Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 08:32     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
Anonymous wrote:I get it OP, you aren’t really upset about the birthday, it’s about playing favorites and being detached.


Indeed. I'm not even upset about this anymore, and I have said nothing to anyone on the subject except what I have posted here. It will always be disappointing, and I am allowed to have my own personal feelings.
Anonymous
Post 10/13/2023 08:31     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
Anonymous wrote:Why is your subject line “MIL literally forgot grandchild’s birthday” when FIL is apparently still alive and of sound mind and body? Hmm?

Yeah yeah, you mention him in the original post, but you clearly lay most of the blame at HER feet. After all, she has a vagina, and family birthdays are women’s work in your eyes, eh, OP?


He's not FIL. He's SFIL. He wasn't around when DH was a child, so I don't really expect him to put in any effort. We aren't family, after all.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 22:35     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
OP, your daughter will learn to focus her efforts of love, time and attention on those who appreciate and reciprocate. Best thing is, you don't have to do or say anything for this to happen. You shouldn't. You actually could mess-up her radar on this by making this about your feelings.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 22:28     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
^ My ILs forget our kids’ birthdays but they also forget everyone else’s so we don’t mind. We just call them on the birthday to get their wishes.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 22:27     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
I get it OP, you aren’t really upset about the birthday, it’s about playing favorites and being detached.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 22:23     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
Anonymous wrote:Simmer down, Gladys.
Your daughter isn't upset. So stop creating a problem where there is none.


Plus 1
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 22:21     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
My mom once forgot my dad's birthday. People forget stuff, especially older people.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 22:20     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It pisses me off that my mil makes a big to do about my husband's birthday/her son's but barely acknowledges the birthdays of our kids/her grandkids. Like hello I'm pretty sure our 8 year old is going to be more into their birthday and it's a bigger deal for a young child to have their birthday celebrated than a grown adult. Like how do you care more about your son's birthday than your own grandchild?? When the grandchild is still a child. Last I checked birthday parties and gifts and excitement around birthdays is a bigger thing and more important for children.


This one is so silly it made me laugh out loud.


How is it silly? Most people value their grandkids. Plus aren't kids birthdays more important than adults.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 22:15     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
Anonymous wrote:My parents play favorites with grandchildren too. At this point, I just think it’s sad for them that they aren’t close to my kids. Fortunately my kids get plenty of love and support elsewhere, so I’ve mostly been able to let it go.


Same. My kids have never gotten a birthday card, gift or Christmas gift from my inlaws. It's so strange to me, but my kids don't expect it now they are teens.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 22:15     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
Anonymous wrote:It pisses me off that my mil makes a big to do about my husband's birthday/her son's but barely acknowledges the birthdays of our kids/her grandkids. Like hello I'm pretty sure our 8 year old is going to be more into their birthday and it's a bigger deal for a young child to have their birthday celebrated than a grown adult. Like how do you care more about your son's birthday than your own grandchild?? When the grandchild is still a child. Last I checked birthday parties and gifts and excitement around birthdays is a bigger thing and more important for children.


This one is so silly it made me laugh out loud.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 22:09     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
It pisses me off that my mil makes a big to do about my husband's birthday/her son's but barely acknowledges the birthdays of our kids/her grandkids. Like hello I'm pretty sure our 8 year old is going to be more into their birthday and it's a bigger deal for a young child to have their birthday celebrated than a grown adult. Like how do you care more about your son's birthday than your own grandchild?? When the grandchild is still a child. Last I checked birthday parties and gifts and excitement around birthdays is a bigger thing and more important for children.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 21:58     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
Anonymous wrote:I barely remember my own birthday at this point.


+1

Try to give people the benefit of the doubt and you and they will be happier…
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 21:50     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
MIL routinely forgot my kids' birthdays. We were supposed to think "oh that's just Grandma!" But if we didn't call on her birthday she cried.

Your dd didn't seem to notice leave it at that.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 21:49     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
My parents have a wonderful relationship with all their grandchildren and seldom remember anyone’s birthday.
Anonymous
Post 10/12/2023 21:48     Subject: MIL literally forgot grandchild's birthday
You need some perspective, OP. These are not problems nor anything to get worked up about.