I have a friend who is very attractive. She gets a lot of male attention and once dated a professional athlete. However, she’s very demanding in relationships and kind of crazy, in general and extra-crazy w/ men, so she tends to have very toxic relationships and has never been married, though she’d like to be. She’s 40.

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Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

NP I modeled so I kind of know. I don't generally respond to questions like this because what is there to really say.

Same here.

I never modeled but all the women in my family are beautiful: my mom, my aunts, my dad’s sister, etc. Old pictures of my mom look like Jackie Onasis. She was 5’10, olive skinned and still beautiful even in the later stages of her life.

Growing up I was always in sports. I ran cross country and eventually went to college on a track scholarship. I’ve had a life-long love of staying fit and am blessed with a small waist and big booty (from all of the sports).

I never had any issues finding people to date. What made it easier is that I’m very driven and have built a great career. My criteria didn’t necessarily have to include someone to support a family because I could do it myself. I married a guy I’m attracted to who is funny and I have lots of chemistry with. We’ve been married 20 years and I feel very lucky.

I think being fit give a woman alot of options in the dating world. Its like was mentioned above - you just have to have a good picker.

Hip to waist ratio is supposed to be a big deal as far as attraction goes. It sounds like you have that working in your favor.

On a scale of 1-10 I think I’m a 6 or a 7 on a good day. So, attractive but far from gorgeous. But, I’m very outgoing, very curious about people and I believe I’m a good listener. My dating life was always very good (now married) because of those aspects and not really because of my looks. My husband is a solid 9 and when I met him his girlfriend was a 10 but he broke up with her because other than her beauty she didn’t have much to offer.

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Anonymous wrote:I've observed that gorgeous women often end up with gorgeous men -- and most gorgeous men cheat, because they can. There's more stability in a relationship between two 4's, in my observation.

But then I wonder, yeah but do those two 4's actually still have the hots for each other now that the new relationship energy has worn off? So more stable, maybe, but also more dead bedrooms?

Shrug. I'm a divorced 7.

The two 9s don’t have the hots for each other after 10 years either, for the most part.

So true 9s and 10s also often congregate in professions and circles that are...not good for marriage. I'm not saying all 9s and 10s are in Hollywood and like Brangelina or Gisele and Tom Brady, but a lot of them have jobs like certain types of sales, entertainment outside of acting, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

NP I modeled so I kind of know. I don't generally respond to questions like this because what is there to really say.

Maybe you are old but model nowadays are not that attractive.

Yep, all one has to do is look at the victoria's secret ads. Beautiful models from the 90's and early 2000's replaced by something that stepped out of a fat camp.

What the f**k? I can't imagine being so hung up on ... whatever it is you're hung up on ... that you'd feel compelled to post this kind of digression. "Fat camp?" You sound miserable.

I don't know if I'm 7 or 10, but in my mid 40s I'm often told on dating app that my pictures are not real. One guy was stalking me on all dating sites, reporting me for "fake" profile. When I have a real life date, men tell I'm even better in person. Also, often get hit by much younger men who think I'm 30. What differs me from other women experience is that men are trying really hard to impress in early stages of dating: offer helicopter rides, expensive dinners, taking me out for shows, ask to accompany them on business trips to be together over the weekend. It's also wealthier, more confident men who go after me. For example, right now a 28 y.o. ( IT startup founder, IVY grad, lives in LA, travels all over the world) is trying to get me to date him. He says I'm the most stunning woman he ever met, and calls/texts all the time that we are a great match and should date. Another story was a man closing a designer boutique shop for me to pick a dress for an evening together and paying for it (on date 4). I have many crazy dating courting stories like that.

Despite the above, it's not easier for me to find a high quality man who is not superficial, who likes to talk to me, and to listen, and would be a real companion. Men like to use me as expensive looking escort while I'm just a normal DC mom with her own problems, childcare tasks etc. I think it's hard for attractive woman to find someone who likes you for who you really are, not for the looks. I did like couple guys who were school teachers or fed lawyers but they were to shy going after and "expensive" woman. That's a bummer.

As a dad to three daughters I will tell you harder to date the more beautiful you are.

All three of my daughters are beautiful but my shy and quiet and insecure daughter is absolutely movie star good looking.

So many men hit on her. But not the men she wants. She is not really focused on looks 100 percent but a nice average looking guy with a fantastic personality and great job often won’t go over and in his head she is out of his league.

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Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

NP I modeled so I kind of know. I don't generally respond to questions like this because what is there to really say.

Same here.

I never modeled but all the women in my family are beautiful: my mom, my aunts, my dad’s sister, etc. Old pictures of my mom look like Jackie Onasis. She was 5’10, olive skinned and still beautiful even in the later stages of her life.

Growing up I was always in sports. I ran cross country and eventually went to college on a track scholarship. I’ve had a life-long love of staying fit and am blessed with a small waist and big booty (from all of the sports).

I never had any issues finding people to date. What made it easier is that I’m very driven and have built a great career. My criteria didn’t necessarily have to include someone to support a family because I could do it myself. I married a guy I’m attracted to who is funny and I have lots of chemistry with. We’ve been married 20 years and I feel very lucky.

I think being fit give a woman alot of options in the dating world. Its like was mentioned above - you just have to have a good picker.

Most people do not consider Jackie very attractive. She is good looking, the kind of good looking that most tall women can achieve with diet, exercise and a good skin care regimen.

She is not very attractive.

DP. That's your personal opinion. And you don't speak for most people.

I think she does, though. Jackie O does not have beautiful features. I could never ever understand why people said she was pretty. Maybe they are all talking about her personality.

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Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

NP I modeled so I kind of know. I don't generally respond to questions like this because what is there to really say.

Same here.

I never modeled but all the women in my family are beautiful: my mom, my aunts, my dad’s sister, etc. Old pictures of my mom look like Jackie Onasis. She was 5’10, olive skinned and still beautiful even in the later stages of her life.

Growing up I was always in sports. I ran cross country and eventually went to college on a track scholarship. I’ve had a life-long love of staying fit and am blessed with a small waist and big booty (from all of the sports).

I never had any issues finding people to date. What made it easier is that I’m very driven and have built a great career. My criteria didn’t necessarily have to include someone to support a family because I could do it myself. I married a guy I’m attracted to who is funny and I have lots of chemistry with. We’ve been married 20 years and I feel very lucky.

I think being fit give a woman alot of options in the dating world. Its like was mentioned above - you just have to have a good picker.

Most people do not consider Jackie very attractive. She is good looking, the kind of good looking that most tall women can achieve with diet, exercise and a good skin care regimen.

She is not very attractive.

DP. That's your personal opinion. And you don't speak for most people.

The very attractive women I know are married to jerks. They had too many options and found it difficult to pick the right one. And some of these jerks did everything right until they got married.

Average women( 6, 7, 8s) who take care of themselves have a better chance of finding good romantic relationships than very attractive women do(9, 10s). Average women don't have to do too much to weed out the wrong men, because most men who don't really care would jump quickly to the next average woman since there are many more average women than there are very attractive women.

The exceptional looking woman is surrounded by men who cannot easily drop her because men know these women is few ( numbers game). So men hide their true self longer, and are more likely to pretend until they marry these women.

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Anonymous wrote:Wondering how dating life compares for those who are very attractive vs those of us who are average. Have you found it harder or easier to find a long term partner? Any disadvantages to being very attractive?

Advantage is that it is easy to find a man because men come up to me all the time. The downside is that men come up to me all time.

Where do they come up to you? DC women aren't the best dressers. Most of them lack makeup or good fashion sense and look like moms.

No. They aren't dolls or hookers, they don't need to be dolled up and attracting attention all the time. They prefer to relax and live their life without focusing it on superficial wrappers.

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Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

NP I modeled so I kind of know. I don't generally respond to questions like this because what is there to really say.

Same here.

I never modeled but all the women in my family are beautiful: my mom, my aunts, my dad’s sister, etc. Old pictures of my mom look like Jackie Onasis. She was 5’10, olive skinned and still beautiful even in the later stages of her life.

Growing up I was always in sports. I ran cross country and eventually went to college on a track scholarship. I’ve had a life-long love of staying fit and am blessed with a small waist and big booty (from all of the sports).

I never had any issues finding people to date. What made it easier is that I’m very driven and have built a great career. My criteria didn’t necessarily have to include someone to support a family because I could do it myself. I married a guy I’m attracted to who is funny and I have lots of chemistry with. We’ve been married 20 years and I feel very lucky.

I think being fit give a woman alot of options in the dating world. Its like was mentioned above - you just have to have a good picker.

Most people do not consider Jackie very attractive. She is good looking, the kind of good looking that most tall women can achieve with diet, exercise and a good skin care regimen.

She is not very attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

NP I modeled so I kind of know. I don't generally respond to questions like this because what is there to really say.

Same here.

I never modeled but all the women in my family are beautiful: my mom, my aunts, my dad’s sister, etc. Old pictures of my mom look like Jackie Onasis. She was 5’10, olive skinned and still beautiful even in the later stages of her life.

Growing up I was always in sports. I ran cross country and eventually went to college on a track scholarship. I’ve had a life-long love of staying fit and am blessed with a small waist and big booty (from all of the sports).

I never had any issues finding people to date. What made it easier is that I’m very driven and have built a great career. My criteria didn’t necessarily have to include someone to support a family because I could do it myself. I married a guy I’m attracted to who is funny and I have lots of chemistry with. We’ve been married 20 years and I feel very lucky.

I think being fit give a woman alot of options in the dating world. Its like was mentioned above - you just have to have a good picker.

PP above— “negging” not “begging”

What others have said about more choice is accurate. I also experienced a higher level of men over-interpreting good manners and collegiality than some of my peers. What helped was being the younger sister, and knowing what to expect from my older sister, and my parents being very serious about instilling a sense of what is important in a partner. Happily married for over a decade.

And I don’t understand the begging here.