How close do you live? Could you stop by on the weekends?

Anonymous wrote:DCUM you never fail to leave a thread nasty.

Wow. I am glad I’m posting on her behalf.


(And I don’t live close enough to be involved - even weekly & am working so I trying to get ideas)

But really some of you are so rotten. I just wanted ideas.

Thank you to those that offered house share, church and explained how to divide the needs.

Peace!

No one was rotten to you. Stop being so easily offended.

Anonymous wrote:OP here

The sahm is terminal. I met her husband through work years ago. Became close family friends but haven’t lived close by for years.

I do think dad can handle things - I just feel there needs to be “more” hands on deck.
Mom is the emotional rock, maybe a softie.

I get no sub for the mom who raised them but maybe a bridge to hs graduation.

Ah that show “Shrinking” - what s supportive tight friend group. I know my friend (the mom) is the one who organizes anything social. I wonder if they will be forgotten as months pass.

That's a sad situation. Perhaps they should look into getting an aid who does housekeeping and babysitting that can help now. Then they would get to know mom as well. I don't think it has to be a live in. Family may want privacy.

Anonymous wrote:DCUM you never fail to leave a thread nasty.

Wow. I am glad I’m posting on her behalf.


(And I don’t live close enough to be involved - even weekly & am working so I trying to get ideas)

But really some of you are so rotten. I just wanted ideas.

Thank you to those that offered house share, church and explained how to divide the needs.

Peace!

NP.

Honestly, there really is an icky overtone to the thread. It has echoes of that Benjamin Franklin quote about reasons to seek out older women for carnal pleasure, ending "8thly and Lastly They are so grateful!!"

I get that may not be what you mean, OP, and it may not have occurred to you about the framing. But you are specifically looking for someone who is "lonely" and "would appreciate the financial arrangement & boarding." If you offer a good salary and good working conditions, you wouldn't have to specify any conditions on who might be willing to settle for it. You only do that when prospective employees are expected to be grateful for what they can get, or at minimum, willing to access less because they have so little and no negotiating power.

That's the whiff of icky that is triggering the responses you don't like, I think.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here

The sahm is terminal. I met her husband through work years ago. Became close family friends but haven’t lived close by for years.

I do think dad can handle things - I just feel there needs to be “more” hands on deck.
Mom is the emotional rock, maybe a softie.

I get no sub for the mom who raised them but maybe a bridge to hs graduation.

Ah that show “Shrinking” - what s supportive tight friend group. I know my friend (the mom) is the one who organizes anything social. I wonder if they will be forgotten as months pass.

What in the world??!! Who asked you to stick your nose in and put on your thinking cap to show you know to "fix" this family? How arrogant!

Right? So this isn't even your family, OP?

What?! NP here. OP, this is not your family? And the man’s spouse has not even passed away yet? And you are trying to solve this situation for them, without their input or consent? I think you mean well, but you are WAY overstepping and it’s not even clear if this family would prefer such an arrangement.

PP. I just read that his wife requested your help. I think a regular housekeeper would make the most sense.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here

The sahm is terminal. I met her husband through work years ago. Became close family friends but haven’t lived close by for years.

I do think dad can handle things - I just feel there needs to be “more” hands on deck.
Mom is the emotional rock, maybe a softie.

I get no sub for the mom who raised them but maybe a bridge to hs graduation.

Ah that show “Shrinking” - what s supportive tight friend group. I know my friend (the mom) is the one who organizes anything social. I wonder if they will be forgotten as months pass.

What in the world??!! Who asked you to stick your nose in and put on your thinking cap to show you know to "fix" this family? How arrogant!

Right? So this isn't even your family, OP?

What?! NP here. OP, this is not your family? And the man’s spouse has not even passed away yet? And you are trying to solve this situation for them, without their input or consent? I think you mean well, but you are WAY overstepping and it’s not even clear if this family would prefer such an arrangement.

DCUM you never fail to leave a thread nasty.

Wow. I am glad I’m posting on her behalf.


(And I don’t live close enough to be involved - even weekly & am working so I trying to get ideas)

But really some of you are so rotten. I just wanted ideas.

Thank you to those that offered house share, church and explained how to divide the needs.

Peace!

Anonymous wrote:Troll. First OP said the single parent is recently widowed and now the mom has terminal cancer.

I'm not the OP (I'm a pp that said I'm a late 40's SAHM to a high school senior.)

I don't think the OP ever said that the parent was widowed yet. Are you talking about their post at 7:50? They are expecting that the parent will soon be widowed, so they were looking for someone to help a widowed parent.

That being said, there is something oddly familiar about the OP's writing style. The post at 11: 10 kind of reminds me of "Job 1, job 2" guy's writing style.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here

The sahm is terminal. I met her husband through work years ago. Became close family friends but haven’t lived close by for years.

I do think dad can handle things - I just feel there needs to be “more” hands on deck.
Mom is the emotional rock, maybe a softie.

I get no sub for the mom who raised them but maybe a bridge to hs graduation.

Ah that show “Shrinking” - what s supportive tight friend group. I know my friend (the mom) is the one who in organizes anything social. I wonder if they will be forgotten as months pass.

What in the world??!! [b]Who asked you to stick your nose in and put on your thinking cap to show you know to "fix" this family? How arrogant!

His wife.

She’s like some structure for her children. No family available to help out

So she is hoping to meet some potentials

You need to take a step back. This woman is being super unrealistic.

Why don't you help out this family and offer the support you feel they need?