Anonymous
10/11/2023 21:38
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:whatever you do, don't place this responsibility on a teacher.
I'm a teacher, and I've had this conversation with kids. It's hard.
But I can not figure out how OP thinks the teacher hasn't noticed. So, either the teacher doesn't want to intervene, or the teacher has tried and it didn't work.
“ Hey Teach! Does Larla know she stinks? How can we address this?”
Anonymous
10/11/2023 21:22
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Anonymous wrote:whatever you do, don't place this responsibility on a teacher.
I'm a teacher, and I've had this conversation with kids. It's hard.
But I can not figure out how OP thinks the teacher hasn't noticed. So, either the teacher doesn't want to intervene, or the teacher has tried and it didn't work.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 21:18
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
This why I’m the meanest mom in your friend group.
I’ve been telling all the kids that they are germ ridden stink factories since they were 4!
I will be telling them they are all sticky and stinky and handing out deodorant as soon as I get a whiff.
Someone’s gotta do it.
I also tell them to:
“Stop being irritating”
And “when are you guys gonna know enough enough math to do my taxes?”
Also: “ stop being so short, I need you reach stuff for me”
and “ you look like a bunch of raccoons tumbling out of a garbage can” after school
And they like it! Little weirdos
I’ve been telling all the kids that they are germ ridden stink factories since they were 4!
I will be telling them they are all sticky and stinky and handing out deodorant as soon as I get a whiff.
Someone’s gotta do it.
I also tell them to:
“Stop being irritating”
And “when are you guys gonna know enough enough math to do my taxes?”
Also: “ stop being so short, I need you reach stuff for me”
and “ you look like a bunch of raccoons tumbling out of a garbage can” after school
And they like it! Little weirdos
Anonymous
10/11/2023 21:17
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Anonymous wrote:Maybe say to BOTH girls, when they get into the car, "Okay, girls. Car rules -- everybody knows that teens smell when they hit puberty, so everybody has to wear deodorant," and hand them each their own stick. That way, you are not singling one girl out.
No - that would be embarrassing for both of them. Buy a basket for each - add in some other stuff and a couple different deodorants. Or have bags from CVS - say you were there and picked them both up some things that you know teens need. Or have the decency to pull the girl aside and be honest and give her deodorant. Do not make an announcement in the car.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 21:10
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Anonymous wrote:Some parents don't say anything. No one said anything to me about the need for deodorant. I showered every day but just stink and didn't know why through 5th grade.
In school kids would make fun of me and talk about me. I once spent the weekend at a friend's house and the mom told us all to shower. At the end of the weekend one of my friends older sisters gave me a stick of deodorant because it was me. Some parents are in denial of how bad their kids smell or their kids needs for deodorant.
Next time you take her in the car, blame the smell on your daughter and pass both kids antiseptic wipes or spray and a stick of deodorant. Ask them both to use it. Let her keep the stick ad say "girls remember to use deodorant daily". If she gets in your car stinky again that is on her and i would stop carpooling her.
One update....
I'd say "remember to use deodorant daily after your shower."
Deodorant over bad odor reeks.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 21:08
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Some parents don't say anything. No one said anything to me about the need for deodorant. I showered every day but just stink and didn't know why through 5th grade.
In school kids would make fun of me and talk about me. I once spent the weekend at a friend's house and the mom told us all to shower. At the end of the weekend one of my friends older sisters gave me a stick of deodorant because it was me. Some parents are in denial of how bad their kids smell or their kids needs for deodorant.
Next time you take her in the car, blame the smell on your daughter and pass both kids antiseptic wipes or spray and a stick of deodorant. Ask them both to use it. Let her keep the stick ad say "girls remember to use deodorant daily". If she gets in your car stinky again that is on her and i would stop carpooling her.
In school kids would make fun of me and talk about me. I once spent the weekend at a friend's house and the mom told us all to shower. At the end of the weekend one of my friends older sisters gave me a stick of deodorant because it was me. Some parents are in denial of how bad their kids smell or their kids needs for deodorant.
Next time you take her in the car, blame the smell on your daughter and pass both kids antiseptic wipes or spray and a stick of deodorant. Ask them both to use it. Let her keep the stick ad say "girls remember to use deodorant daily". If she gets in your car stinky again that is on her and i would stop carpooling her.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 21:01
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Anonymous wrote:Maybe say to BOTH girls, when they get into the car, "Okay, girls. Car rules -- everybody knows that teens smell when they hit puberty, so everybody has to wear deodorant," and hand them each their own stick. That way, you are not singling one girl out.
I agree with this direct approach but don't make it a "car rule" as she may not realize it is for everyday. Maybe a little more gentle, as in it is proactive (don't want you to smell) than reactive (you stink now). "Hey girls, I went to the drugstore and picked up a deodorant for each of you.You will want to start using it now. I bought several so let me know when you run out."
Anonymous
10/11/2023 20:56
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Bath and Body Works is your friend. Give her a gift.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 20:48
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Anonymous wrote:Maybe say to BOTH girls, when they get into the car, "Okay, girls. Car rules -- everybody knows that teens smell when they hit puberty, so everybody has to wear deodorant," and hand them each their own stick. That way, you are not singling one girl out.
No, don't penalize OP's daughter.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 20:46
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Anonymous wrote:Maybe say to BOTH girls, when they get into the car, "Okay, girls. Car rules -- everybody knows that teens smell when they hit puberty, so everybody has to wear deodorant," and hand them each their own stick. That way, you are not singling one girl out.
No, don't do this.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 20:38
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Maybe say to BOTH girls, when they get into the car, "Okay, girls. Car rules -- everybody knows that teens smell when they hit puberty, so everybody has to wear deodorant," and hand them each their own stick. That way, you are not singling one girl out.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 20:35
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Anonymous wrote:Lots of teens smell and many of them don’t care - especially if she is on the spectrum or has other challenges, but even if she does not.
My guess is her mom knows and has talked to her about it and she chooses not to care. I
Don’t ostracize her for it. There are worse things in life.
OP telling her about it may be the nudge she needs.
OP, can you kindly ask her about it? Agree with those who say you might need to ask about several things - deodorant, washing clothes, showering, etc.
I had a high school classmate who stunk for years. One day he came to school as fresh as a daisy and we were all flabbergasted. Turns out he wasn’t washing his clothes. He ignored everyone who told him he was funky because he knew he was showering every day - but putting on dirty clothes. So there might be several issues at play here.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 20:25
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Lots of teens smell and many of them don’t care - especially if she is on the spectrum or has other challenges, but even if she does not.
My guess is her mom knows and has talked to her about it and she chooses not to care.
Don’t ostracize her for it. There are worse things in life.
My guess is her mom knows and has talked to her about it and she chooses not to care.
Don’t ostracize her for it. There are worse things in life.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 20:24
Subject: Re:DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Anonymous wrote:BO in a car does linger.
Yep, there was a whole Seinfeld episode about it.
https://youtu.be/IPEBgdGv2Tg?si=9G85hTU1p_HpA1LM
Anonymous
10/11/2023 20:20
Subject: DD’s friend with bad underarm odor
Anonymous wrote:Has your daughter mentioned it? If she’s aware you could maybe talk about a great smelling deodorant you got a three pack of and give one to the girl as an “extra”?
^^^^^^