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Anonymous wrote:My wife AND family attend the annual board meeting. It is offsite at a five star resort over several days.

My wife also attends company holiday party and annual board dinner. My wife and family have been invited twice on job interviews out of state.

You can tell a lot by a persons family.

If a spouse is not on board male or female with their spouses job and career not going to work.

And your spouse and kids better behave. The “cut of one’s jib” is important.

That's actually a salient point. How many CEOs and VPs are being interviewed with their families on-site? Is it at the 5th interview? The 6th? I saw a post a few weeks' ago about a person who had to travel to meet their boss and it turns out they were requested to meet with the CEO in surprise the same day.

Corporations do want to know you're surrounded by acceptable people.

Seems kinda messed up to ding a candidate based on their family. What if a kid is special needs? Or spouse has a disability? What if the candidate is single or lives with a partner?

Really weird to assess a candidate based on their family.

In my case I interviewed two out of state jobs at a senior level that required I sell my house, move my family and buy a new house near their office. My jobs were to start immediately, my wife would be in charge packing up old house and arranging all that and kids moving schools and states.

My wife was a SAHM, I told them I can move no problem asap, stay in apt in new state next few months and wife and kids are on board with it. I think they wanted to verify that

Same, for c level relocations into a long term position they fly in your spouse and kids to your the area, have dinner, and they gauge how serious you all are about moving before giving a verbal and then written offer.

They will ask your spouse: so, how do you feel about moving to Dearborn Michigan?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife AND family attend the annual board meeting. It is offsite at a five star resort over several days.

My wife also attends company holiday party and annual board dinner. My wife and family have been invited twice on job interviews out of state.

You can tell a lot by a persons family.

If a spouse is not on board male or female with their spouses job and career not going to work.

And your spouse and kids better behave. The “cut of one’s jib” is important.

That's actually a salient point. How many CEOs and VPs are being interviewed with their families on-site? Is it at the 5th interview? The 6th? I saw a post a few weeks' ago about a person who had to travel to meet their boss and it turns out they were requested to meet with the CEO in surprise the same day.

Corporations do want to know you're surrounded by acceptable people.

Seems kinda messed up to ding a candidate based on their family. What if a kid is special needs? Or spouse has a disability? What if the candidate is single or lives with a partner?

Really weird to assess a candidate based on their family.

In my case I interviewed two out of state jobs at a senior level that required I sell my house, move my family and buy a new house near their office. My jobs were to start immediately, my wife would be in charge packing up old house and arranging all that and kids moving schools and states.

My wife was a SAHM, I told them I can move no problem asap, stay in apt in new state next few months and wife and kids are on board with it. I think they wanted to verify that

Anonymous wrote:What industries/jobs require spouse to attend events?

I am a professional who is paid for my skilled work, so my business and employers have never required me to bring my spouse to an event to mingle.

Anonymous wrote:Require you to have a spouse attend events? Almost none. Politicians?

Optional events where you can bring spouse? Most middle manager and above type jobs - holiday parties, client dinners, etc.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife AND family attend the annual board meeting. It is offsite at a five star resort over several days.

My wife also attends company holiday party and annual board dinner. My wife and family have been invited twice on job interviews out of state.

You can tell a lot by a persons family.

If a spouse is not on board male or female with their spouses job and career not going to work.

And your spouse and kids better behave. The “cut of one’s jib” is important.

You should never be involved in hiring. You are a lawsuit waiting to happen.

I obviously don’t hire people on that level. Both those jobs were on retainer with outside search agencies.

Look when asking a family to move states. Husband or Wife is taking in a 50-60 hour a week job that starts immediately the spouse has to be on board.

And no they can’t ask. But recruiter advised in “knock out” rounds you have to “volunteer” information.

If I say straight up. My wife is a SAHM and I discussed this opportunity with her and my children and all on board. In fact I am still in my starter home we outgrew and was already looking for a new home and this is a perfect opportunity.

I can start immediately, will rent a place near office M-F. I have no issues at all.

Person 2 days nothing. They can’t ask.

I think people don’t realize SAHM is a hard demanding career. People are judged. We did dog and pony show twice. Imagine stress flying to new state with wife and three kids and managing them while interviewing. I can’t which is why wife in charge. It also costs a fortune with new outfits. Hair salon appointments etc. I have a country club dinner my wife is attending with literally people you see on Tv or read about. She finds then stressful

I be more than happy to be the SAHD and let her do my job. But we both can’t do my job. I either need to be divorced, single or have a supportive spouse.