the past couple years, long after the babies.

Ok so she is menopausal (9 years after the last kid could easily be late 40s) and gained a little weight. Extremely common. Many many women say they need to eat only 1200 calories a day post menopause to not gain any weight. Which is very very little. Again if it’s something like 130 to 156 in someone approaching 50, I do not see any issue.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do people keep talking about time to exercise. That has basically nothing to do with weight loss. In fact, exercise is usually counterproductive for weight loss. To lose weight, you have to reduce your calorie intake, which means eating less, which usually requires developing better eating habits. That doesn't really take extra time out of your day. Might even take less since you're eating less.

So, how much weight have you lost, and successfully kept off, by only eating less? We'll wait. And don't fudge the "kept it off" part. Tell us your age and genetic details too, PP. What, you won't? So you don't comprehend that age, activity level, genetic background, hormones and more than just "eat less" all affect weight loss.

Not that pp but agree with them. Five years ago, I gradually cut my calories (no crash). After 5 months, I'd lost 30#, which was my goal. At that point, once I felt I had learned how to eat properly, I started exercising. As I increased my exercise level, I also slightly increased my calories. In the 4.5 years since, my weight hasn't varied by more than 1# on any day. I have not yoyo'd at all. Perfectly stable weight loss entirely from calorie reduction. Everybody thinks they know how to lose weight because they listen to a bunch of charlatans telling them confusing, contradictory, and incorrect things that somehow sound good, but the proof is that people who follow that struggle to lose weight. It's actually about learning how to regulate your calorie intake.

Anonymous wrote:My response would be "it's good to want things," and then ignore and live my life as I otherwise would.

Mine would be like, “Great! I’m happy to have a coach in this. What’s the plan?”

I feel like this is kind of like telling your spouse that you want them to get a promotion.
Unless you have some kind of plan on how you are going to help or increase their efforts, then it’s kind of just you picking a fight.

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Anonymous wrote:20% just… isn’t that much? So let’s say she went from 130 to… 156?? Hardly enough to feel like it’s something to bring up to her! Post her actual stats bc if it’s something like 130—>156 and she’s taller than 5 feet even, this is a joke.

I was thinking the same thing. And is this weight gain since they started dating?

So, what, she weighs 25lbs more at 40 than she did at 20, and she gained a lot of it during pregnancy with your kids?
Is this really that big of a deal?

You apparently didn't read the post. The weight gain he's talking about is just in the past couple years, long after the babies.

Anonymous wrote:20% just… isn’t that much? So let’s say she went from 130 to… 156?? Hardly enough to feel like it’s something to bring up to her! Post her actual stats bc if it’s something like 130—>156 and she’s taller than 5 feet even, this is a joke.

I was thinking the same thing. And is this weight gain since they started dating?

So, what, she weighs 25lbs more at 40 than she did at 20, and she gained a lot of it during pregnancy with your kids?
Is this really that big of a deal?

Budget some money to get her Ozempic or the like.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why foreign women are better (from that mega thread a few weeks ago)

You can be more honest with them and they won’t act a fool

OP, just be honest.

“Larla, you’ve gained weight. I’m concerned about how that affects your health and attractiveness. Let’s build a nutrition and fitness plan to get you back to your prior best”

"Sure. I would like to go to the gym 5 times a week, M-F, 7:30-9 pm. By the time I come home, the kids should be in beds, all their stuff including lunch ready for the next day, the kitchen should be clean, the dinner prep for tomorrow should be finished. Oh, you only come home at 7:30? No problem, I can wait a few minutes for you to take your shoes off".

She should keep her shoes on. Better for that swift, hard kick in the a$$ she's going to give him. Bet his "trim" a$$ is still big enough to be an easy target, too.

Anonymous wrote:Why do people keep talking about time to exercise. That has basically nothing to do with weight loss. In fact, exercise is usually counterproductive for weight loss. To lose weight, you have to reduce your calorie intake, which means eating less, which usually requires developing better eating habits. That doesn't really take extra time out of your day. Might even take less since you're eating less.

So, how much weight have you lost, and successfully kept off, by only eating less? We'll wait. And don't fudge the "kept it off" part. Tell us your age and genetic details too, PP. What, you won't? So you don't comprehend that age, activity level, genetic background, hormones and more than just "eat less" all affect weight loss.

My response would be "it's good to want things," and then ignore and live my life as I otherwise would.

I read this as "predict what my wife would say if I told her I wanted to lose some weight.". She would say, "Cool! Go for it!"

Since that's not what you asked, I predict that she would say, "There's the door."

Anonymous wrote:OP is a jackass. Would still like to see his stats. I bet he's got a belly as big as a beach ball.

And balls that droop in the pot.

You better watch out for those black eyed peas.

OP is a jackass. Would still like to see his stats. I bet he's got a belly as big as a beach ball.

Why do people keep talking about time to exercise. That has basically nothing to do with weight loss. In fact, exercise is usually counterproductive for weight loss. To lose weight, you have to reduce your calorie intake, which means eating less, which usually requires developing better eating habits. That doesn't really take extra time out of your day. Might even take less since you're eating less.

If she gained that much, I would frame the request as a medical consult, OP. This is serious.

Very often, in middle age, people become hypothyroid. Symptoms are weight gain and fatigue. They need thyroid supplementation in the form of daily pills.

So she needs bloodwork for thyroid hormones, but while she's there, she might as well have the CBC panel, just in case she's anemic or has other issues. The doctor can check her blood pressure and cholesterol, for example, and will be able to discuss diet and exercise more pointedly with those numbers.