Anonymous wrote:I do think you sound a bit smug.
Anonymous wrote:I welcome anyone who has let their kids fill out their own applications, have NOT hired a counsellor or coach, and are letting this be their kids journey, not theirs.
Please come on in and share your stories!
Here’s mine - DD refused to let us look at her essays and supplementals - not even just to proofread. Wasn’t about to fight with her on that. She’s got a good head on her shoulders and I’m sure she will end up exactly where she belongs!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
We went through college admissions last year.
No one I know, NO ONE, was chill about it.
In this day and age, chill does not exist for the families who are aware of what all this entails. Sure, your kid can only apply to safeties, go test-optional, chatGPT their essays. Perhaps the family doesn't fill out financial aid forms. But the kid still need to request letters of recs, transcripts, they still need apply by the deadline, and the Common App has questions few 17 year olds know how to answer about their parents' education... unless they guesstimate that too.
So the only ones who are chill are the ones who are half-assing it.
That IS a legit strategy if you're happy with where they end up, and money is no object, or if they're applying to community college.
But usually parents are a little more demanding, given that college is a lot of money for most households.
Hate to break your bubble, but there ARE “chill” students. I teach at a DMV private full of high-achieving students. There are definitely students agonizing over supplementals for the 15-17 schools they are applying to. There are an equal number of students, many also high-achieving, who have set very realistic goals for themselves and aren’t stressing.
I’ve been at this a long time. Both groups are going to get into college. Perhaps the stressing group will end up at an Ivy, but most in the other group don’t actually want top 20 schools. And that’s okay.
We should be happy that they are all content with their paths in the end.
You, the teacher, knows who is stressing out and who isn't, in the privacy of their own home? If you're so immature that you don't understand that anxiety is not necessary visible to you, the teacher, then I doubt you have enough understanding of human nature to BE a teacher.
School selectivity doesn't matter, since students are at different levels and someone's safety can be someone else's reach. 99% of families find college admissions stressful, regardless of where their kids apply.
Seriously. What abysmal stupidity.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
We went through college admissions last year.
No one I know, NO ONE, was chill about it.
In this day and age, chill does not exist for the families who are aware of what all this entails. Sure, your kid can only apply to safeties, go test-optional, chatGPT their essays. Perhaps the family doesn't fill out financial aid forms. But the kid still need to request letters of recs, transcripts, they still need apply by the deadline, and the Common App has questions few 17 year olds know how to answer about their parents' education... unless they guesstimate that too.
So the only ones who are chill are the ones who are half-assing it.
That IS a legit strategy if you're happy with where they end up, and money is no object, or if they're applying to community college.
But usually parents are a little more demanding, given that college is a lot of money for most households.
Hate to break your bubble, but there ARE “chill” students. I teach at a DMV private full of high-achieving students. There are definitely students agonizing over supplementals for the 15-17 schools they are applying to. There are an equal number of students, many also high-achieving, who have set very realistic goals for themselves and aren’t stressing.
I’ve been at this a long time. Both groups are going to get into college. Perhaps the stressing group will end up at an Ivy, but most in the other group don’t actually want top 20 schools. And that’s okay.
We should be happy that they are all content with their paths in the end.
You, the teacher, knows who is stressing out and who isn't, in the privacy of their own home? If you're so immature that you don't understand that anxiety is not necessary visible to you, the teacher, then I doubt you have enough understanding of human nature to BE a teacher.
School selectivity doesn't matter, since students are at different levels and someone's safety can be someone else's reach. 99% of families find college admissions stressful, regardless of where their kids apply.
Seriously. What abysmal stupidity.
Anonymous wrote:
We went through college admissions last year.
No one I know, NO ONE, was chill about it.
In this day and age, chill does not exist for the families who are aware of what all this entails. Sure, your kid can only apply to safeties, go test-optional, chatGPT their essays. Perhaps the family doesn't fill out financial aid forms. But the kid still need to request letters of recs, transcripts, they still need apply by the deadline, and the Common App has questions few 17 year olds know how to answer about their parents' education... unless they guesstimate that too.
So the only ones who are chill are the ones who are half-assing it.
That IS a legit strategy if you're happy with where they end up, and money is no object, or if they're applying to community college.
But usually parents are a little more demanding, given that college is a lot of money for most households.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
We went through college admissions last year.
No one I know, NO ONE, was chill about it.
In this day and age, chill does not exist for the families who are aware of what all this entails. Sure, your kid can only apply to safeties, go test-optional, chatGPT their essays. Perhaps the family doesn't fill out financial aid forms. But the kid still need to request letters of recs, transcripts, they still need apply by the deadline, and the Common App has questions few 17 year olds know how to answer about their parents' education... unless they guesstimate that too.
So the only ones who are chill are the ones who are half-assing it.
That IS a legit strategy if you're happy with where they end up, and money is no object, or if they're applying to community college.
But usually parents are a little more demanding, given that college is a lot of money for most households.
Hate to break your bubble, but there ARE “chill” students. I teach at a DMV private full of high-achieving students. There are definitely students agonizing over supplementals for the 15-17 schools they are applying to. There are an equal number of students, many also high-achieving, who have set very realistic goals for themselves and aren’t stressing.
I’ve been at this a long time. Both groups are going to get into college. Perhaps the stressing group will end up at an Ivy, but most in the other group don’t actually want top 20 schools. And that’s okay.
We should be happy that they are all content with their paths in the end.
Anonymous wrote:OK i'm crashing your thread- sorry. I just find your tone really self-satisfied and know-it-all.
I know kids last year who crashed and burned with your "mellow out" strategy. NOt all family can afford to be "chill." Not all kids have their act together by senior year. Some kids have ADHD or learning differences and need support through the process. This process can be overwhelming for neurotypical kids as well. The applications are complex and it's the first time kids have done this. I am not advocating a hostile takeover of the process but being a helpful sounding board is reasonable. Also it's the biggest investment I'll make as an adult so, yeah, if looking over an essay for typo's helps my kid get merit aid- I'm down for that.
Anonymous wrote:We didn’t see our son’s essay. His HS teacher and guidance counselor had all that input. Truthfully it made me a little off not seeing it, like I wasn’t part of the process. I helped him with the Fafsa and we need have several college conversations and visited colleges. Hes in first semester college and very happy so far. And it’s not a college I would have seen him attending; sometimes as parents we end up being surprised.
Anonymous wrote:
We went through college admissions last year.
No one I know, NO ONE, was chill about it.
In this day and age, chill does not exist for the families who are aware of what all this entails. Sure, your kid can only apply to safeties, go test-optional, chatGPT their essays. Perhaps the family doesn't fill out financial aid forms. But the kid still need to request letters of recs, transcripts, they still need apply by the deadline, and the Common App has questions few 17 year olds know how to answer about their parents' education... unless they guesstimate that too.
So the only ones who are chill are the ones who are half-assing it.
That IS a legit strategy if you're happy with where they end up, and money is no object, or if they're applying to community college.
But usually parents are a little more demanding, given that college is a lot of money for most households.
Anonymous wrote:I welcome anyone who has let their kids fill out their own applications, have NOT hired a counsellor or coach, and are letting this be their kids journey, not theirs.
Please come on in and share your stories!
Here’s mine - DD refused to let us look at her essays and supplementals - not even just to proofread. Wasn’t about to fight with her on that. She’s got a good head on her shoulders and I’m sure she will end up exactly where she belongs!