Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 15:52     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Anonymous wrote:We didn’t do a registry because we wanted cash. We lived in a 750 sq ft apartment and were saving for a downpayment (which is probably the situation most young couples are in these days).

The people who were really anti-cash gave us stuff we mostly took straight to a thrift store. Please don’t do that. The only thing we kept that was actually useful was a nice set of knives.


It is the height of rudeness to tell someone what to give as a gift. For someone like you I would have sent $100.00 in pennies in a large container of honey.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 15:50     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We didn’t do a registry because we wanted cash. We lived in a 750 sq ft apartment and were saving for a downpayment (which is probably the situation most young couples are in these days).

The people who were really anti-cash gave us stuff we mostly took straight to a thrift store. Please don’t do that. The only thing we kept that was actually useful was a nice set of knives.


Your guests should not be expected to help you buy a house! You invite family and Friends to your wedding because you want them to share in you joy and happiness not to fleece them.


How is it fleecing them? Would you really rather give me some spoons that I’ll likely outgrow before moving into a more permanent larger home?
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 15:49     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Anonymous wrote:Lots of cultures expect checks/cash as gifts. Are they Italian, Jewish, Asian? Cash or a check

Have you been to an Italian wedding? The bride has a special purse for people to drop in cash money gifts. I mean, it’s expected.

Stop being uptight WASPs.


The bride dancing around begging for money is reminiscent of Droit du seigneur!
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 15:45     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Anonymous wrote:We didn’t do a registry because we wanted cash. We lived in a 750 sq ft apartment and were saving for a downpayment (which is probably the situation most young couples are in these days).

The people who were really anti-cash gave us stuff we mostly took straight to a thrift store. Please don’t do that. The only thing we kept that was actually useful was a nice set of knives.


Your guests should not be expected to help you buy a house! You invite family and Friends to your wedding because you want them to share in you joy and happiness not to fleece them.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 14:35     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Couples can have all kinds of reasons for not doing a gift registry. Front Desk at DD's apartment was turning away deliveries. Too many residents, ordering too much, too many boxes arriving.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 13:33     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Anonymous wrote:We didn’t do a registry because we wanted cash. We lived in a 750 sq ft apartment and were saving for a downpayment (which is probably the situation most young couples are in these days).

The people who were really anti-cash gave us stuff we mostly took straight to a thrift store. Please don’t do that. The only thing we kept that was actually useful was a nice set of knives.


Did you have a wedding? How much did it cost?
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 12:52     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

If you insist on an actual gift, purchase from Nordstom’s or Macy’s and be sure to include a gift receipt.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 12:37     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

We didn’t do a registry because we wanted cash. We lived in a 750 sq ft apartment and were saving for a downpayment (which is probably the situation most young couples are in these days).

The people who were really anti-cash gave us stuff we mostly took straight to a thrift store. Please don’t do that. The only thing we kept that was actually useful was a nice set of knives.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 12:25     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What about some decorative items for their apartment?


Usually people gift things from Mikasa and Lenox. They have nice stuff to give as wedding gifts.


My dead mother born in 1950 would like Mikasa and Lenox. Not me. I think of that stuff as for old women.


+1

Don't presumer ot know what a couple wants, if they are not registered. They do not need stuff.


Every couple needs nice looking and expensive things to decorate their home.


Maybe they already have all the decor they want.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2023 00:12     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What about some decorative items for their apartment?


Usually people gift things from Mikasa and Lenox. They have nice stuff to give as wedding gifts.


My dead mother born in 1950 would like Mikasa and Lenox. Not me. I think of that stuff as for old women.


+1

Don't presumer ot know what a couple wants, if they are not registered. They do not need stuff.


Every couple needs nice looking and expensive things to decorate their home.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2023 21:58     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Lots of cultures expect checks/cash as gifts. Are they Italian, Jewish, Asian? Cash or a check

Have you been to an Italian wedding? The bride has a special purse for people to drop in cash money gifts. I mean, it’s expected.

Stop being uptight WASPs.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2023 21:54     Subject: Re:No registry wedding gift help!

PP meant to say the honeymoon fund was via a website that was on their minimal registry.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2023 21:53     Subject: Re:No registry wedding gift help!

I just gave a gift for 'honeymoon fund' at a wedding. So easy. I dont have to worry about a gift card getting lost, they dont want more random stuff, etc. Maybe this used to be a no no but I think its smart.
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2023 19:48     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Unless there are tax implications, you're not gifting, you're giving.

If your husband thinks cash is tacky, would be OK with a gift card to the sort of place people often register? (Williams-Sonoma, Crate & Barrel)?
Anonymous
Post 09/24/2023 19:41     Subject: No registry wedding gift help!

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is the exact situation for gifting cash! What's wrong with that??


It's tacky. They gave no registry precisely because they only want cash gifts.

What’s tacky about giving cash vs some random nonsense that no one wants or needs?