Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 15:09     Subject: Re:Baby gift from ILs
In less than a minute I found more than 15 options for regular strollers (not umbrella) for less than $100. OTOH, I didn’t see any that came close to $700 - though admittedly I spent less than a minute looking.

Maybe you should feel lucky that they gave you money instead of buying you a stroller. That way you were able to get what you wanted.

Not everyone thinks spending a lot on a stroller makes sense. I am in that camp. You use them for such a short window of time.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 14:40     Subject: Re:Baby gift from ILs
So you’re annoyed they didn’t pay for the entire $700 stroller or didn’t give you more towards it? I’m sure you know what this says about you…
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 14:28     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
Anonymous wrote:I need to vent anonymously because I know this makes me sound shallow, but I can’t help it.

My in-laws are retired and wealthy with lots of disposable cash. For example, they recently bought his and hers Teslas, seemingly on a whim. These are “fun” cars for them that they have in addition to their SUVs that they drive regularly.

DH and I had our first baby over the summer. This is not their in-laws’ grandchild. In-laws told us they wanted to buy us a stroller as a baby gift. Great, very generous, it sounded like. They told us to pick what we like and they’d pay for it. Next thing I know, they’ve given us a card with a $100 check marked “stroller”. Kinda awkward, but we went ahead and bought the stroller we wanted, which, as you can imagine, was well over $100. DH and I both thought this was odd especially since they have other grandchildren so have been in that world a while… it’s not like they’re thinking $100 would get you a stroller back in the day, so it would now, too.

Anyway, I’d probably just shrug it off as odd, except now, whenever we see them, and often we do something with the baby in the stroller, they’re gratuitously referring to it as “our stroller” saying things like, “wow, glad to see you’re getting so much use from our stroller.” It would be obnoxious if they’d bought us the stroller but it’s over the top since they paid about 15% of the stroller’s cost. It’s taking all I have not to say this to them!

Vent over, but I’m justified in thinking they’re terribly cheap, right?


My first reaction is that 1) yes, they are cheap, but; 2) you aren't qualified to decide what is "cheap" if you spend that much on a stroller.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 11:07     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
Anonymous wrote:My wealthy ILs gave us an old cradle and DH's old baby clothes (for our daughter). So I win.



OMG! My inlaws pulled a dusty, 30+ year old high chair out of their attic and presented us with that as if we were supposed to be thrilled. I just said it looked a little rickety and went out and got a plastic Ikea one. The most insulting part was that they didn't even wipe the dust off.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 11:04     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
Anonymous wrote:Old people don't know how much things cost, OP. You sound like an entitled brat.


Yep it's this.
My parents are wealthy and this exact scenario played out with our first baby -- $100 for a stroller. Which we graciously accepted! They also contribute $200 a year each to our kids' tuition and act like they're making a significant dent in that bill.
When my grandfather died my father distributed money with strings attached and put the rest in some sort of fund. He gave our family $30k for us to have our kitchen and bathroom remodeled. Of course this didn't even cover half of the kitchen (old house, needed lots of plumbing/electrical work) and we didn't even bother with the bathroom. And my father insists we got robbed and should have shopped around for even more "bids" as if contractors would be fighting over doing our little kitchen.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 10:56     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
Anonymous wrote:I mean, do you want to be petty—and accurate—or play the long game and get a nice inheritance?


They will probably leave estate to charity. Good for them. Don’t count other people’s $$ OP. The in-laws know you do this so are making a statement. Earn your own $$. You sound entitled.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2023 20:52     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guarantee that my parents (who have several grandchildren) have absolutely no idea how much a stroller costs. Heck, I only barely know because I got mine second hand. It’s not like they’re constantly in stores that sell strollers.


This is my feeling too. The grandparents are just clueless, regardless of having had other grandchildren first. This scenario of the $100 gift is probably exactly how it played out with the other family members too. Everyone just smiled and nodded and thanked them and here you are several grandchildren later and the grandparents are just blissfully unaware.

I don't think there is intentional cheapness or anything else involved.


This. I think you are gross, OP.

If you want a fancy stroller, you can pay for it yourself, as you mostly did.
Anonymous
Post 10/20/2023 20:36     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
GROW UP!!
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2023 22:29     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
Anonymous wrote:OP, you are being petty but I'm in a mood tonight so I will tell you what to do. Buy a stroller for $100. When they notice it, say "Yes, this is the stroller we got with your gift! It's so great to have something inexpensive that we can travel with so we don't worry about our main one getting ruined."

When they say they thought they paid for the other one, act confused and have no memory of previous conversations. Say "No...that one is our main stroller. It was like $700 and I'm sure you didn't want to spend that much on a stroller. This is the one you got us. It's so great, thank you again!"


Please don't do this, it's passive-aggressive and rude.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2023 22:28     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
I'm sure my parents wouldn't know what a stroller would cost.

If my in-laws made that comment, I'd say "thank you so much for the stroller! We really appreciate it!"

Anonymous
Post 10/19/2023 21:45     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
My wealthy ILs gave us an old cradle and DH's old baby clothes (for our daughter). So I win.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2023 21:44     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
Old people don't know how much things cost, OP. You sound like an entitled brat.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2023 11:57     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guarantee that my parents (who have several grandchildren) have absolutely no idea how much a stroller costs. Heck, I only barely know because I got mine second hand. It’s not like they’re constantly in stores that sell strollers.


This is my feeling too. The grandparents are just clueless, regardless of having had other grandchildren first. This scenario of the $100 gift is probably exactly how it played out with the other family members too. Everyone just smiled and nodded and thanked them and here you are several grandchildren later and the grandparents are just blissfully unaware.

I don't think there is intentional cheapness or anything else involved.


+1000. It's a generous gift. Say thank you out loud and silently thank your lucky stars that you have in-laws who can take care of themselves financially. This will save you so much in the long run...way more than 600 bucks for an overpriced hunk of molded plastic that you will only use for 3 years at most.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2023 09:57     Subject: Baby gift from ILs
OP, sorry, but this sounds very entitled.
Anonymous
Post 10/19/2023 09:48     Subject: Re:Baby gift from ILs
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you spent $700 on a stroller you’re an idiot. In terms of your IL’s that’s kind of cheap but I’d be interested in how they view you as a DIL.


Oh please - walk into any library in the suburbs in this area and it’s filled to the brim with Uppababy vistas. That sentiment is not shared with the masses here.


Ha! An Uppababy vista is $1000

Even a basic graco stroller from Target is $300

Prices of everything are going up.


What? This Graco stroller is $120, on sale for $77 https://www.gracobaby.com/strollers/compact-lightweight-strollers/nimblelite-lightweight-stroller/SAP_2106657.html


Yeah, that one is more like an umbrella stroller.


Tell me you don't know what an umbrella stroller is without telling me you don't know what an umbrella stroller is. 🙄