Anonymous wrote:Hi,

My son hang out in the night at Washington DC until early morning 9 (3 am or 4 am).(once a week or so) He is 23 and working in DC. He is still completing his undergrad. Is this normal for his age kid to do these.
I worried about his habits and well being. He presently stay with us. How do we control this behavior?

He’s very naive.

Bars in DC close at 3am on the weekends.
You people often stay until they turn the lights back on and kick people out.
Then they take an Uber or cab back home which sometimes involves a wait because a lot of people are calling Ubers or waiting for cabs.
Sometimes they will get food (there are pizza places and diners open 24 hours) or stand and talk.

So 3-4am isn't anything to be concerned about. He just likes to make the most of the night!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In most cases parents do not know, and should not know, their adult child's schedule.

This.

I think respondents were very harsh.

I would share OP’s concern, which is why it is best for kids this age to move out. Otherwise, friction is to be expected.

I agree PP, some comment are harsh. No loving/caring parents here I guess.

OP, DC is full of young/college age adults hanging out at night. DC night life ends around 2am.

I would not worry unless he's been drinking and has a long commute back home.

Anonymous wrote:Hi,

My son hang out in the night at Washington DC until early morning 9 (3 am or 4 am).(once a week or so) He is 23 and working in DC. He is still completing his undergrad. Is this normal for his age kid to do these.
I worried about his habits and well being. He presently stay with us. How do we control this behavior?

Routinely or for like a bday party at a club and late night food?

Still in undergrad?? Hope he passes his finals this week.

Sounds like a bad idea to have such a crap sleep schedule at end of semester nor as a student

It can be hard to watch our children’s lives up close and personal when we still love them but no longer have control over their decisions.

It will be better when he is out of the house.

If you think he has a substance abuse problem, you might offer to pay for therapy.

Anonymous wrote:Kid??? You realize your son is an adult, right? Calling him a kid at 23 is pretty scary.

You are overreacting.

He is also one of her “children” even though he is not a child anymore.

Unclench.