Anonymous wrote:Calling the baby by its name before birth is cringey. And gender reveal parties are tacky AF.

It's very teen mom.

Calling the baby by its name before birth is cringey. And gender reveal parties are tacky AF.

We aren’t sharing. I don’t want anyone’s opinions.

Anonymous wrote:I highly recommend not finding out the sex and not telling anyone the potential names. It makes the birth an actual big deal.

A new human is already big deal. There's no need to manufacture drama to make it an "actual big deal."

People should find out gender and announce names whenever they feel comfortable.

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s weird when people tell everyone the name and plaster it all over everything before the baby is born.

+1

Not weird as in abnormally uncommon, but difficult to understand on an emotional level.

It seems like bad luck to share the name. We also didn't find out the sex with any of our 3 children. So much of life is planned out- enjoy the few surprises you get!

I actually really don't like it when couples share the names. It seems anticlimactic when the baby is born.

I felt like the names we wanted were special and I didn't want that ruined by other people's opinions on them. My mom in particular is very critical.

Anonymous wrote:I am in the don't share camp. It's one of those things that nothing good can come from it. IMO.

My brother made me tell me parents my firstborn's name. They had no reaction, which I did not like. I wish I hadn't told any of them.

Then, my brother and his wife have their kids- and never reveal their names to any of us. Annnnd that basically tells you how I feel about them.

What a messed up and immature reaction. You say yourself it was a mistake then you’re mad he learned a lesson from your experience?

Not sharing has become the rule rather than the exception in my millennial social circle. I think it reflects the craving for privacy we have after losing so much of it to social media.

I am in the don't share camp. It's one of those things that nothing good can come from it. IMO.

My brother made me tell me parents my firstborn's name. They had no reaction, which I did not like. I wish I hadn't told any of them.

Then, my brother and his wife have their kids- and never reveal their names to any of us. Annnnd that basically tells you how I feel about them.

Anonymous wrote:It was already a hard enough decision for the 2 of us...we didn't need anyone else's input. If they didn't like the name. If they didn't like who we decided to name in memory of.

We didn't even find out the sex ourselves, so we had 2 names on standby, and we never thought of it as Baby Larla or whatever before birth. It wasn't their name until they were born.

We did the same. I didn't really care what anyone else thought, frankly.

Just look at the criticism on dcum for anyone asking for opinions on a name. Keep it to yourself until the baby is born and you've processed the birth certificate forms at the hospital.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we didn't share and told everyone we hadn't decided.
1) we have high drama family and didn't need the stress
2) the pregnancy was high risk and we held our breath through the whole of it. Didn't want to share.

Best decision we ever made.

Wow, seriously? Weird.

Well, thanks for sharing your verbal burp to this thread.

Yeah, the best decision. Did you not read my post? No one needs the added stress when you have even one crazy family member.

Yes - because good chance people will comment on it negatively before the baby is born. Most will not after the baby is actually born. It's also nice to have a surprise, when everyone already knows the gender.

It felt like bad luck to share it before she was born, though we’re not religious.

Also it’s true that we didn’t want opinions.