Anonymous wrote:No absolutely not.

+1

I barely want them there when the parents are home, so yeah this would be a hard no.

No absolutely not.

No
Not knowingly

No way.

It feels so weird to me. Maybe because with activities, meeting up somewhere etc, the kids don’t have friends over to the house that often.

But when I was 11+ i hung out at friends’ houses and they hung out at mine very regularly without parents home. They all worked and we were on our own. We probably did a few things our parents wouldn’t have liked but nothing crazy. Walked around outside to meet up with other friends and age appropriate boys, ate too much junk food, that’s probably it. We mostly watched soaps and MTV.

I guess I would be fine with it if I knew the girl and parents (and trusted my own kid of course).

It’s a matter of trust. If I trust the other kids, yes. If I don’t know them well enough to judge, no.

At that age, no. And I didn't allow my kids to have friends over if we were not there at that age. They could stay home alone at that age but not with other kids there. I don't want to be liable for something a kid decides to do in my home when I am not there. Too risky.

They are now 13 and 15 and I still highly prefer that an adult is there when their friends are over. There is a very small number of friends that are allowed over when we are not at home because I trust those kids and their parents. But it's a very small number.

My 14 year old DD can hang out at home alone with her best friend who is 15. They have also hung out alone with her BFs sister who is 12. This is always going to be dependent on the kids.

Do not have friends over your house without Parents permission /supervision

Anonymous wrote:I have 12 and 14 yo kids. My 12yo has friends over all the time. All of the kids have siblings. I used to tell parents that I have to drive my other kid to sports or reason why I will be out of the house for part of the time. I no longer do that.

I only allow kids at my house with my kid whose parents I have known for years and I know the kids are the well behaved responsible ones. Both my kids have friends I don’t want over whether parents are here or not. Larla who lives down the street? Fine. Best friend? Fine.

+1 my kids are the same ages, and we handle the same.

If the kids do want to invite newer friends over, a parent needs to be home.

I have 12 and 14 yo kids. My 12yo has friends over all the time. All of the kids have siblings. I used to tell parents that I have to drive my other kid to sports or reason why I will be out of the house for part of the time. I no longer do that.

I only allow kids at my house with my kid whose parents I have known for years and I know the kids are the well behaved responsible ones. Both my kids have friends I don’t want over whether parents are here or not. Larla who lives down the street? Fine. Best friend? Fine.