Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 22:48     Subject: Cross dressing baby
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I still chortle at the memory of the African American ladies of our daycare telling my Asian husband, who was responsible for pick-up and drop-off, that they didn't want my 6 months old son dressed in pink girly outfits.

The back story is that at the second trimester ultrasound, we were told he was a girl. Then he was born premature (no other ultrasound), but my aunt had already sent us pink outfits, and we'd already bought a pink stroller. So he went to daycare with a variety of different boy and girl outfits. As if we cared! And he certainly didn't!

People are weird. You laugh. It's fine.

We did abandon this daycare shortly thereafter, because they weren't very good, and the clothes issue was the just the tip of the iceberg.


I don't understand what race has to do with this?


PP you replied to. Because we are not American, and I noticed that these African-Americans ladies were a little more socially conservative than the Caucasian-Americans we met in our Montgomery County, MD, neighborhood. When our kids went to preschool, there was also a group of African-American and South American teachers who seemed much more intent on perpetuating gender stereotypes than their Caucasian-American counterparts.

We are non-US Asian. Our families back home are VERY conservative, but we expect it from them. Not from people from the US east coast, so much.

So it was kind of funny!




I don’t know if you are still following this thread but… please never say this stuff in IRL
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2023 16:38     Subject: Cross dressing baby
1SWMom wrote:It’s a costume let children of any
Age and gender wear what they want.


OP here,

I can’t believe this came back up! My niece didn’t express any opinion other than she pushed the hood off her head. I don’t think that had anything to do with her feelings about gender or Grover.
1SWMom
Post 12/06/2023 07:27     Subject: Cross dressing baby
It’s a costume let children of any
Age and gender wear what they want.
Anonymous
Post 11/03/2023 17:54     Subject: Cross dressing baby
Anonymous wrote:Grover?! People are mad about GROVER?!

Of all the things in this world..


OP here,

It wasn’t actually Grover but in the same vein of children’s character that you know is male but not exactly manly if that makes sense. It is exactly as absurd as someone being mad about Grover.

I just didn’t want to name the actual character in case someone is reading and recognizes since it’s not my baby.
Anonymous
Post 11/02/2023 13:58     Subject: Cross dressing baby
Grover?! People are mad about GROVER?!

Of all the things in this world..
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2023 14:08     Subject: Cross dressing baby
So weird, but I don’t think this is a troll thread! Someone trick or treating at my house yesterday was REALLY confused that my baby is a boy, because he was wearing red pajamas. Like asked several times. Just….what?

Honestly the objecting family are doubly weird for objecting to a girl in a boy costume, because we all know the “gender neutral” stuff always skews towards things traditionally (annoyingly) associated with boys anyway. Dark green; dinosaurs etc. And remember how when we were kids, it was acceptable for girls to wear boyish t-shirts and whatnot, but unthinkable for boys to dress in a tutu?
Anonymous
Post 11/01/2023 08:00     Subject: Cross dressing baby
I know right? Just think of the identity complex my baby is growing up with having been dressed as a cat. Definitely turned her into a furry.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2023 19:01     Subject: Cross dressing baby
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My #2 DD wore #1 DS baby clothes all the time. I would add some pink for specal occasions but for day to day onsies...anything goes. I am now paying college tuition and have NO regrets.


If it was the other way around, would you dress your son in tutus? Probably not. It's easier to dress girls in boy clothes.


Not PP, but I had a friend that had her son in head to toe pink his first year. Long awaited second after a bigger age gap, and she drug all of big sister’s baby stuff out of the attic and didn’t buy anything new. Be like her!


I have an older girl/younger boy and I moved along the frilly dresses but at age 2 he still wears almost entirely handmedowns. It’s not really that hard if you don’t go in for super gendered clothing (read: onesies with gendered slogans on them). The fact that we even distinguish “boys” and “girls” clothes for babies is totally silly in my opinion.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2023 18:05     Subject: Cross dressing baby
Anonymous wrote:Weirdly, there are no objections from my widowed FIL, he approves of the frugality! The people objecting are the same generation as the baby’s parents.

Equally weirdly, the person objecting the most had a girl who dressed as Thomas the Tank Engine one year. She says that was different because they


I just realized I hit post in the middle!

The person objecting says that her 3 year old daughter dressing as Thomas was fine because it was the 3 year old's idea, but the 5 month old baby girl dressing as Grover is having gender ideas pushed on her, since she can't consent.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2023 09:27     Subject: Cross dressing baby
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t dress my boy in an obvious girl costume…

Like Wonder Woman or a princess. Fight me. …i don’t care i just wouldn’t do that to my baby boy. Those animal characters are pretty gender neutral.


I feel the same way. Strangely, I wouldn’t have a problem with my girl wearing a male character like Batman or Spider-Man. I know that’s contradictory but idc.


+1
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2023 09:05     Subject: Cross dressing baby
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t dress my boy in an obvious girl costume…

Like Wonder Woman or a princess. Fight me. …i don’t care i just wouldn’t do that to my baby boy. Those animal characters are pretty gender neutral.


I feel the same way. Strangely, I wouldn’t have a problem with my girl wearing a male character like Batman or Spider-Man. I know that’s contradictory but idc.
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2023 09:03     Subject: Cross dressing baby
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My #2 DD wore #1 DS baby clothes all the time. I would add some pink for specal occasions but for day to day onsies...anything goes. I am now paying college tuition and have NO regrets.


If it was the other way around, would you dress your son in tutus? Probably not. It's easier to dress girls in boy clothes.


Not PP, but I had a friend that had her son in head to toe pink his first year. Long awaited second after a bigger age gap, and she drug all of big sister’s baby stuff out of the attic and didn’t buy anything new. Be like her!
Anonymous
Post 10/31/2023 07:50     Subject: Cross dressing baby
Weirdly, there are no objections from my widowed FIL, he approves of the frugality! The people objecting are the same generation as the baby’s parents.

Equally weirdly, the person objecting the most had a girl who dressed as Thomas the Tank Engine one year. She says that was different because they
Anonymous
Post 10/30/2023 22:47     Subject: Cross dressing baby
When DS was 4, he wanted to be a witch. Not a warlock, but a witch in a black dress, black hat, etc. My mom had a comment or two about how he was wearing a dress and it was a "girls" costume. I rolled my eyes. He was 4 and it was Halloween.